Disney loving men

I’ve never met a man who was into Disney, but I have met some who are into Lego or Marvel, which I find deeply unattractive. Especially if they are over 30.

Could he be ND? An intense focus on special interests and blindness to other topics is a common feature in both autism & ADHD. Sounds like his executive function might not be great.

I’ve been accepting for 20 years as he’s spent money, caused us to remortgage and sought relationships with other women

This right here is you putting up with it.

We go to Disney in Paris quite annually as the kids like it. Personally I think the groups of adults wearing mini-mouse ears are odd. I get some of them are the Sunflower squad, but others queuing up to go on Dumbo the flying elephant? Really? Plenty of grown women queue up for a picture of themselves with someone dressed up as a cartoon mouse. It is just odd. When the kids are too old we will move on and leave the kids experience to other parents to enjoy with their kids.

What?? That's a bit of a sweeping statement.
Why are these so many hobby boards on here then? The book and TV ones always seem busy, imagine others are too.

I'd be interested in what the mumsnet approved list of hobbies and interests is. It seems to me very few women on here have anything in their lives other than children and housework.

I highly doubt it. A lot of people go to Disney who can't afford it and put it all on credit cards, you read threads about it on here all the time.

Definitely not somewhere I'd go without children or be interested in. All the queuing and fast passes and stuff is exhausting and I needed a holiday after it. Its odd to me whether it be an adult female or male tbh.

I would have found that cringey on a grown woman or man, but having been to Orlando with the kids I can tell you there are a lot of people obsessed with Disney.

its a bit creepy in a japanese obsession with schoolgirls way

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But it’s not the fact it’s Disney though is it? It’s the obsession that has caused this. What if he was obsessed with classic mini coopers? And remortgaged your house to buy 2 of them. Then cluttered up your drive and road with them? And had an affair with a fellow Mini Cooper enthusiast? That’s the issue surely?

You speak like your opinions are facts.

We are all entitled to share our opinion on a public forum, however when the OP has told you, on a number of occasions, that you are incorrect it may be time to give it a rest.

I think it might be hitting a nerve as some people will never be able to afford to go to Disney. People are aware that the families traveling to Disney spend tens of thousands on a single trip. Why would it be so controversial otherwise and cause so many extreme reactions? They won’t admit it though and they will tell you that an adult wearing a T-shirt with Dumbo on it is the issue.

You’re not right for each other because he’s a cheat and you put up with it, and are now embarrassed and ashamed of that so are diverting your attention to being angry at his interests.

I find it really weird that so many people on here are so openly intolerant of what other adults do in their free time.

Meh, I'd rather be 55 and wearing something that makes me happy than 55 and conforming to what society has decided is acceptable.

So you gave up your hobbies and interests and you think he should have too?

That isn’t healthy. Adults, whatever the age, should have hobbies and interests. You should not be making your entire life about your kids.

OP I understand that you're hurt and confused by your relationship with your DH and this is understandable and valid. However what you're describing runs way deeper than a Disney obsession and I think you know that. The Disney quirk is the symptom not the disease and you've latched onto it as something tangiable that you can be angry about. However owning a bit of Disney merch and even talking about it obsessively on the internet doesn't in itself make an emotionally stunted, irresponsible partner. It's really mean spirited of people to suggest that anyone who owns anything 'childish' or who still finds joy in these things is weird/creepy/had a disturbing childhood. The clincher I think is in whether they can function as a responsible adult as well and whether their hobby takes priority over the real world, especially their own children.

My hubby and I both have quirky interests. I love HP. I recently seeked out a specific mug that had sold out in the Disney store on ebay because I loved it that much. I'm as excited as my kid to kit the house out in nightmare before Christmas merch at Halloween and listen to the new HP audiobook series. My hubby loves Marvel and retro computer games. However we are both pretty responsible with money, we don't dictate our children's hobbies and interests around our own and can parent and have adult relationships and other interests completely outside of these hobbies. That's the difference. I'm therefore not going to let some internet snobs tell me I'm a freak just because I can still see the joy in something that they can't.