AIBU to end things over his constant pointless lies?

😂Same

Throw him back in the sea please! Compulsive liars are irritating at best and dangerous at worst, not worth your time.

What a pathetic weirdo. He has some serious issues. Run.

I’d have immediately binned him off at the words “Conservative Party”, but nonetheless all of these lies point to a fantasist who is never going to form a worthwhile and cohesive relationship.

Erm they are not stupid lies. They are big whoppers that a lot of energy was given to. Dump.

I had a relationship with someone like this.
(Although the dog story is totally bonkers!).

I would end the relationship (& wish I’d ended mine sooner).

I ended up not believing anything and that’s not a good foundation for a relationship!

And of course, inevitably, he was unfaithful, which is what made me leave in the end.

Lying like this is a huge red flag for a personality disorder of some kind. Dump and do not look back. Run like the wind. He will ruin your life if you continue.

Thanks! 🙄 what a lovely comment!

I was meant to be light hearted, as indicated by the “but seriously” part which you clearly missed.

As it happens I would struggle to be in a relationship where our values differed a great deal, but in this case I’d say that’s the least of OP’s worries.

I was good friends with a girl like this when I was younger and ended up confronting her with her lies and offering to help her stop. She doubled down so I fucked her off. Lying like this is absolutely pathetic and makes my skin crawl. I'd honestly judge you if you didn't break up.

What on earth does he say when you catch him out ?

Finish it. Trust me, sociopaths are not good to have a life with.

This sounds exhausting. The risk is that you repeat his stories to other people (“Oh yes, Paul saw that exhibition, he really liked it”) because they aren’t outlandish enough for you to doubt.

It's all very sad really....if it's trauma based.
I guess most "off" behaviour is tbh.....

@Wilnis7 excellent 🤣🤣🤣

Run for the hills

Do you really need to ask?

YANBU and you made the right decision to walk away. A relationship with somebody like this will only leave you in a state of constant confusion and make your head spin.

I dated someone like this once but I initially dismissed it as not important. It was over really stupid stuff too. One time he picked me up and apologised for being late, saying he’d gone to fill up the car at the petrol station and bumped into an old friend, got chatting etc. Literally 10 mins later, the petrol red light came on. ‘Err, I thought you’d gone to fill up the car?’ Turns out he hadn’t, hadn’t bumped into an old friend, he’d just lost track of time at home and made up the story. I remember saying ‘why not just tell the truth?’ He didn’t know why other than ‘it just sounded better’. He couldn’t understand why this was a problem for me. He had this pathological fear of ‘getting into trouble’ and he concocted stupid stories about everything. By the end, my brain was frazzled as I simply never knew what was true.

In your case, this will likely be a lifelong habit for him and isn’t easily cured. It’ll be rooted in wanting to impress you or in wanting to look good. You’ll probably find that on some level, as he’s saying this stuff, he believes it himself. He’ll tell himself ‘well, I WANTED to go and see the art exhibition’ so in his head, that’s almost the same thing as ACTUALLY going.

If you want a partner you can trust implicitly, this isn’t him.

I think it becomes a habit after a while and they don't even think about why they are doing it. I think it usually comes from feeling insecure or inadequate, but it can also be anxiety based. My exh was a bit like this, but his lies were less ridiculous. He had lots of childhood trauma and spent a lot of his childhood let down by his parents and a lot of time by himself making up fantasies that eventually became real in his head. That then just continued as he became an adult. A lot of his lies were sort of half-truths, and all of them seemed pointless. He spent the first 8-9 months of our relationship lying about his job for example. He worked for the company he said he worked for, but he didn't have the role he told me he had.

Either way, sharing your life with someone who lies that much is completely pointless as you don't know who you are actually with. They become this false person and without trust there is nothing of value in a relationship.

do you even need to ask this?

to be honest though i find myself asking a question and is it worse to lie about becoming a tory councillor or actually being a tory councillor?

Yikes. Whatever his reason is for this it sounds like a recipe for disaster. Don’t make it your disaster.

How weird. I wouldn’t even tell him. Just block.

I've known 2 liars just like this

One was a lass (at the time she was 17)

She claimed (3 times) to have been pregnant (with twin girls) and 3 times they where stillborn (with pictures of dead babies lifted from google)

She finally fell pregnant (with a boy) and she avoids me like the plague

She's pregnant again so hopefully she'll have the girl she craves so badly

The other was an exs brother

No matter what it was,he'd lie about it

From the time he went to bed to my parents sat behind him in a cafe while listening to him tell some poor lass that he was in the sas and couldn't tell her anything as 'it's state secrets'

He couldn't lie straight in bed-he lied about everything (and I mean everything) and when people called him out on it,he'd either deny it or double down on his lies

Throw this one back-hes not worth it

Yep a billy liar right there.

He has serious issues as in his head he has an alternative life playing out - RUN!

I disagree, don't explain anything,just end it. You don't know how he'll react when you call him.out on his lies.