AIBU to find my husband's reaction to our son's glasses odd?

He doesn’t want his son wearing glasses. It’s as simple and as difficult as that.

I can see why he’s your XH!! Crazy behaviour!!

My XH was like this. Refused to accept DS had broken his arm right before he was due to go on holiday with dad and dads new GF. I was fine about him going, no issues at all, even with a broken arm as he was 14.

XH just wouldn’t have it. “It can’t be broken!”
“well I am in hospital with him now. He’s just had it x rayed and it’s broken.”
”No. It won’t actually be broken though, stop exaggerating.”
” I am waiting for them to put him in a plaster cast. It’s definitely broken.”
”No, I don’t believe you. It can’t be.”

It was laughable really.

does he watch much youtube / is he into any kind of wellness trends? because there are some parts of 'primal living' trends, which overlap with toxic masculinity, which believe not wearing glasses will let your eyes get stronger and wearing them will make any issues worse, make them weaker etc... he might have read/watched some of that.

He doesn't like the idea of his son wearing glasses, it's a really simple examination with not much scope for error. If he wants a second opinion he pays for,

So does he question anything and everything that you say, does he automatically disbelieve you? Undermine you like it’s a tic he has? Or perhaps cannot let you have authority over anything to do with the kids?

If any of those, he’s controlling and possibly coercive. Counselling might be counterproductive.

If my partner took the kids to a health assessment without me and it flagged something up I’d definitly want to see a written outcome to understand what it was and what the remedy is so I think questioning it in its self isn’t an issue. But the tone and escalation sound disproportionate to a pair of specs from what you’ve said.

I also think if it’s an NHS optician there’s strict guidance about when to and when not to prescribe glasses. Ie my daughter has the mildest lenses possibly and our optician explained she wouldn’t normally prescribe these on the NHS but the guidance is to do so if the child experiences headaches. I think in your situation it’s fair to question if the blurriness came on suddenly but the prescription is for focus work it’s great the dad wants to understand it more. That’s very valid IMO and to not give this info is unreasonable of you.

Perhaps communication has just totally broken down between you?

Reaction is odd - absolutely.

But specsavers always give a card with the prescription on in my 20yeats+ experience of wearing glasses. Did they not give you this that you can just show him?

Why don't you suggest he goes into the Specsavers Branch and take the matter up with them instead of bullying you about it OP?

Very Weird reaction
husband is being unreasonable here for sure

Is it about the glasses or your H’s reaction to them?

you're being unreasonable to not know this is abusive controlling manipulative behavior and unreasonable to not know this is massive red flag likely to escalate behavior on is part.
kids vison changes as they grow and glasses are far from unusual.
pathetic that you think counselling with this man will help.

Well he’s obviously got issues. Any similar incidents in the past? Is it that he questions anything you tell him unless he hears it 1st hand, or is it a perfectionism quest where he refuses to believe HIS children are anything less than perfect, including health-wise? Is it anxiety? Is it embarrassment? God help you either way.