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To be fed up with DD19’s lack of job hunting

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Labloverr · 19/08/2026 20:40

DD decided against Uni despite DH and I having concerns. She assured us she would work hard to find a full time job and that she was ‘desperate’ to move out and establish some independence. This was music to our ears as we’d get our house back after 19 years and she would start the next chapter of her life.

The reality has been very different. After a few months of trying to find work, she’s more or less given up and just moans about how hard it is. There’s no sign of her moving out any time soon and I’m beginning to resent this slightly. She has friends who are thriving at Uni and living away, but she’s stuck under our noses here.

Can anyone give me some encouragement that things do get better eventually?!

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Needmorecoffeenow · 19/08/2026 21:00

Ofcourse it does not sound like that! Chill out..
it Will get better - eventually 💐

Stopthattrain · 19/08/2026 20:56

Show her your post - the way you talk about her is horrible and she’ll probably be more motivated to leave. Your comment about getting your house back after 19 years sounds like you’ve resented her existence for her entire life.