Here's another one about PIL, sorry... A bit long for context
Both physically capable but show 0 interest in doing any sort of activities with GD. MIL is the only one that shows up when we invite them to come around during half term or school holidays for some quality time with DD. She never calls to come around, suggesting anything with DD. Every school half term or school holidays is the same, if I don't get in touch she's quiet and eventually have a rant saying we forgot about her. Just happened last week. Every year I say the same, please get In touch too as I don't want to be the pushy one. They are so out of touch that sometimes I feel that she's not interested and it's convenient for her using the "invitation card" because truly she can't be bothered but the excuse suits her, leaving us with a heavy conscience. She texts DP all the time, why can't she just ask if DD has time over the week to see her?! She's the only one that comes in the evening if we are out, when we request her help. GF never shows up and he knows she's not a confident driver. However, there's always something basic that she can't cope with like not finding the dish washer to put the dinner stuff away or the washing up liquid to wash the dishes! I couldn't care less about the washing, but she rinsed and dried everything and left on the side to put back on original place. It was clean enough I guess? Btw washing up liquid Is under the sink as usual and the dishwasher next to it... She didn't have dinner either as the food we prepared for her, she let it burn in the oven and didn't know how to use the hob to cook something for herself. We would be happy to order take away there and then if she had told us. She's a nervous driver, never takes GD anywhere. Since she was born they go for the same walk ending up playing at home. We are having work done in the house ATM so not the best place to be. Both working parents so our hands are full and our head all over the place for the past month. I am not sure which kind of opinion I am looking for here but, when she mentioned last week the "invitation card " again, and how we didn't care about her we couldn't even bring ourselves to answer back. I am furious and guilty at the same time. Is this normal behavior?