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AIBU to object to sleeping on the sofa at 20 weeks?

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PrincessNads05 · 20/08/2026 00:43

I am currently 20 weeks pregnant. My DH and I live in a 2 bedroom apartment, and plan to have some relatives stay over for one night. They’re a family of four with two children aged 10 and 15. I’m happy to have to them stay over, and we’ve been making arrangements to make them feel at home. Initially, we had decided to sleep in the guest bedroom (which is a little smaller) and ask the guests to stay the night in the master bedroom, which sounded like a good plan. Our couch is big enough to sleep one person comfortably, and we’ve also got a floor mattress to use in the living room. I was under the assumption that the visiting couple would stay in the master bedroom and the kids would take the living room, while we sleep in the guest room. AIBU for getting annoyed at the suggestion of my husband that we offer the guest room to the kids, and that I sleep on the couch if they agree? At 20 weeks pregnant, I’ve already started developing discomfort when sleeping and I’m just irked by the idea of my husband not considering my comfort over that of the guests. I don’t want them to feel uncomfortable, but does that mean I put my comfort aside? I don’t know if I’m wrong, but I need an outsider’s perspective. It is just one night, and I may be blowing things out of proportion. I haven’t voiced my concerns to my husband, because I don’t want to seem rude but it’s just internalised annoyance at the moment.

OP posts:
TheStepboardisfullofbitteroddos · 20/08/2026 00:48

Tbh I'd be expecting the guests to bunk in one room. With 1 or 2 on an airbed on the floor. Kids in the living room is hard as that means they're up until adults want to go to bed.
SSo2nd choice would be potentially kids in guest room. Adult guests in the living room.
Pregnant homeowner definitely gets a bed- your choice which one!

Often at 20weeks bumps are small and that can mean other people, especially men don't understand the physical strain you already feel.

StuntNun · 20/08/2026 00:48

I would be ashamed to make a pregnant woman sleep on the sofa and take her bed! I would put the guests in the guest room and the kids in the living room.

Ponderingwindow · 20/08/2026 00:47

You should not give up your bed. Guests in the guest room. Children in the living room.

raysofhope · 20/08/2026 00:46

I think your husband is coming from a place of generosity, but no totally not unreasonable of you to want the proper bed. Kids in the living room sounds completely reasonable to me.

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