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So angry what is wrong with some parents

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fumingrightnow1 · 18/08/2026 22:26

My dd14 was supposed to be sleeping at a friend's tonight. They have had an argument and she said let's just leave it and go to sleep her friend told her she had to leave so she's walked home and just come in the door at gone 10pm. I can't believe the mum didn't step in and do anything or let me know and I would've got her. I've said to dd why didn't you call me but she just shrugged and said she was fine walking and didn't want to stand outside waiting for me. Its about a 10 minute walk. I don't let her out on her own at this time of night. As a parent i would have stepped in and can't believe this other mum did nothing.

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CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:20

Communicating with the other mother to find out if she knew your daughter had left and walked home, which would tell you how serious a chat you need to have with your daughter about her behaviour in the future.

Ive messaged her she has chose not to reply to me that is her choice

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fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:19

My child has been home since I wrote the first post. What safety concerns should I be prioritising

Communicating with the other mother to find out if she knew your daughter had left and walked home, which would tell you how serious a chat you need to have with your daughter about her behaviour in the future.

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fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:19

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:17

Yes, you can do that if you want. You don’t have to prioritise MN over sorting out your child’s safety.

My child has been home since I wrote the first post. What safety concerns should I be prioritising

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Worriednanof1 · 19/08/2026 19:18

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But surely if she's not the guilty party she would still feel bad & concerned enough for the child to communicate about what happened?

fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:18

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I'd say well I'm not so why you are in my care you're my responsibility so im taking you home

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fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:16

Sorry didn't know you dictated how often people are allowed to be on mumsnet. Next time I will post once and dissappear, answer no questions and read no responses

Yes, you can do that if you want. You don’t have to prioritise MN over sorting out your child’s safety.

Missingpop · 19/08/2026 19:17

Teenagerantruns · 18/08/2026 22:29

I mean l would assume the mum didn't know she had left..but a 10min walk is fine surley for a 14 year old.

Do you ever read the papers or watch the news? No it’s not safe or fine for a 14yr old to walk home at 10pm in the dark Ffs show some common sense grown women get snatched off the streets raped & murdered; I can only assume you don’t have children or spend your life with your head up your posteria.

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CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:16

Gemilo · 19/08/2026 19:14

Mumsnet doesn't work like that though, does it?

But so what? So what if lots of strangers got annoyed that they didn’t get an update?

fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:16

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:13

Yes. And once you sorted everything out in real life you could have come back on here, told everyone why you had disappeared, and given an update if you wanted to.

Or you could have gone and sorted things out in real life and not come back to update if you didn’t feel like it.

Because MN is not real life.

Sorry didn't know you dictated how often people are allowed to be on mumsnet. Next time I will post once and dissappear, answer no questions and read no responses

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CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:13

Yes. And once you sorted everything out in real life you could have come back on here, told everyone why you had disappeared, and given an update if you wanted to.

Or you could have gone and sorted things out in real life and not come back to update if you didn’t feel like it.

Because MN is not real life.

Mumsnet doesn't work like that though, does it?

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Or she knows she's in the wrong and keeping her head down!

Gemilo · 19/08/2026 19:13

So, according to some posters daughter is old enough at 14 to walk home in a busy city at 10 o'clock at night by herself. But, is not old enough at 14 to go to a sleepover without her parents exchanging phone numbers.

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:13

fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:09

I posted last night when I was angry did you want me to just dissappear and not reply to anyone asking questions

Yes. And once you sorted everything out in real life you could have come back on here, told everyone why you had disappeared, and given an update if you wanted to.

Or you could have gone and sorted things out in real life and not come back to update if you didn’t feel like it.

Because MN is not real life.

fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:13

likelysuspect · 19/08/2026 19:11

more people statistically = more risk

And more witnesses and more people to step in to defend a child

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fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:09

Yes as lots of people about

more people statistically = more risk

fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:09

likelysuspect · 19/08/2026 19:04

Does your daughter walk home from friends at 4pm in winter OP when its dark?

Yes as lots of people about

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fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:09

watermybegonias · 19/08/2026 19:06

I cannot believe that you continue to post about it all on here AND DON’T go round to talk to her!

I actually don’t think you want to speak to her because you might not like what she has to say. You’d rather play the injured party on here.

If you were that concerned about your daughter’s welfare after last night’s events, you would have been round there this morning, taking all your children with you if needs be.

Instead, it’s just moaning on here.

I posted last night when I was angry did you want me to just dissappear and not reply to anyone asking questions

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