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AIBU to suggest poor public behaviour should affect access to services?

106 replies

Liggety · 19/08/2026 11:01

Following many recent threads about what is and is not permissible in a decent society, can we agree on a list of actions that should exclude you from accessing state services?

To start with:

Using a phone on loudspeaker anywhere outwith your own home.
Wearing PJs outwith your own home.
Playing music - inside or outside - so loudly it can be heard by neighbours.
Cycling on the pavements (cycling is my main mode of transport btw).
Wearing balaclavas outwith the high mountains.
Riding an illegal e-scooter or e-bike.
Having an off-lead dog in public that is not under your full control.
Dropping litter.
Wearing scrunch bum leggings and other revolting clothing in public.
Swearing in public.
Driving without using your indicators.
Men without a top on in public.
Working cash in hand, or paying cash in hand for work done while knowing or suspecting tax may not be accounted for by the service provider.

Some of the above are more tongue in cheek than others by all indicate no grace, style or manners and we need to remove them from our culture.

What are you adding to the list?

OP posts:
Traitorsclaudia · 19/08/2026 11:19

So If I swear in public I can't go to the GP?

Fucks sake.

PurplebudsWhitebuds · 19/08/2026 11:19

OP I was reading through your list and saying " oh I agree" , oh I agree!

The thing that I would add is people sitting in their vehicles with their engines running unnecessarily. And often playing loud music at the same time.
I get this a lot outside my house from my neighbours relatives and visitors. So bad for the environment and the noise is just so irritating.

AgnesX · 19/08/2026 11:17

Hahabonk · 19/08/2026 11:11

Saying ‘outwith’

It's a very Scottish expression (in Glasgow anyway)

Edited to add definitely the one about the balaclava as per the anti immigration and climate change protests in Glasgow.

Boreded · 19/08/2026 11:17

Can we add…Making lists to determine who is too lower class to mix with you in public.

And by the way, I do not put my jeans on to go visit my mum, I am staying in my PJs because I’m comfy thanks.

RocksByThePool · 19/08/2026 11:16

Making lists with an absurd disparity of examples for a vague or apparently comic outcome.
Failure to proofread.

Hahabonk · 19/08/2026 11:11

Saying ‘outwith’