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AIBU to feel uncomfortable about my neighbour's comments during renovations?

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Lew96 · 18/08/2026 15:17

New neighbour doing renovations, knocked on my door earlier to apologise for noise which is fine honestly dont mind it, not too noisey tbh. But then he started telling me how rock hard he is and if i ever need him to feel safe to give him a text and he'd be straight around... he previously gave me his number to make sure there was no one being weird around his property when he wasnt there as hes not currently living in the property, but he made me feel abit uncomfortable as he started saying no strings attatched and stuff after saying he'll keep me safe.... I don't know if its just me feeling uncomfortable or if that its normal to say no strings attatched about stuff.. so the question is AIBU to feel uncomfortable? Is he just being genuine... i think it makes me feel uncomfortable as he knows i have a partner who lives with me and he will avoid him like the plague, but when im out he will be straight out wanting to speak about all his money and cars and stuff...

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Lew96 · 18/08/2026 15:32

He knows ive got a partner, ive told him multiple times and hes actually bumped into him a few times when my partners been leaving for work but he just doesnt say anything to my partner

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Baldrapunzel · 18/08/2026 15:32

Ah, ignore me, didn't realise you had a dp. Just tell twat face that your dp looks after his family brilliantly.

Baldrapunzel · 18/08/2026 15:31

It is absolutely not normal. Do you have a brother / Dad who could do a bit of coming and going at your house for a couple of weeks and make it obvious to twat face that you have all the help and support you need?

Lew96 · 18/08/2026 15:30

Yes i did tell my partner exactly what he said because he had me at the door for ages, i think he ment asin hes hard at fighting as he said this streets rough, (ive lived here for over a decade)aslong as you keep.yourself to yourself you get no trouble. Ive been with my partner 13 years so dont need anyone keeping me safe my partner does a fab job! An i told him that at the door but he still insisted to text him if i need anything

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Lew96 · 18/08/2026 15:27

I try my hardest to avoid im not very social to be honest because im a very awkward person especially with people i dont know, but he keeps knocking on when he knows im in, an my children get picked up for school as they get transport to their sen schools and theu like to wait outside and stim innthe garden while waiting and he always seems to pull up when im waiting. I was just wondering if it was me being awkward and feeling uncomfortable or if it was a weird thing to say... but yeah i keep myself to myself dont really speak to neighbours ill smile and say hello in passing but dont want to stand and have comversations, i think im more dreading him.actually moving in

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TrunkElliot · 18/08/2026 15:27

Did you tell your dp that the new neighbour has told you he is rock hard...

Mothrasstillmoshing · 18/08/2026 15:25

🐷🚩🚩🚩🚩- oh and get some cameras!

Jeschara · 18/08/2026 15:21

He is being smutty and disrespectful. This behaviour would sicken me. I would avoid the dirty sod like the plague.

Bananacrepewithnuts · 18/08/2026 15:19

OMG. Avoid Avoid.
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