So angry what is wrong with some parents

Yes this. I remember when my daughter was this age there was a craze going round where the teens would tell their parents they were having a sleepover at a friend's house and then a group of them would spend all night at a park just messing about. 'All nighters' it was known as.

Now that’s a forgotten memory, so was I !

I was drinking snowballs at the disco when I was 14

In that case maybe. But in general. The post I quoted was what ANY self respecting parent lets a 14 year old walk alone

It’s not really about whether it’s ok for a 14 year old to walk home at that time.
If she hadn’t made it safely home nobody would have been looking for her until the next day.

I would also point out to your daughter that walking down the street at night crying makes her a target. Predators will seek out girls who appear vulnerable. it’s important to know this.

The OP said "She has a car, she doesn't have small children".

And which self respecting parent would leave a pre schooler alone in bed to walk a 14 year old 10 mins home?

Yeah, this is weird. The way it was set up, you trusted your daughter to handle herself in a strange house with people you barely know but is worried about her walking ten minutes at night. And that wouldn't have been an issue if she had called you.

This is unacceptable.
I would never have left her leave alone.
I would have called you or given her another room.

I'm surprised you are so caught up on the walking home at night, without having taken the simple precaution of exchanging numbers, so that a foreseeable event like this would not result in your daughter having to walk home at night in the dark at ten of the clock

Yes, if there weren't even an exchange of numbers and checking with the parent that her child could sleep there why would the parent think she couldn't do a walk at 10pm.

Common sense. Got a source that demonstrates it’s no safer today than in the past?

Exactly 💯 💯

*she could have or "could've". Why do so many people write "could of"? 🤔

Yes I did say everyone, and you pulled me up on it and I changed it to ‘often’. Which is true, they often do!

Off to work now, so need to stop arguing semantics. OP I hope you get it all sorted amicably, and that your daughter & her mate resolve their argument. My teen DDs seem to be particularly argumentative at the moment which I have been blaming on the heat, but it’s colder now and they’re still at it 🙄

OK, so let's assume you've done this. What if the girl that DD has screamed at (reasonably) doesn't want to stay in your house? Are you going to hold her there by force or drag her into your car? We've had teens round who leave (after no argument, they just decide they want to go home) late at night. I will ask if they are ok for a lift getting home and they generally say "yes". If I know it's only a short distance I would not worry about them walking it. I certainly wouldn't insist that they couldn't. Sometimes they wait outside while a parent comes to get them. I tell them they can wait inside but they say they don't want to. Is there really more I could do?

This is a situation where your DD thought walking home was preferable to ringing you. Would she really have been amenable to the parent of her now ex-friend driving her home, insisting that she rang someone etc? I'm going to say that she probably wouldn't.

I think it's likely that the parent heard the argument but thought it would blow over and didn't realise that DD had left until she'd actually gone, at which point she would have assumed that DD would ring for a lift or a taxi or walk home if she thought it was safe to do so. 14 is an age where they don't always have an adult around. They need to take responsibility for making good choices themselves.

Don't listen to people who say that OP, they are either crap parents or want to seem laid back and cool on MN.

No self respecting parent would allow their 14 year old daughter to walk home in the dark alone

She got home ok

Use this as learning for the future. Have the conversation about what to do if she feels unsafe in a situation, or if she wants to go home early.

By arguing with the parent and the child you close any discussion. The parent will likely block you anyway.

You then to decide do you need all contact numbers of parents. You were letting your child stay over in a house that you don't know the parent or have a contact. And you haven't had a conversation about what to do if the child wants home early. That is on you

Unless you want to argue about it I don't really know why you would contact the mother now?

I wouldn't personally have been bothered about her walking home for 10 mins in the dark presuming it was residential and not a remote walk. As other people said, your daughter should have called you if it was an issue.
I would probably have wanted to let you know she was coming home though but maybe she presumed she'd called you.

Aren't all young women, whether they are 14 or 18, at some risk walking home alone at 10 pm? On the other hand, there is also some risk of getting into an accident if they are driving, or being driven by someone else. Probably the safest way to get around is by bus, especially if you live close to a bus stop.

That's not what I said. Please go back and read the thread properly.