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That not all men in the workplace are creeps

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Littleredhen39 · 19/08/2026 13:05

My daughter is doing a summer internship. She was only looking for work experience so had sent out her CV to various places in the industry she is interested in to ask for maybe a day or so of work experience.

She mostly got ‘no’s but the offer speaking to people on their graduate programmes for an insight - all great. She then got an e-mail back from a chap saying they have just opened a new office and there maybe scope to take on a summer internship at relatively short notice. Amazing!

She works very closely with this man / in his 60’s my daughter is 19 and has learned a lot from him and was very excited at the prospect of coming back again next summer for another internship.

Anyway she felt a little uneasy about how much he was singing her praises and spoke to someone on the graduate scheme in the office who told her is a creep. He tried to kiss this graduate and kept sending her messages and then blanked her for a long time after she rejected him. The graduate then mentioned that it’s the same everywhere she no point complaining or leaving. My daughter is now upset that harrassment in the workplace is still a big issue and she doesn’t want to work there and is worried about meeting the same elsewhere. Naively assumed ‘me too’ had sorted this.

I work in a very female dominated industry so not really had issues - but also all work places have a resident creep? I did tell her this chap has not done anything to you and to make sure she keeps her boundaries!

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WhatAMarvelousTune · 19/08/2026 13:26

I’ve worked with a few creepy men, but the vast majority have not been (at least, they’re not been creepy towards me or towards anyone else that I’m aware of).

ETA - the creepy men I worked with were when I worked for a very very small company with a horrible culture, and where they were friends with the boss/owner, so could basically do whatever they wanted.

daisyydaisyy · 19/08/2026 13:19

No man I work with is ever inappropriate. To be honest I’ve been lucky that I’ve never met a creepy man at work since I started working at 16.

edwinbear · 19/08/2026 13:12

I’ve spent 25 years in investment banking, so a lot of men, many of them arrogant arseholes, but no creeps. In this day and age I like to think the vast majority of people understand how to behave in the workplace.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 19/08/2026 13:08

I work in a male dominated industry and we have no creeps. It sounds like your daughter isn’t being sexually harassed though? So unless that changes there is no issue right? Random woman who won’t report anything and thinks everyone is a creep could be the anomaly here, but if not and your DD notices something to worry about she can deal with it then