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So angry what is wrong with some parents

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fumingrightnow1 · 18/08/2026 22:26

My dd14 was supposed to be sleeping at a friend's tonight. They have had an argument and she said let's just leave it and go to sleep her friend told her she had to leave so she's walked home and just come in the door at gone 10pm. I can't believe the mum didn't step in and do anything or let me know and I would've got her. I've said to dd why didn't you call me but she just shrugged and said she was fine walking and didn't want to stand outside waiting for me. Its about a 10 minute walk. I don't let her out on her own at this time of night. As a parent i would have stepped in and can't believe this other mum did nothing.

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Nousernameideaaga · 18/08/2026 22:33

fumingrightnow1 · 18/08/2026 22:32

The mum apparently walked in bedroom when friend was shouting at dd to get out and dd was crying and just shouted whats going on and when friend said she wanted dd to leave mum just tutted huffed and walked out. So I assume she heard it all neither girl is calm or quiet.

Oh dear. That does change things a bit then.

Do you know the mum to speak to?

Flamingojune · 18/08/2026 22:32

Postpartum26 · 18/08/2026 22:30

She’s a 14 year old child walking home at 10pm in the dark?

For 10 mins?

fumingrightnow1 · 18/08/2026 22:32

The mum apparently walked in bedroom when friend was shouting at dd to get out and dd was crying and just shouted whats going on and when friend said she wanted dd to leave mum just tutted huffed and walked out. So I assume she heard it all neither girl is calm or quiet.

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Famesick · 18/08/2026 22:32

StressedOutPeanut · 18/08/2026 22:30

I would text the mum and ask why she didn't let you know. What if she was kidnapped? You would of never known she was missing.

And the mum will say…

”I had no idea she had stormed out. Why didn’t she call you? Her mother?”

Famesick · 18/08/2026 22:31

Postpartum26 · 18/08/2026 22:30

She’s a 14 year old child walking home at 10pm in the dark?

So the op needs to explain to her daughter that she shouldn’t be doing that
Her daughter chose not to ring her

StressedOutPeanut · 18/08/2026 22:30

I would text the mum and ask why she didn't let you know. What if she was kidnapped? You would of never known she was missing.

Nousernameideaaga · 18/08/2026 22:30

fumingrightnow1 · 18/08/2026 22:26

My dd14 was supposed to be sleeping at a friend's tonight. They have had an argument and she said let's just leave it and go to sleep her friend told her she had to leave so she's walked home and just come in the door at gone 10pm. I can't believe the mum didn't step in and do anything or let me know and I would've got her. I've said to dd why didn't you call me but she just shrugged and said she was fine walking and didn't want to stand outside waiting for me. Its about a 10 minute walk. I don't let her out on her own at this time of night. As a parent i would have stepped in and can't believe this other mum did nothing.

Yeah this would upset and annoy me too

I bet the other Mum didn’t know though

Postpartum26 · 18/08/2026 22:30

Flamingojune · 18/08/2026 22:29

Its not that late

She’s a 14 year old child walking home at 10pm in the dark?

TheFormerMrsTruelove · 18/08/2026 22:30

If she was even aware that her DD was chucking yours out, then yes, she should have stepped in. On the other hand, your DD knows full well she isn’t allowed out that late. Are you as angry with her as you are with her friend’s mum?

Famesick · 18/08/2026 22:30

Does your daughter not have a phone?
She could have called you, she didn’t

Famesick · 18/08/2026 22:30

The mother likely didn’t know
why didn’t your daughter message you?

Flamingojune · 18/08/2026 22:29

Its not that late

Teenagerantruns · 18/08/2026 22:29

I mean l would assume the mum didn't know she had left..but a 10min walk is fine surley for a 14 year old.

Neveranynamesleft · 18/08/2026 22:28

Did the other mum know your daughter was leaving ? Your daughter could have called you to let you know so maybe you should be annoyed with her too.

Boredonafridaynight · 18/08/2026 22:27

Are your sure the mam is aware she left yet?