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Asking neighbours not to grow plants on our fence

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crunchiest · 18/08/2026 17:19

We recently had to replace the retaining wall and fence between our garden and the neighbours garden. The retaining wall was on our property, and so was the fence. We asked the neighbours to contribute to the cost of the fence, and they refused, citing “works” they were saving up for.
Legally it was a grey area, with better argument that we should pay for the whole thing, so we did it. It was very expensive, and the neighbours now have a super nice fence to look at instead of the disgusting crumbly one from before. It was done last October and I’ve now seen that the neighbours are now growing all kinds of plants on our fence (on their side) including leaning polls on there for their tomatoes. Aibu to ask them not to do that? The fence is wood and will obviously be damaged by this.

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Bbygrl · 19/08/2026 21:28

crunchiest · 18/08/2026 17:19

We recently had to replace the retaining wall and fence between our garden and the neighbours garden. The retaining wall was on our property, and so was the fence. We asked the neighbours to contribute to the cost of the fence, and they refused, citing “works” they were saving up for.
Legally it was a grey area, with better argument that we should pay for the whole thing, so we did it. It was very expensive, and the neighbours now have a super nice fence to look at instead of the disgusting crumbly one from before. It was done last October and I’ve now seen that the neighbours are now growing all kinds of plants on our fence (on their side) including leaning polls on there for their tomatoes. Aibu to ask them not to do that? The fence is wood and will obviously be damaged by this.

I totally understand your frustration, especially if they are not willing to split the bill. My neighbours are also growing all sorts on their side of the fence and over time this has damaged the fence. They have an apple tree they decided to grow half way up the garden leaning on the fence, most of it covers my garden, blocking the sun, not to mention all the apples that fall off it… too polite to say anything but it does my nut it 😩 I want to cut it down whist she’s sleeping 😅

Laura95167 · 19/08/2026 21:01

Little agressive? Someone piss on your cornflakes today or something? 🤣

Just FYI I did RTFT, at the point I posted OP hadnt commented, theyd only posted their OP stating "the neighbours are now growing all kinds of plants on our fence (on their side) including leaning polls on there for their tomatoes" so the issue appeared to be growing things that were LEANING near/touching the fence. OP didnt confirm they were fastened to the fence until after my post.

godmum56 · 19/08/2026 20:50

Laura95167 · 19/08/2026 20:49

This is true.

I had made the assumption they wanted nothing growing near the fence.

RTFT they want nothing FASTENED to the fence by their neighbour

Laura95167 · 19/08/2026 20:49

godmum56 · 19/08/2026 20:47

neither will the OP's. Salt dissipates into the soil and will spread.

This is true.

I had made the assumption they wanted nothing growing near the fence.

godmum56 · 19/08/2026 20:47

Laura95167 · 19/08/2026 19:43

If you want to be a dick salt the soil along the fence and their plants wont grow

neither will the OP's. Salt dissipates into the soil and will spread.

godmum56 · 19/08/2026 20:47

bananaobama · 19/08/2026 20:30

It’s normal to pay for the fence on the left (or is it right) so they didnt need to contribute

of course they can grow plants up the fence. Dont be so precious

absolutely not true.
1 its not normal to "pay for the left (or is it the right)" I mean you can't even get that sorted.....
2 Neighbours are not allowed to fasten plants, trellis or anything else, including paint or preservative, to fences they do not own unless given permission.

I mean "the left (or is it the right)"
why dis you even bother?

croydon15 · 19/08/2026 20:45

I don't think that you are bu, l don't want neighbours to attach anything on my fence and definitely no nails etc. as they don't pay to replace it.

bananaobama · 19/08/2026 20:30

It’s normal to pay for the fence on the left (or is it right) so they didnt need to contribute

of course they can grow plants up the fence. Dont be so precious

Bernardo1 · 19/08/2026 20:09

This can be an insurance problem.

My garden wall was blown down in a storm.
One of the main reasons the insurance company refused to pay out was that neighbours had attached trellis to and above my wall with permanent evergreen foliage.
The insurance assessor said apart from damaging the wall, the increased surface area to the wind, made the collapse more inevitable.

PurpleFlower1983 · 19/08/2026 20:03

I’m surprised the wall was a shared responsibility if on your property. We paid £8k for a retaining wall last year as it was on our land, 5ft above next door. We can’t actually see it apart from a little bit of the top so I get your frustration OP if they were also legally responsible.

Bernardo1 · 19/08/2026 19:51

GiveMeWordGames · 18/08/2026 17:26

You're being ridiculous. You don't get to dictate that your neighbours have to stare at a bare fence just because you paid for it and you're in a huff that they didn't want to contribute. Tomato plants, and a support/trellis won't damage it anyway.

The one thing that will really wreck it is ivy which most people don't plant, it just takes over.

Edited

They can dictate what happens to their property.
If the neighbours don't wish to stare at a fence, they can plant freestanding foliage.

Bernardo1 · 19/08/2026 19:48

Jasmin71 · 18/08/2026 17:25

They can grow what they want as long as it is not physically attached and only supported from the ground up on their side.

Right.

Bernardo1 · 19/08/2026 19:46

PepsiBook · 18/08/2026 17:21

I thought they could do as they wish on their side?

No.

Laura95167 · 19/08/2026 19:43

If you want to be a dick salt the soil along the fence and their plants wont grow

Nicewoman · 19/08/2026 19:16

crunchiest · 18/08/2026 17:19

We recently had to replace the retaining wall and fence between our garden and the neighbours garden. The retaining wall was on our property, and so was the fence. We asked the neighbours to contribute to the cost of the fence, and they refused, citing “works” they were saving up for.
Legally it was a grey area, with better argument that we should pay for the whole thing, so we did it. It was very expensive, and the neighbours now have a super nice fence to look at instead of the disgusting crumbly one from before. It was done last October and I’ve now seen that the neighbours are now growing all kinds of plants on our fence (on their side) including leaning polls on there for their tomatoes. Aibu to ask them not to do that? The fence is wood and will obviously be damaged by this.

Exactly my issue. I had an enclosed garden, one wall and fence faced council property. The wall I repointed my side, council side wild virulent ivy that was eating my wooden fence and coming over into my garden, I kept cutting the ivy down my side, but it kept growing into my garden. One day I go in the council property garden and hack down the ivy plant as much as I could. I then paid £300 of my own money to tradesmen to repoint the wall from the other side and get rid of the ivy I couldn’t remove. The ivy was eating the wall.

On the left and right side are my neighbours fences on the wall. They are different types of fences and colours.

I then paid for lovely composite fences on my side, so that when I look out of my windows and sit in my garden I see the same fences on all the walls.

I agree with asking your neighbours not to grow tomatoes as they are killing the fence you paid for, plus seeing a lovely new fence.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 19/08/2026 19:03

TropicalFishAreTwats · 18/08/2026 17:40

I wouldn't ask, as you can see from the responses here, despite your considerable expense your neighbours still view it as 'their' fence.
Personally I would be out with the watering can liberally dosed with bleach right next to the fence on my side. If some accidentally got in their plants and killed them it would be a shame 🤷‍♀️

Well aren't you an absolute dick.

Ladybyrd · 19/08/2026 18:57

As long as they don’t damage it they can grow what they like on their side. If they said no to contributing I’m guessing they knew they didn’t have to and you were just trying it on. Yes, they can let a tomato plant lean on it 😱

ColinSimpson · 19/08/2026 18:52

We have the sane problem with our neighbours who grow roses up against our interwoven fencing. The briars feed there way through the laths and force the bearing timbers away from the interwoven. I heave replaced this fence twice now and the last time I told the neighbour that, that was the last time. Allowing anything to grow through the interwoven laths weakens the panels and then get a breeze thrown in and guess what its flat on the ground. Has somebody has said earlier it is an offence and there are grounds for redress. I have told my neighbour in no uncertain terms if it happens again he will be hearing from our solicitor.

Oldtigernidster · 19/08/2026 18:36

I want to say you are not being unfair but I can’t. Didn’t you get it made from treated wood so their plants won’t do any damage?

Micky9876 · 19/08/2026 18:31

As the fence is on your land (both sides of the fence?) then if they want to put plants up I think they should put a fence up on their side.

Hildegard25 · 19/08/2026 18:19

Therewegothen · 18/08/2026 18:48

If the fence is ON the boundary,.you have no legs today and on. If the fence is IN your boundary you are able to tell them not to and to tell them to keep their plants in their boundary.

THIS

Piglet89 · 19/08/2026 07:01

nomorekitchenislandsplease · 18/08/2026 20:03

You can't expect them to stop growing anything along that side of their garden. Tomato plants won't damage the fence. I have never lived anywhere where fences were jointly owned. Usually it's that for example the left side fence is the responsibility of each household. You wanted a new fence and now you have the one you chose, it doesn't matter what the other side of it looks like.

There are many, many examples where this isn’t the case. I’ve had cause to look into the deeds to check ownership of one of our fences. The T markings in our and our neighbour’s plan attached to the original conveyance and our plan completely contradict each other. This is more common than you’d think.

Hello87abc · 18/08/2026 23:54

They own the fence so no the neighbours cannot do things to their fence

usernamemustnotcontainspecialcharacters · 18/08/2026 23:45

Just spray lots of weed killer along your fence. See what happens

francy99 · 18/08/2026 23:02

You could always take the fence panels out and paint their side a really horrible colour. As it’s your fence on your land they can’t repaint it