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So angry what is wrong with some parents

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fumingrightnow1 · 18/08/2026 22:26

My dd14 was supposed to be sleeping at a friend's tonight. They have had an argument and she said let's just leave it and go to sleep her friend told her she had to leave so she's walked home and just come in the door at gone 10pm. I can't believe the mum didn't step in and do anything or let me know and I would've got her. I've said to dd why didn't you call me but she just shrugged and said she was fine walking and didn't want to stand outside waiting for me. Its about a 10 minute walk. I don't let her out on her own at this time of night. As a parent i would have stepped in and can't believe this other mum did nothing.

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Picpus · 19/08/2026 20:02

I don’t think I’d let her do sleep overs if she’s not going to ring you when needed .

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 19/08/2026 20:02

GentlyGentlyOhDear · 19/08/2026 19:33

Also have a 14 year old DD and totally agree with the above. No way would I let one of my DDs friends walk home at night! And I could imagine my DD possibly doing it without really thinking of the risks or implications too.
And the benefit of high school is that you dont have to have contact with other parents 😂

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I agree, but I was just wondering if having been chucked out at 10 pm and told to go away, and the Mum just ignoring the whole thing, if the DD was actually just desperate to get home as soon as possible. And too upset to think rationally like, I must phone my mum.
It must have been a bit humiliating to be told to get out like that and the adult allowing.. Teenages are mortified and embarrassed at the smallest thing, perhaps she was just really ashamed.

The argument sounded like it was the other teen telling DD that she wasn't to be friends with someone that the other teen didn't like. That sounds quite bossy.

I think OP that its lucky DD has fallen out with this particular friend as she doesn't sound at all nice and her Mum is not as careful about supervision as you would like.

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fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 20:01

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:39

I love this thread.

Why didn’t she contact OP to say the child was walking home??

Did she have OP’s number?

No! Don’t be ridiculous! Why would they swap numbers??

Um. So that she could contact OP to tell her the child was walking home alone?

She could of got dd to come sit down and call me.

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Nousernameideaaga · 19/08/2026 19:43

Sorry you didn’t get a reply from the Mother OP

Thats very crap. Sounds like your daughter would be safer away from this particular friendship now that you know you can’t rely on this particular parent to let you know if there are any problems

Hardware252525252525 · 19/08/2026 19:42

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:34

Ah right. I thought it was to find out why the other mother had let the child walk home at 10pm on her own, not to reassure her that all was well.

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It does both. What would you expect to be achieved by OP turning up at her door?

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:39

I love this thread.

Why didn’t she contact OP to say the child was walking home??

Did she have OP’s number?

No! Don’t be ridiculous! Why would they swap numbers??

Um. So that she could contact OP to tell her the child was walking home alone?

Timeforachange26 · 19/08/2026 19:38

LilyBunch25 · 19/08/2026 19:30

It is if parents were unaware.

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Which is why the daughter should've phones her mum and said she was headed home

Volpini · 19/08/2026 19:37

GentlyGentlyOhDear · 19/08/2026 19:33

Also have a 14 year old DD and totally agree with the above. No way would I let one of my DDs friends walk home at night! And I could imagine my DD possibly doing it without really thinking of the risks or implications too.
And the benefit of high school is that you dont have to have contact with other parents 😂

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not having to deal with other parents is literally the bloody best thing about high school.

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:34

Hardware252525252525 · 19/08/2026 19:31

To highlight that her child was home and no longer in the other woman’s care?

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Ah right. I thought it was to find out why the other mother had let the child walk home at 10pm on her own, not to reassure her that all was well.

GentlyGentlyOhDear · 19/08/2026 19:33

fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:27

Thankyou. I thought i was going insane reading some of these replies.

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Also have a 14 year old DD and totally agree with the above. No way would I let one of my DDs friends walk home at night! And I could imagine my DD possibly doing it without really thinking of the risks or implications too.
And the benefit of high school is that you dont have to have contact with other parents 😂

Volpini · 19/08/2026 19:32

Worriednanof1 · 19/08/2026 19:29

Absolutely not, some people are just strange. Makes me wonder if they really have children of their own!

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just came to post this… this is the most randomly argumentative contrary thread I’ve read in ages which is saying something.
Quite depressing really.

Hardware252525252525 · 19/08/2026 19:31

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:30

Well why bother messaging in the first place then?

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To highlight that her child was home and no longer in the other woman’s care?

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:30

Hardware252525252525 · 19/08/2026 19:29

Don’t be ridiculous. Why would she go round? What would that achieve? Entertainment for you?

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Well why bother messaging in the first place then?

LilyBunch25 · 19/08/2026 19:30

pinkyredrose · 19/08/2026 17:33

Best never leave the house at all then.

A teenager walking 10 minutes down the road in summer really isn't a big deal.

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It is if parents were unaware.

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fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:29

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:26

So are you going to go round and follow it up? Your child’s safety is not her choice is it?

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No why would i its done now. I've spoke to my dd about calling me in this situation and she won't be going to sleep at this girls house again. So nothing more needs to be said

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Worriednanof1 · 19/08/2026 19:29

fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:27

Thankyou. I thought i was going insane reading some of these replies.

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Absolutely not, some people are just strange. Makes me wonder if they really have children of their own!

Hardware252525252525 · 19/08/2026 19:29

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:26

So are you going to go round and follow it up? Your child’s safety is not her choice is it?

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Don’t be ridiculous. Why would she go round? What would that achieve? Entertainment for you?

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fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:27

Hardware252525252525 · 19/08/2026 19:26

This thread is insane. My 14 year old would not be allowed to walk around alone at 10pm and those of you who are allowing it are naive, neglectful or both.

However, you don’t have to meet your 14 year old’s friend’s mothers. That’s for when they are small children.

Thankyou. I thought i was going insane reading some of these replies.

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Volpini · 19/08/2026 19:27

Timeforachange26 · 19/08/2026 18:55

Fair enough. Good luck if her views are different from yours.

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Literally just wrote when it feels right FOR HER. I didn’t write when it feels right for her and me. I’m just glad to provide you with the opportunity to vent the day’s beef on an internet stranger. You’re welcome.
Anyway. I won’t be replying as again as this is derailing from OP’s post and tiresome.

I’d be furious OP, also. My son had a friend over and they rowed badly. Friend wanted to go home. I contacted his parents to check they were at home and took him even though that child was being a tit. (I have no beef with him though. I like him even though on that occasion he was being challenging.)
Even if your child was a nuisance, the parent kind of took that risk on by having her over. We all do when other people’s kid’s come over.
The other parent is a dick. I probably wouldn’t have messaged them though - I’d have been way too mad. But the other child would not be passing my threshold again and my child would NOT ever be going there either. Who needs mates like this?

CalishataFolkart · 19/08/2026 19:26

fumingrightnow1 · 19/08/2026 19:22

Ive messaged her she has chose not to reply to me that is her choice

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So are you going to go round and follow it up? Your child’s safety is not her choice is it?

MarthaLovesLaughing · 19/08/2026 19:26

fumingrightnow1 · 18/08/2026 22:48

She could of got it from my dd

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She COULD have got your telephone number from your daughter but your daughter left rather hurriedly.

I'd make sure that you always have the parents telephone number in future as your daughter can't be trusted to keep you in the loop

Hardware252525252525 · 19/08/2026 19:26

This thread is insane. My 14 year old would not be allowed to walk around alone at 10pm and those of you who are allowing it are naive, neglectful or both.

However, you don’t have to meet your 14 year old’s friend’s mothers. That’s for when they are small children.

Worriednanof1 · 19/08/2026 19:26

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For whatever reason a 14 year old child was out walking late at night in the dark alone. Her friend's Mother should take some responsibility for that while she was supposedly in her care.

Yestoactive · 19/08/2026 19:23

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Melodyyy · 19/08/2026 19:22

fumingrightnow1 · 18/08/2026 22:37

I don't know her well. I've seen her a couple of times. I'm going to see if i can find her on Facebook and message her

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What? Surely you have the mum's phone number? Just call her.