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To think that this was unacceptable from solicitors

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princessposy · 18/08/2026 20:09

DH doesn’t think this is a hugely big deal but I am really irritated by it.

I am selling a property. Estate agents recommended a solicitor so got a quote, paid them, sent some paperwork off then heard nothing for a few weeks. Probably should have chased it but there has been an awful lot on.

It transpires the solicitors have been sending forms and so on to an incorrect email address. It’s just my name at gmail dot com but my name is similar to a more common one. So as well as not getting the emails, they’ve been going to someone with a similar name to mine.

The solicitors didn’t seem bothered at all and just forwarded the emails to the correct email address.

AIBU to think that’s not acceptable? Or am I overreacting?

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concertinacornflake · 19/08/2026 05:35

Yes they be committed a data breach and they should have apologised. Their behaviour seems unusual for a solicitor - due to the nature of their work they often send test emails before starting to use the email address for business.

The only thing you can do is complain formally to the practice - they will have a complaints process on their website. Hopefully then you'll get an apology.

HavingABlether · 19/08/2026 05:34

I was Head of Operations in a law firm for a while and we'd have taken this seriously. If your home address or other details were in the correspondence, our Data Protection Officer would have been involved.

I suspect the solicitor who just forwarded it on hoped to keep their error below the radar instead of holding up their hands. It's human error, it happens, nobody's getting sacked for that. But how you deal with it matters, not least in the eyes of your client. I'd be miffed in your shoes.

LivingTheDreamish · 19/08/2026 05:17

I'd be irritated too, at the mistake yes (but we all make them) but mostly at the lack of apology. People just don't apologise any more. A genuine sorry goes a long way. It doesn't have to be a hair shirt.

princessposy · 19/08/2026 05:14

Zebedee999 · 18/08/2026 22:10

They made a mistake and corrected it. What else do you want them to do? Wear a hair shirt for six months? Self flagellate in public next Saturday?

Mistakes happen, they have dealt with it.

They didn’t make a mistake once and correct it immediately though, they repeatedly sent emails to the wrong person, then complained to the estate agents that I wasn’t sending them forms they needed and it was only when I urged them to check they realised their mistake and sent the forms onto me with no word of apology.

@Muffsies my (wrongly spelled!) name, address, address of the property being sold, phone no and so on. So information that really shouldn’t have been shared.

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Muffsies · 18/08/2026 22:21

princessposy · 18/08/2026 20:14

Yeah - I’m just really annoyed they’ve sent confidential emails to a completely different woman and were so blasé about it. No sort of ‘terribly sorry, will be more thorough in future.’

Sounds like a data breech, under uk law they should report it to the ICO within 72 hours. They should definately be taking it seriously. I'd make a formal complaint.

What sort of personal information was on the emails that they sent?

Zebedee999 · 18/08/2026 22:10

princessposy · 18/08/2026 20:09

DH doesn’t think this is a hugely big deal but I am really irritated by it.

I am selling a property. Estate agents recommended a solicitor so got a quote, paid them, sent some paperwork off then heard nothing for a few weeks. Probably should have chased it but there has been an awful lot on.

It transpires the solicitors have been sending forms and so on to an incorrect email address. It’s just my name at gmail dot com but my name is similar to a more common one. So as well as not getting the emails, they’ve been going to someone with a similar name to mine.

The solicitors didn’t seem bothered at all and just forwarded the emails to the correct email address.

AIBU to think that’s not acceptable? Or am I overreacting?

They made a mistake and corrected it. What else do you want them to do? Wear a hair shirt for six months? Self flagellate in public next Saturday?

Mistakes happen, they have dealt with it.

MerryUmberHedgehog · 18/08/2026 22:06

YANBU but solicitors do everything at a snails pace and never ever use the phone.

BoarBrush · 18/08/2026 21:52

princessposy · 18/08/2026 20:50

Thanks @tokennamechange - I’m public sector too so I guess it’s another world!

Public sector but relying on Google for confidential emails. Behave.

hunchicklove · 18/08/2026 21:47

I would never use a solicitor, plumber, gardener etc recommended by the EA for a start. Surely they will be taking their own cut from the arrangement and if not, I still would always go with personal recommendations.
Do the emails contain confidential data or blank forms to complete?

This! Over and over. Do not use solicitors buying work YOU from estate agents. Go local!

princessposy · 18/08/2026 21:40

Yes, probably. I’m not well versed in buying and selling property and am largely just acting on advice of others.

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Followthesunshine · 18/08/2026 21:35

You are referring to them as solicitors but because you are paying probably peanuts in comparison to what an experienced solicitor would charge you, they are likely conveyancers.

princessposy · 18/08/2026 21:32

I probably should have shopped around more for a solicitor. Problem is, I don’t live where the property is or even anywhere near, and really just want the whole thing done with quickly - so doubly frustrating we’ve lost nearly a month!

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Seelybee · 18/08/2026 21:30

@princessposy very unprofessional all round. We are having similar offhand service currently from an EA recommended solicitor so I think this indifference must be quite common.
Doubtless they'll be wanting an online review once they finally get their job done....

Tiggermad · 18/08/2026 21:29

I get why you are annoyed however because the data they shared does not pose any risk to you I think it is a minimal breach. You say they shared name and email ? No address or other personal information ?
So it’s classed as a minor breach.
I deal with breaches all the time and this would not be classed as serious.
I would not be too bothered myself.

Soontobe60 · 18/08/2026 21:26

princessposy · 18/08/2026 20:22

The forms were attached and included details on the property being sold, the address and so on. It probably isn’t confidential, just frustrating and I do feel a little uncomfortable that someone with a similar name to mine now knows the details of the property I’m selling!

With any luck they might put in a cheeky offer!

Famesick · 18/08/2026 21:23

princessposy · 18/08/2026 20:24

Yes, there were bank details as to where to send the proceeds - so that could potentially have been very risky given it was another Mrs A Smith.

But the fields were empty and hadn’t been populated?

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 18/08/2026 21:20

I wouldn’t use a solicitor on an estate agent’s recommendation. They’re usually doing it for a kickback.

Innerearitch · 18/08/2026 20:54

If your email address is that similar to another email address… has this not happened many times in the past before?

Innerearitch · 18/08/2026 20:53

lalalagarden · 18/08/2026 20:43

Is that sort of comment really necessary? Kicking someone when they’re already stressed?

Kicking someone when they’re down?

oh don’t be such a drama llama

nomorekitchenislandsplease · 18/08/2026 20:52

Lovingbooks · 18/08/2026 20:13

Have you looked them up on online reviews, what other customers thought? It’s not a great start but often solicitors recommended by estate agents are a larger firm with huge caseloads.

This. Firms recommended by estate agents need treating with caution- check reviews.

princessposy · 18/08/2026 20:52

I don’t know that they would @CalliopeFosterBeauchamp . More likely to think it’s spam and delete! Or they are very young, or elderly, or have never sold a property … any number of possibilities! It doesn’t really matter why they didn’t, its not really their responsibility to do so.

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CalliopeFosterBeauchamp · 18/08/2026 20:51

princessposy · 18/08/2026 20:22

The forms were attached and included details on the property being sold, the address and so on. It probably isn’t confidential, just frustrating and I do feel a little uncomfortable that someone with a similar name to mine now knows the details of the property I’m selling!

YANBU, but this might not be true. If the other person with your name accesses this email address regularly, surely (?) they would have replied to your solicitor and said “you’ve sent this to the wrong person”.

My pension adviser sent me an email that should have gone to another client. I replied straightaway (and got a very apologetic email back). Wouldn’t most people do that?

Clearly that didn’t happen in this case as your solicitor carried on using the wrong email address. That makes me think the other Mrs Smith doesn’t use this email.

princessposy · 18/08/2026 20:50

Thanks @tokennamechange - I’m public sector too so I guess it’s another world!

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princessposy · 18/08/2026 20:50

Thanks @lalalagarden . I sent an email which I hope is polite but was somewhat terser than normal. I’m fairly understanding of human error as a rule but this time I’m irritated, not least because I hate people getting my name wrong!

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tokennamechange · 18/08/2026 20:47

I can see where you're coming from OP. If the process had been a bit further along and they'd sent anything confidential (the address you live at now, mortgage details etc.) rather than what sounds like the details of the other property, I'd expect a very good apology and tbh some sort of discount, also confirmation that they'd self-referred to the ICO (and if they hadn't I'd consider doing so myself).

But even in this case I'd expect an apology, primarily because if they are so blasé about it it doesn't exactly fill you with reassurance that they a) won't do the same thing again and b) that they are going to be pro-active in actioning your move, if it's taken them weeks without chasing you.

I work in the public sector so a bit different but it's a big deal whenever someone sends something to the wrong email - we have to fill in a form, self refer to the data gov manager, it's circulated (anonymously) to the whole org, etc.

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