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AIBU? Asked to donate money to a friend of a friend

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Buttheywereonlysatellites51 · 16/08/2026 11:03

I’ve had a message from someone I’d call an acquaintance really, not really a friend, that has me feeling uncomfortable.

They have friends in Columbia who lost their house during the recent earthquake. They are asking for people to donate money to their bank account and they will pass on this money to their friends in Columbia to help them start over.

Now I’m not against donating to good causes and once a year, I choose a charity or two that I want to donate to. I am just feeling uncomfortable as the request has come directly from someone I know and I feel like I’d look like an uncaring person if I say no. If these were friends of mine, I would obviously want to help them. But I can’t imagine I asking my friends to help out people they don’t know. AIBU?

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Whattheflock · 16/08/2026 11:08

tell them you’ll donate to a recognised charity instead.

NotAnotherScarf · 16/08/2026 11:07

Personally no. I am a.cynic and its very easy for that money to go missing. If you want give to an official charity so you know that's what's happened.

Remember that several people claimed to be in Greenfield Tower...so people will stoop to the lowest depths...more recently than undertaker in hill kept charity donations

Darragon · 16/08/2026 11:07

Not a chance would I give money for a friend of an acquaintance.

AllJoyAndNoFun · 16/08/2026 11:05

I would just ignore- I imagine they sent the message to a lot of people so they probably won’t notice if you don’t donate.

PonkyPonky · 16/08/2026 11:05

Was the message just to you or just sent to everyone in their friends list/contacts? If the latter I would just ignore. If it was just sent to you, say that you’d love to help but have already made your charity donations for this year and have to draw the line somewhere

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