How do you feel about being whistled at on the street?

Loved it when I was younger. Now I couldn't get so much as a "morning gorgeous"!. It's depressing TBH, being invisible is demoralising.

It's horrific. Thankfully in my late 60s that doesnt happen but it did in the past. They got a mouthful.
I think its older men doing it too...who have dds ffs.

I'd be interested to see the correlation between women who think street harassment is a compliment and women who are married to useless men who do nothing around the house etc.

I absolutely hate it. How is someones self esteem so low that they find this flattering?! I have a teen DD who works in hospitality and gets a similar thing of men, often old enough to be her Dad telling her she is 'so beautiful' 'if I was 20 years younger' etc and she finds it awkward and mortifying to be objectified. Why would anyone want to support or encourage behaviour that is misogynistic and objectifying.

I am all for agreeing to disagree but I feel so strongly here, having seen the impacg this type of creepy behaviour has on DD and her friends, and knowing how it grossed me out as a young woman too. Anyone taking this as a compliment needs to do some work on their self esteem imo, its gross and creepy and needs to be called out/challenged every time.

Quite the opposite. I would imagine

If anyone whistles at me, my first thought is, "I am not a dog!"

Generally don’t care as long as they don’t try and talk to me, but if a man does it I assume he’s a moron with no game. It has happened in front of my kids before and I do not fucking like that.

Don't know, never happened to me!

I have never found a man demanding my attention to let me know he thinks I am worthy of him fucking me to be a compliment.

Sadly there are still some brain dead neanderthals who still do it, usually from building sites/scaffolding or tradesmen vans.

How would you tell your young DDs to deal with it? Ignore and walk away confidently? Or tell them to fuck right off?

Never has this ever happened to me, didn’t know it was a thing…..
I am fugly though….

These days it makes me feel they've confused me with someone 20 years younger! 😆

I never minded whistles or non-crude comments when I was younger but they didn't happen often enough for it to feel bothersome - I'm not conventionally attractive and had short cropped hair in my teens & 20s so most blokes didn't give me a second glance and thank God for that. I'm sure it could feel harrasing and threatening if you get it all the time, though.

I’m surprised at that, most major building companies have cracked down on this sort of thing and have done for a while.

It was certainly a shock! I wish to this day I'd confronted him, but instead I just scuttled away like a frightened mouse.

And fair enough - I suppose perhaps professionals are more likely to be 'discreet' or sneaky, and workmen loud and blatant about it?

I am faaaaaaar more annoyed at men who tell me to smile. Why is my face their business?!

I don’t like it but I also don’t dislike it. I guess it does not bother me massively. Men insisting on talking to me after I make clear I don’t want to talk to them is more annoying.

However that’s me as an adult. I recall being wolf whistled at by adult men as a schoolgirl and always found that disturbing.

I don’t see an issue with women who find it to be harassment. I think the women who think those women “need to get a grip” are male identified and a little pathetic.

Hear hear

I don’t think I’ve been whistled at on the street since I was in high school. In school uniform.

I got it quite a bit when younger. I didn’t mind and sometimes found it flattering. Now I think it’s wrong and pervy, but I’ve matured. Rarely get it now thank god! I did have a guy grab my arm about 1-2 years ago on an early evening, on the pavement trying to chat me up, I was just walking along the street by myself, he was with mates. I was angry at that. How dare he?

See also ‘cheer up love’.

My issue with it is that I dont think its appropriate to essentially shout at strangers how sexually attractive you find them. I dont want to know if I turn you on. I definitely didnt when I was a teenager in school uniform, which is when I got the most attention.

Sleazy, degrading.

I’ve enjoyed reporting these Neanderthals to both their employer and the entity that has engaged their employer in the past (e.g. when the workers were working on a bank branch I complained to both their company and the bank). We need to keep pushing back and these perverts might finally get the message.

It happened to me most when I was 11-18 years old. And it was never just a whistle, there were usually crude comments attached.

It happens rarely now I'm in my early 30's but I still don't like it, I just want to be left alone.