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AIBU to end things over his constant pointless lies?

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DownTheJohn · 15/08/2026 23:08

Been seeing someone for a few months and I’ve now caught him out on at least 3 stupid lies.

  1. he told me he had a dog, a husky called Bear. He would talk about this dog almost daily “I took Bear to the beach today” “just been watching tv with bear” “bear has vets tonight at 4pm” etc. first time I went to his house there were no signs of a dog at all so I said “where is bear?” He looked confused, then panicked and then said “oh he died unfortunately” so I said “when?? Because late last night you said you were walking him early this morning …”. He said he died last night so I said “and you never mentioned it? Come on …” so he admitted he didn’t have a dog but bear did exist, it’s his sisters dog. This also turned out to be a lie.
  2. He told me he had joined the Conservative Party and was considering running as a councillor. This turned out to be a complete lie.
  3. he told me today that he had gone to see the Monet exhibition in the local art gallery. Yet tonight he was on the phone and I heard him confirm with his boss that he had worked a full day today starting at 9am and finishing at 5. Afterwards I said “thought you were at art gallery today?” So he stumbled on his words and said “oh - no - well yes I was but that was yesterday, I got my days mixed up” he literally called me at 2pm saying he had just left the art gallery!! I was meant to be staying at his house tonight but I’ve come home telling him I can’t be doing with the constant stupid lies. AIBU
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BusyMum47 · 16/08/2026 20:50

B9waiting · 15/08/2026 23:10

Run away fast! What a weirdo / fantasist / seriously worrying individual! Make sure you’re safe!

This! ☝️ What a bloody weirdo!! RUN!!

Surgz · 16/08/2026 20:50

Whaaaat? Hes batshit crazy.. what are you thinking?? Run very fast

LuckyHazelFox · 16/08/2026 20:49

BitOutOfPractice · 15/08/2026 23:24

Well for me he was dumped at “conservative party” but seriously wow, he sounds quite ill I’d say.

That was predictable.

NattyQuail · 16/08/2026 20:48

My last one was like this. Utter weirdo and VERY manipulative. Only thing I knew was true was where he lived as I had been there myself. Proper covert narc. He wanted to exploit me at every chance.

RUN!!!

YourWildAmberSloth · 16/08/2026 20:29

Do you really need to ask OP?

Missingpop · 16/08/2026 20:26

I’d be up front with him & next he does it & you catch him out tell him sorry but I don’t date silly idiots who talk bullshit your xx years old not 13 trying to impress your school mates!!
Nice knowing you well the bits where you told the truth. And leave or kick him out & move on because hour clogging a dead horse with this deadbeat

MarriedDadOf2 · 16/08/2026 20:10

If he's going to lie about unimportant things, what's to stop him lying about something significant? Doesn't sound to me like someone you'd want to spend life with..

Heretohelp1111 · 16/08/2026 19:48

It’s worrying that you even have to ask if you’re being unreasonable.

StripedTee · 16/08/2026 19:40

Why do you even need to ask, FFS.

BitOutOfPractice · 16/08/2026 19:40

Spiffingdarling88 · 16/08/2026 11:19

With all the toxicity with politics, it's really not funny. Especially as it seems it's always targeting the right. It's about time these sorts of comments are called out.

What “sort of comments”. Your comment about me having “something wrong with me” was actually much nastier than my comment. And , unlike mine, yours was not said in jest.

And trust me, spend 5 minutes on Facebook and you’ll find derogatory comments about “lefties” and “bleeding hearts liberals”. I really think you’ve got to be a pretty special kind of touchy to take offence at my comment.

But if you find it so outrageous that you need to “call me out”, please feel free to report me 🙄

ETA you’ll be busy on that report button, lots of people have said similar so…enjoy!

AnnDroidAnnDroid · 16/08/2026 19:33

Sorry, but he doesn’t even remember the lies? It’s one thing being a liar but being stupid is just too much!

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 16/08/2026 19:05

Shaynac · 15/08/2026 23:32

They’re pointless but aren’t small. The dog one is truly bizarre - to make up a large dog, give it a name, make up anecdotes about it, and then claim it’s dead. That’s out and out fantasist.

A dog named Bear... I'm so sure that I've seen a character in a book or in a Rom Com or some such with a dog of that name.

Can only think that caring for the dog made him (in his mind) sound like a caring soul, The Tory councillor... (would have been a turn off for me!) was to make him sound important like he was politically knowledgable and community minded maybe?
The art gallery... he's a skiver. But wanted to show off that he was so cultured he had to do it. But yes. Essentially a skiver who also lies to his boss and colleagues.

He's insecure and feels that he needs to impress in areas where he's lacking, unfortunately that's being caring, knowledgeable and cultural.. almost the whole enchilada.

You know it had to be done OP... but he's certainly inventive and gets into the whole character of the thing, which would actually be quite fascinating to watch if you weren't having to date him at the same time.

Horses7 · 16/08/2026 18:54

Yikes - run for the hills, you don’t need a cut price Walter Mitty in your life. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Retiredfromearlyyears · 16/08/2026 18:53

Mmmm! A Walter Mitty. Dump him before things go from weird to dangerous.

BunnyLake · 16/08/2026 18:45

Leave him. He will mess with your mind, he’s already doing it and you’re only a few months in. Trust me, you will be questioning your sanity and it’ll take a toll on your mental health.

Ebsalami · 16/08/2026 18:31

You would never be able to trust he was telling you the truth, about big things as well as small pointless ones. I couldn’t have a relationship with someone like that.

Thisismyfinesthour · 16/08/2026 18:11

Let's be frank here, do you really need to ask if you're bu to dump him?
Why would anyone say he's telling porkies but hey never mind I'm sure he's a good person really.
You deserve so much better OP.

jdb9803 · 16/08/2026 18:09

I don't get the point of the lies - would you care either way if he has a dog or has seen a Monet exhibition? He gains nothing - can only imagine the lies when there is something in it for him

Mooma1961 · 16/08/2026 18:07

Reader.... I married him.
Been in the army/SAS....NO
Former girlfriend was expecting his baby, fell from a horse and dies....NO, no girlfriend, no baby...no horse
Father cut his leg off with a chainsaw....NO
And so on
Please do what I didn't....RUN, RUN, RUN

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 16/08/2026 17:53

SometimesThingsHappen · 16/08/2026 02:00

Bravo 🤣🤣🤣! OP, You must include that you are quite conservative in who you share your life with! 😂

I thought the 'deluded fantasist' covered the 'becoming a Conservative councillor' part quite nicely....

ThatWasAFunDay · 16/08/2026 17:48

Why are you even questioning this? He is dishonest and also really stupid.

LilWoosmum82 · 16/08/2026 17:47

Run.

Clydebuilt · 16/08/2026 11:40

What are you unsure about?

nopiesleftinthisvehicle · 16/08/2026 11:40

CelestialGazer · 15/08/2026 23:27

Tell him you can’t Bear to be with someone who is at best an eccentric liar and at worst a deluded fantasist, so you are ending it now before you waste any Monet on him.

And then block…

Superb 👏
Willing to bet a big clock he won't get it though.

Op, he's below you and that's one thing he does know.
Get rid already.

Spiffingdarling88 · 16/08/2026 11:19

BitOutOfPractice · 16/08/2026 09:06

Thanks! 🙄 what a lovely comment!

I was meant to be light hearted, as indicated by the “but seriously” part which you clearly missed.

As it happens I would struggle to be in a relationship where our values differed a great deal, but in this case I’d say that’s the least of OP’s worries.

With all the toxicity with politics, it's really not funny. Especially as it seems it's always targeting the right. It's about time these sorts of comments are called out.