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AIBU to use a family changing room left occupied by a buggy?

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Calpolinator · 16/08/2026 19:19

Was I unreasonable? Swimming today with 5yo, 3yo and 18 month old. The pool has 6 family changing rooms and the rest are single cubicles. They were all occupied when we were out and showered apart from 1 which was open but had a buggy in. I waited for about 5 minutes and no one came out of any of the others and I couldn't see who this pram belonged to. It was getting a bit much to juggle the hangry kids and there was a queue forming for the family change, so I popped in and got everyone changed really quickly (was in there less time than I'd waited). When I came out someone was waiting to have a go basically saying all there stuff was in there, but here's the mind blowing (to me) part - they were in the pool! They'd wanted to reserve the changing room for the entire time they were in there?! I explained I'd waited and no one had come back and clarified they only got out the pool because they'd seen me go in, not because they needed anything and I hoped they would realise it was all a bit ridiculous. But AIBU for using the changing room?! Feel like I've committed a social faux pas

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UncharteredWaters · 16/08/2026 19:42

This happens at our pool, I just shove it on the corner of the bench and if it gets wet/falls so be it.

it’s selfish behaviour and they deserve to go home soaking wet!

HopAroundLikeKangaroos · 16/08/2026 19:40

Argh I hate this at our local pool as well. You were not unreasonable at all. I wouldn’t quite as gone as far as turfing their stuff out (although I can understand why some people would…) but I would definitely report them to reception. It’s so entitled.

TheGirlWithGlassFeet · 16/08/2026 19:40

this infuriates me. It happens so often at our pool. I have taken stuff out and put it on the floor before.

stichguru · 16/08/2026 19:37

They are lucky you didn't tuff their stuff out to the wet floor outside the changing room! You don't leave your stuff in the changing room for 5 mins. I swim regularly, and I feel like I am unfairly reserving the changing room when I literally walk to the locker, then walk to the change room, then walk back to the locker and back to the change room with the rest of my stuff. I am gone for 30 seconds literally!

DedododoDedadada · 16/08/2026 19:32

Not unreasonable but i would have taken the buggy out

hourspassed · 16/08/2026 19:28

No, you were not being unreasonable.

I'd speak to the reception team - it may be a problem that some people do on a regular basis. It's pretty bloody cheeky isn't it! Perhaps they could put a note on the doors to say you are not allowed to put belongings into a family room as they cannot be reserved.

Knittedfairies2 · 16/08/2026 19:24

I think the other family made the social faux pas by trying to reserve the changing room, not you.

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