That not all men in the workplace are creeps

No creeps here, thank god. I've come across one or two back in the 80s when I started working, but times have changed. Where I work now it would be dealt with, pronto.

I work in a male dominated industry and have come across a few creeps. Our policy is clear though, everyone has training and those crossing very clear boundaries will be and have been sacked. Its often come out at Xmas parties when boundaries have been overstepped.

That said we have also dealt with unsubstantiated cases, young women complaining about older men 'creeping them out' when they cant articulate why which can be very damaging to everyone's reputation. In this case the guy has supported your dd and done nothing to her. Maybe the other person is telling the truth, maybe she is envious that your dd is getting on better in the scheme - who knows.

I think the best advice is for dd, and the guy tbf, to not to put themselves in any potentially risky 121 situations. Unless anything has happened to her she needs to stay away from the drama imo

When I started my job (that I'm still in) we had the biggest creep

He liked em young (first job and didn't understand their rights) and we'd warn all new starters about him

I was too old for him (then,I was in my 30's) but suffered quite a bit from his behaviour (he didn't like me)

Unfortunately,he was the main boss and up the arse of the bigger bosses (a real boy's club)

It came to a head when he came on to and made one young girl very uncomfortable

All the females (and a few men) ganged together and made a complaint (which was ignored and we where told not to make a fuss) and then all the men got involved as well and together we kicked up a fuss (which they couldn't ignore)

He was 'let go' (suspended for a year on full pay and then handed in his notice rather than be sacked) and his wife (who still works there) kicked up a real fuss but was ignored-our voices together where too strong

His Facebook status with his simpering goodbye was sickening-he couldn't see what he'd done wrong-his type never will

Didn't make us popular but it needed to be done-all the next bosses after him have been female (and useless)

It's sickening that it still goes on in this day and age

I'm confused? So she went on an internship, learned a load of great stuff from this guy (who as far as I can tell, didn't try anything on with her?) then someone else says something about him, so second hand information and now she doesn't want to go back because he said good things about her?

Ehhhhh......???

What did I miss?

I've probably had 40 jobs in my working life.
I've only ever met one creepy man.
He was suggestive and stood too close.
Initially it was brushed off as different cultural norms.
Andrew was Hungarian.
He was eventually asked to leave due to the number of women and a few other men documenting the behaviour

This could also just be gossip…..

I worked nearly 30 years in male dominated workplaces.

There were lots of sexist attitudes and some remarks that I shouldn't have let go. Lots and lots of extra marital affairs, but IME the young women "exploited" by older men knew what they were doing. It wasn't hard to avoid.

My workplace had one pretty bad creep, he would stand too close or 'accidently' brush past, but that was back in 2003-10, he's long gone now. There's not been a creep since, not to my knowledge, and that's amoung 100s of employees.

I feel pretty confident that if someone like the guy 20 years ago worked here he wouldn't even last a year. My workplace has become far more aware and has harassment training, and the ratio of women to men us now just about equal (in senior and junior positions).

Very rarely do I have to deal with creeps now I am in my 50's

at 17 when I started work and up until my late 20's sadly it was a regular occurrence, I also didn't recognise that some of the behaviour was creepy I naively thought these men were just being friendly (taking me out for lunch/coffee)

I think it is better she is aware that there are many men who are predatory in their behaviour and that she is more likely to come across them than not and that if she feels uncomfortable she can speak to you or someone about this without her actions being judged

Same here. Male-dominated workplaces and never had a creep. And my employment history goes back to the 1980s.

I used to work in a male dominated industry, did so for about 20 years. No creeps, they were all great to work with, so many laughs. I experienced one awful creep when I was volunteering somewhere unfortunately.

But its surely just hearsay from this other woman, if your daughter has not seen any evidence of improper behaviour?

Nothing bad has happened to your DD, it may well be he is pleased with how well she is working out. We don't know what happened between him and the graduate, it wasn't bad enough for her to report it apparently. As other's have said on this thread it is pretty rare these days. You judge people how you find them and it sounds like it's been a really good experience for your DD and she is fore warned if he is a creep, she should just keep her professional boundaries and not give any opportunity for anything untoward, but that is common sense anyway.

I've never personally had any issues with men at work but obviously it does happen.

Has the man in question actually done anything to your DD or made her feel uncomfortable in any way OP? That's the real issue isn't it.

Funny, I was talking to my (80yo) mother about this only yesterday. She was very pretty when young (blond, slim etc). She said there was a lot of sexual harassment, but she also said there were a lot of men who'd defend you. She even recalled one man ("the perfect English gentleman," she called him), who had been a fighter pilot in WW2 (spitfires etc). When she had to go across the road to another office, a man there made advances on her which upset her a lot (she was only 17). She got back to her usual office and this ex-pilot saw her crying. She told him what had happened and he very quietly and gently told her not to worry, disappeared across the road, then came back and said "he'll give you no more trouble my dear," and that was that.

Her general verdict was that men were both worse and better at the same time. On the one hand, you had far more groping and nastiness, but on the other, the ideal of 'the gentleman' still existed, and so did the idea that a man was supposed to defend a woman. Today we've kind of lost both – men don't dare touch a woman unless she gives consent, but neither do they aspire to be 'gentleman' either.

I have worked in three different places and never had any creepy behavior from the men I worked with. The men in my current workplace are absolute gents.

I've only ever worked with one creepy man. He was gay so only creepy towards other men. Other than this, the dozens of other men I have worked with have not been even vaguely creepy.

I am a lone female working as office manager in a large building maintenance company. I come into contact with about 25-40 men daily. In my 12 years here there has been one incidence of creepy behaviour/harassment. He was sacked.

I met my DH at work. He's not a creep.

I worked with two creepy men when I was a teenager (at different jobs), but that was back in the 1980s. Absolutely nothing inappropriate for literal decades now!

My office had one creep. He was fired and reported to the police. He is still being a creep through phone calls but I have to say that the company reacted very quickly to his creepyness. But it was quite bad so no grey area. We do have few creepy women who love to tell sexist misogynistic "jokes" and every conversation includes a sex reference. But they're management so it is what it is

I also work in a male-dominated industry and have done for over 30 years. I've met the odd creep but they walk among us in all areas of life, right? The majority have been absolutely fine.

I've never worked with a man that was a creep. Even when I was a shy teen who would probably be an easy target they were nothing but respectable. I'd suggest that your DD doesn't take what she hears as gospel, people do lie and exaggerate things. It may be true but it equally may not be.