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AIBU to end things over his constant pointless lies?

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DownTheJohn · 15/08/2026 23:08

Been seeing someone for a few months and I’ve now caught him out on at least 3 stupid lies.

  1. he told me he had a dog, a husky called Bear. He would talk about this dog almost daily “I took Bear to the beach today” “just been watching tv with bear” “bear has vets tonight at 4pm” etc. first time I went to his house there were no signs of a dog at all so I said “where is bear?” He looked confused, then panicked and then said “oh he died unfortunately” so I said “when?? Because late last night you said you were walking him early this morning …”. He said he died last night so I said “and you never mentioned it? Come on …” so he admitted he didn’t have a dog but bear did exist, it’s his sisters dog. This also turned out to be a lie.
  2. He told me he had joined the Conservative Party and was considering running as a councillor. This turned out to be a complete lie.
  3. he told me today that he had gone to see the Monet exhibition in the local art gallery. Yet tonight he was on the phone and I heard him confirm with his boss that he had worked a full day today starting at 9am and finishing at 5. Afterwards I said “thought you were at art gallery today?” So he stumbled on his words and said “oh - no - well yes I was but that was yesterday, I got my days mixed up” he literally called me at 2pm saying he had just left the art gallery!! I was meant to be staying at his house tonight but I’ve come home telling him I can’t be doing with the constant stupid lies. AIBU
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Hildegard25 · 17/08/2026 18:28

My only question is:

Why do you even need to ask us?

Suusue · 17/08/2026 13:59

RUN

MellowPinkBee · 17/08/2026 09:31

RUN!!!!

LienekeS · 17/08/2026 07:55

Why do you even ask? Mind boggling.

Retiredfromearlyyears · 17/08/2026 07:16

echt · 17/08/2026 04:35

Walter MItty didn't tell others about his fantasies, they were all in his head.

He was still a fantasist and my advice would still be as before. Offload him and fast!

Sensiblesal · 17/08/2026 05:12

No 1 would have fucked me off so much I would have ended it

No 3 is curious, why is he hiding that he is working. Maybe he went to the gallery in his lunch.

you can’t trust a word he says which wouldn’t bode well for a serious relationship

echt · 17/08/2026 04:35

Retiredfromearlyyears · 16/08/2026 18:53

Mmmm! A Walter Mitty. Dump him before things go from weird to dangerous.

Walter MItty didn't tell others about his fantasies, they were all in his head.

SoBoredOfSelfDoubtHowToGetOut · 17/08/2026 04:33

I would have dumped at the first ludicrous lie.

He’s an embarrassment.

noodlebugz · 17/08/2026 04:26

Why on earth didn’t you dump him after the lie about the lie about the dog?

Yeah I had a girlfriend called Betty once, went out with her yesterday….
Oh where is she today?
Oh well um she died.
Meanwhile Betty the girlfriend has been buried under his patio for 6 months.

canuckup · 17/08/2026 03:17

Madness

'bear's at the vets'

😂

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 17/08/2026 01:00

He is obviously trying to. impress you that he is somebody you may like because of his phoney, made up life style

Alcoholics can do this sort of thing when they get on track to becoming Patholgical Liars due to their addiction.

Zerosleep · 16/08/2026 23:06

I couldn’t cope with that, get rid of him.

ItsOkItsDarkChocolate · 16/08/2026 22:34

@DownTheJohn

OR… you stay with him a bit longer to study him and report back the other crazy shit he lies about next!!

Certainly don’t emotionally invest any further though.

RIP Bear 😂

AndImVictoriaMalcolm · 16/08/2026 22:13

If he’s lying about stupid shit he’s capable of lying about really important stuff too. Dump his arse.

Thepossibility · 16/08/2026 22:10

Ew, run. Then block. These lies are pointless and bizarre and I couldn't look him in the eye ever again. This guy lies as easily as he breathes.

notacooldad · 16/08/2026 21:37

Sounds like a keeper! 😆 🤣 😂

What a div, get rid of him .

Kimmers4334 · 16/08/2026 21:21

They’re not even very interesting lies! And he doesn’t sound very bright if he didn’t think about the fact he’d have to explain where the dog is. They are batshit but fairly harmless lies, what happens when he’s in a relationship and starts to lie about important things like finances or something to do with safety? Plus, imagine how sad it would be if you were his girlfriend and he was still making up pointless lies to make your life together seem more interesting

Pinkflamingo10 · 16/08/2026 21:21

run like the wind and don’t look back

Kizmet1 · 16/08/2026 21:18

I'd have dumped him after he killed off the fake dog, then resuscitated him for another lie!
OP, get out of there fast. These little lies seem to be built around impressing you in some way and making you think better of him. I feel very sorry for the guy, but surely the last thing you need is a chronic liar with deep insecurities that will require tending and monitoring and may never improve.
If things are bad/weird/uncomfortable even at the start, there is zero reason to tough it out.

worldshottestmom · 16/08/2026 21:09

BitOutOfPractice · 15/08/2026 23:24

Well for me he was dumped at “conservative party” but seriously wow, he sounds quite ill I’d say.

Yeah my immediate thought was also he has to have something seriously wrong with him. Lying like this is always symptomatic of a much worse problem that she will have to face further down the line

worldshottestmom · 16/08/2026 21:07

Would have been very creeped out about the dog thing and dumped him then tbh.

Run (much faster than the pace that he was running for Conservative councillor).

BitOutOfPractice · 16/08/2026 21:04

LuckyHazelFox · 16/08/2026 20:49

That was predictable.

Don’t worry. I’ve already been told off.

You're going to find the rest of the thread pretty tedious as lots of people have made the same point. So do yourself a favour and skip The rest unless you have something constructive to say to the op. I’m so bored of offended Tories quoting me now.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 16/08/2026 21:03

Spiffingdarling88 · 16/08/2026 11:19

With all the toxicity with politics, it's really not funny. Especially as it seems it's always targeting the right. It's about time these sorts of comments are called out.

Really? This makes you feel under attack?

I've seen comments on MN about people who are too "woke" and left liberals ect. Not to mention all the threads complaining about the current government.

Posters saying they wouldn't have dated a man who was a Conservative Councillor candidate is hardly a toxic comment.
Its a dating preference.

People often guage who they want to date based on sharing similar views on politics, films, music etc because they want to date someone with the same interests.

JenRummy · 16/08/2026 21:02

That’s wild OP. WTF 😬 was he thinking? You handled it like a boss all the same!

QuadrupleH · 16/08/2026 21:02

99% of me says dump and run, 1% says fight fire with fire and drop hints that you're a paid assassin.