So angry what is wrong with some parents

Indeed. Which is why I think the ire at the other parent is misplaced.

how is it safer for you to walk home from DD's house than for DD to walk there in the first place?

Getting the phone number from DD assumes that DD wanted to give it. Which I suspect she didn't in the circumstances.

I would have walked her home or got the parents number from her and called them. She had a duty of care. Its not hard!

How long does it take to be abducted? I would be really upset.

But nothing stopped the daughter letting er mum know she was coming home.

She couldn't let OP know as she didn't have her contact detalis despite their children having been friends for years (which is what the second half of this thread is mostly about)

I would be annoyed at the mother of the child for not letting you know. She is in charge and has a duty of care to the girls at the sleep over. What a little madam treating your daughter like that - gives me flashbacks to my own teen years and the mean girls. I hope your daughter is alright, what a horrible experience for her.

What age is old enough then? All of my kids had jobs at 16 often finished at 10. They had to walk to bus stop at least. I was working full time, doing a levels in evening classes and had my own place at 17 Should I not have gone home by myself of an evening

Nope never had it through primary either with 3 kids.
And who said I " sent" my kids to their houses?

The comments on here.
My eldest child is 16 and I wouldn’t expect her to be walking around on her own at 10pm. I did, but I did all sorts of fool stuff…

Well they are not random people are they? They are the parents of the friends of your DC. If you've got as far as secondary school you have already had years of "random parents" phoning or texting you about child related things.

Seems a bit odd to not be happy to have a "random person" text or phone you, but be perfectly happy to send your child round to their house.

So you would expect random people to text or phone you?

Do you generally give your number out to all and subdry

When I was a kid there was none of this parents being in touch with each other. Of my two best friends at school Ms mum and my dad never spoke and D's dad only spoke to mine to try and convert his to Christianity ( he was an evangelist)

Text then. Or carrier pigeon? Or even (faints in horror) an actual phone call?

Lol Whatsapp didn't exist when my DD was in year 7

It's dark when school finishes in winter in a lot of places.

10pm is only just after dark at the moment. And it's warm nights - still might be lots of peope about

The important thing is not that it's dark but that the risk of doing something particular has been assessed.

10 minutes though? Would've been 5 if she'd jogged.

So it’s your daughter you should be annoyed at for breaking your rules. Not the other parent who didn’t know your rules.

You have heard half a story. Your dd should have rang you to meet her. She only walked 10 mins and she is home safe.

oh I agree that parenting ideas differ.
I'm just finding it very hypocritical that OP is so up in arms about another parent not stopping (how?) her 14 year old daughter walking 10 minutes home at 10pm (which is only just dark at this time of year and, as you say, something that many parents, including plenty on this thread would have no issue with at all) and yet has been perfectly happily letting her daughter go off with a load of adults she knew nothing about from age 11, which I suspect rather more parents would have problems with.

But at some point she will need to walk around in the dark like all women do. Will you keep her inside until she's 18?

I think if you have someone on messenger and you know they use it, it’s pretty much the same as having their number. You can call them on messenger and it will come through to them like any other phone call.

Yes, OP seems overprotective.

Best never leave the house at all then.

A teenager walking 10 minutes down the road in summer really isn't a big deal.

Well that sounds lovely but also not what everyone does. Like the OP who had not made any sort of effort to exchange info with this other parent in the last 3 years but is surprised she didn’t phone.

I think this is just like any number of parenting choices - one of my son’s friends parents was horrified I hadn’t asked before giving him an ice lolly as they restrict sugar. Hadn’t occurred to me to be anything to ask about. Neither of us are wrong or right - just different. There are plenty of things my kids do that their friends don’t and assumptions have been made both ways that just show how different people can be. I think my daughter’s friends would probably split down the middle about if 10pm for a 10 minute walk is acceptable - I see loads of teenagers out when I go get my daughter from dance so obviously it’s not that crazy.