AIBU to object to sleeping on the sofa at 20 weeks?

My parents used to give up their bed to mum's parents, until they got too infirm to go up the stairs and slept on an airbed in the living room instead. But that's because we didn't have a guest room.

You have a guest room. For guests. You keep your bed, the guests go in the guest room, and the two kids sleep in the living room - or if they'd do it (mine would, but I know my kids are unusually flexible about sleeping arrangements) the kids go in the guest room so you can all chat in the evening, and the guests sleep on an airbed in the living room.

I am very much over the idea that you should give up your bed to guests personally - and doubly if pregnant (even if only 20 weeks, so not really that uncomfortable yet)

Is he coming from a place of the kids having space so the adults can stay up later talking?

But even so, no need to even give up your bed. They can figure out between them whether the adults or the kids take the guest room.

All of this. There's no need to give up your own room, you actually have a guest bedroom for this very reason. Why would you need to give up your own bed?

Keep your own bed, guests in spare room, kids in living room.

Only reason not to do that would be if kids air beds would fit on floor in your room and not the spare room, that way living room stays available for adults in the evening.

Giving up your bed for visitors is weird. I get that it seems respectful, but as the visitor it’s weird.

Keep your master bedroom, give the kids the guest bedroom and have the adults in the living room so you can still have an adult evening when the kids have gone to bed.

Unless they’re at the age now where you’ll all go to bed at the same time. Then it doesn’t matter who has the living room vs guest room.

Sleep in your own bedroom! I don’t understand why you’d give up your room for another couple unless the room was so big it could fit in their children in as well, which it clearly isn’t.

As others have said why would you have a guest room if that's not where your guests would sleep?

Also do these relatives actually want to squeeze into your house for the night? Wouldn't they rather have their own beds in a hotel?

I slept on the floor for the 9 months of pregnancy as the movement of my dh in bed used to make me vom (hyperemisis).

Why are you not putting the guests in the GUEST room?! Kids on the sofa is also perfectly normal.

I don't see why this is even a conversation that needs to be had unless there is some backstory that it's DHs family who are demanding/difficult or whatever

Definitely don't give up your room. They're guests... they sleep in the guestroom and in the lounge.

If just let them know in advance - "Hey, as you know we only have one guest room so we've arranged for the kids to bunk in the lounge on the couch and an airbed".

Tbh it's doubtful a 15yo will want to share a physical bed with a 10yo anyway.

Agree. Stay in your room and be comfortable. The visitors can use the guest room and the blow up beds where there is some room -maybe in the lounge or the floor of the guest room if there is room.

You sleep in your own room and your guests have the guest room. Kids in the lounge. If you have to give up your bedroom you’ll be in and out of it all day getting clothes/brush/face cream, etc. I’d never expect someone to give up their bedroom for me, especially not a pregnant woman. Your DH should not be putting other people’s comforts ahead of his own wife’s.

Keep your own room with access to your stuff. I would be really uneasy staying in someone's room, and absolutely not if they were pregnant. Is he expecting you to sleep on the sofa after you've had the baby and his relatives invite themselves round?

I would keep my room amd the guests could arrange themselves in the spare room and on the sofa.

Guests in the guest room, kids in the living room.

Why would you give them your bed? I don't get it. They are a couple, you're a couple? Why move into the guest room yourselves and give them your bed? As a guest I would hate it if my hosts did that, so awkward. And of course the children should have the sofa and airbed! If it's not comfortable enough for the guests they can pay for a hotel!

I probably wouldn’t mind sleeping on a couch at 20 weeks if that made the most sense logistically but I don’t see any reason why you would need to in these circumstances

I'm not even pregnant and I wouldn't be giving up my own bed. The adult guests can take the spare room and the kids can sleep on the sofa and floor. If they don't like it, they don't have to sleep at yours. 'It's only one night' works both ways.

I agree. No reason to give up your room. Your guests must know you have limited space.

Sleep in your own bed, the guest room is for guests tell him to stop being silly , you are pregnant and need your own bed

What’s the point in having a guest room if guests aren’t allowed to use it? They don’t want to sleep in your bed.

You aren't a guest in your own home @PrincessNads05, sleep in your own bed. Kids will be fine on floor and sofa.

Absolutely no to you being on the sofa at 20 weeks pregnant! As I guest, I would never allow my host to do that.

I don't even understand why you're planning to swap to the guest room. Your guests don't seem to have mentioned it. The kids will be fine for one night on blow up mattresses etc.

Guests in a hotel.