To expect everyone at my wedding to stick to the colour scheme?

When the arrangements and the party are more important than the purpose of the event…..

my only question is why you have put up with her shit for so long?

She invited me on a woodland walk a week later. I declined because fuck me if I was going to wander around listening to how shit the birdsong and the bluebells are

@Autumnalbride I'm glad to see your sister hasn't quelled your sense of humour. Good job I wasn't drinking my coffee when I read this, I would probably have choked laughing

OP, I don't mind a reverso. I found this one very entertaining, especially the day trips with your sister. 😂 - but also 💐 to you. I'm desperate to know if she's a garden designer or just very, very critical of whatever's in front of her.

The trouble for me is, it brought back memories of an autumn-themed wedding for which I was tasked with finding browny-red bridesmaid dresses in a year when that colour was available precisely nowhere. Wish I'd stepped back right at the beginning & declined my role. I think you're right to step away from this one, although your posts after attending the wedding would've been hilarious. I agree with a PP: take the £300 & do something nice as a family.

As a person who doesn’t suit autumnal colours, I would not knowingly purchase something I wouldn’t wear again. I guess you’ll have to weigh up whether you’d rather have friends and family there in none autumnal colours, or only a smaller group of people wearing the colours you want.
Besides,, aren’t wedding colours only for things like the wedding party, napkins, chair colours etc. i don’t think it extends to the whole wedding..

Yeah, right. You are seriously expecting your guests to go and buy a red/brown/orange suit or dress? For ONE DAY? Think you've had a brain fart. FFS! Get over yourself!

My SIL wanted an autumn themed wedding, but if anything it was her fiancé who was more dictatorial about it. I remember he insisted that the best man, male relatives and all the sidesmen went to a particular suit hire place in Lancashire (we live in the South) so that they all had the same suits with burgundy waistcoats and jacket linings. My DH simply announced that that wasn't going to happen and wore grey, I wore a red jacket I already had over a neutral coloured dress. It was her second marriage, so I must admit we were even less inclined to spend a fortune on the wedding having shelled out once already.

The marriage didn't last anyway, with hindsight the mad wedding instructions should have warned both sides off.

It was for a good cause.....lol

kaki yellow I know a fellow.....lol

Well, she's come back now, and it's a VERY cross post!

The wedding photos.

I went to a wedding once, we was all asked to wear floral outfits yeah floral this was 2002 not the 1900s.

We all looked like we was let lose from floral fabric factory.
My friend said we have day release from the old people's home.

We all looked awful, the bride divorced in 2004.

Ok I have caught up with the "reverse" bit now.

Whilst your sister is generally being very, very unreasonable to expect adult men to buy a new suit for her wedding @Autumnalbride , I do think you could have easily got a formal outfit for your son in autumn colours - it's different for kids clothes, they don't get the same kind of tailoring so are pretty cheap anyway, and they will grow out of the outfit by the next time it is needed (hence so many 2nd hand nearly new ones available)

However on the path you are currently on you will probably be saving all expense as she won't want you to come at all with all this drama. And good luck to her, I'm sure she will find her carefully curated photo album of autumnal-coloured guests a great treasure, far more worthwhile than anything so trivial as the love of her sister.

Absolutely ridiculous and I wouldn’t be surprised if you end up with very few wedding guests after they hear about this!! Brown suits are not a popular colour for men so very few would already have one and I’m not even sure I’ve ever seen many in the shops!!
Bridal party is one thing but all the guests what nonsense!! We paid for our bridesmaids dresses and asked the male contingent to wear any blue suit they had. The only person who didn’t have one was my brother so we bought him one as it wasn’t fair to ask him to buy something he’d never wear again!!
If you’re more bothered about the look of the wedding than the actual meaning of it you’re not mature enough to be getting married!!

Odd how clearly it is the sister is being grossly unreasonable

and yet for some reason the OP’s DH is keen for the Op to remain in contact with her and maintain a relationship

I wonder…. Why?

I think I can sum this up in a sentence - your sister is a loon.
Well done for extricating yourself from her barmyness.
I really don't think a line up of blokes in ox blood and shit-brown suits is going to look the height of elegance she imagines it will.
Especially on the giant wall canvas she's bound to commission for the living room.

Yeah that's what I was thinking!

She sounds fucking nuts. She can get to fuck.

This has to be a joke surely

It’s quite a Halloween-y feel to it so perhaps a costume shop?!

I don't even know where you expect them to find suits in yellow, red and orange? A fancy dress shop?

Mens suits off the peg tend to come in shades of black or grey. I guess you might see brown occasionally. Wearing autumn themed tie, shirt, pocket square, even socks should be sufficient.

Exactly

Oh sorry I’ve now read more. Your sister is bat shit. Avoid.

Omg. Seriously? I just wouldn’t come. The need to dictate dress code for weddings in absolutely insane. Get over yourself.