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I've got myself into a sticky situation

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Helbel1977 · 17/08/2026 07:48

I've got myself into a sticky situation, i know im in the wrong but I don't know how to fix it.

Yesterday morning about 10.30am I was nipping out to the shops, when I pulled out my drive I bumped into a car parked opposite, i was moving at a slow speed and didn't notice any damage to the car I went into.

When I returned the car was gone, fine I thought nothing more about it.
I didn't mention it to my husband.

Later on a young man came to my door my husband answered it, he told him that his girlfriend was staying over last night and her car was parked outside, he said that there was damage to her car and wanted to know if we had seen anything, obviously he told him no as he hadn't know anything about it. He did tell my husband that it must happened between late the night before and when she left at 9am, They must have got the times wrong as I hit the car about 10.30. I just played dumb and agreed that it was terrible.

I know I should own up, but I don't know how to go about it,

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HelpMeGetThrough · 17/08/2026 08:06

Well, if he talks to other neighbours and they have a camera that picked it up, you’ll know soon enough if it was you.

Brainstorm23 · 17/08/2026 08:01

On what planet did you think "i was moving at a slow speed and didn't notice any damage to the car I went into." was OK?

If you hit someone's car you identity who the car belongs to and tell them. FFS.

QuothTheRavenista · 17/08/2026 08:01

How hard did you hit it?

BloomersAreIn · 17/08/2026 07:57

It’s hard to understand why you didn’t just say to your husband ‘actually I did hit a car when I was coming back from the shops’ when he told you the chap had been round. I can understand not telling him in the first place but lying to your own husband about it seems an unusual decision.

I think it’s unlikely that you hit a different car and that someone else had hit her car previously.

I would go round and tell him what happened. That you did hit a car, presumably you know what the car was because you looked at it. And that you didn’t see any damage so you didn’t tell your husband so he didn’t know when the man called round. Then swap insurance details and call your insurance company.

likeitshard · 17/08/2026 07:56

It probably wasn’t her car and was someone else’s. If you really want to double check knock on and say dh had mentioned it and you just want to check was it the X colour car parked in X spot as you saw the car at 10.30 and you wanted to check if that was the right car. If he says no say fair enough not the one you was think of. If he says yes that’s it she must have left later than realised. Tell him it was you.

Hayleylulljah · 17/08/2026 07:51

You knock on his door and tell him.

GentleSheep · 17/08/2026 07:50

Are you sure you actually hit the girlfriend's car and not someone else's that was parked there? That's a big time discrepancy.

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