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To expect everyone at my wedding to stick to the colour scheme?

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Autumnalbride · 15/08/2026 21:39

I'm having an autumn themed wedding. I've asked everyone, all the wedding party, family and all the guests to wear autumn colours - brown, orange, yellow, red etc.
Some of the men want to wear grey suits but I am upset by this because I don't see grey as an autumn colour. They say they will wear autumn coloured ties and accessories but I said I want the suits to be in Autumn colours
Is this unreasonable?

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Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 15/08/2026 23:03

Bridezilla alert.

Gengha · 15/08/2026 23:03

What if someone doesn’t have a brown suit? Are they expected to buy something new to match the colour scheme? Don’t be daft OP, YABU

Marycontrarygarden · 15/08/2026 23:02

Please tell me this is fake? 😂😂😂

SapphireSeptember · 15/08/2026 23:02

SunwaysSystems · 15/08/2026 23:01

You've not seen relentless grey rain from relentless grey skies on relentless grey asphalt in the autumn?

You and I are on the same page! 😁

SunwaysSystems · 15/08/2026 23:01

You've not seen relentless grey rain from relentless grey skies on relentless grey asphalt in the autumn?

SapphireSeptember · 15/08/2026 23:01

Grey is definitely an autumnal colour because of cloudy skies!

TheLemonLemur · 15/08/2026 23:00

If this is serious i would expect plenty people to not attend. What is more important sharing the day with your friends/family or a good pic for instagram 🙄

Itsjustshite · 15/08/2026 23:00

Sorry but that is ridiculous. If you insisted on a colour scheme I would decline to attend.

Sereine · 15/08/2026 23:00

Assuming this is a reverse and you're a guest, just ignore the mad Bridezilla and turn up wearing whatever colour you like, other than white.

Aubin7 · 15/08/2026 22:57

Good grief!
Were you paying for their outfits? If not, YABU.
I don't have a dress that is brown, orange or yellow that is suitable for a wedding.

JJWT · 15/08/2026 22:55

Unless you are buying all the clothes you absolutely do not get to tell anyone what to wear and even if you did buy them they can still opt not to wear what you buy. Have you lost sight of why you're getting married? You sound unhinged.

grrrlatrix · 15/08/2026 22:54

😂
is all I can muster.

IsThisEverOkay00 · 15/08/2026 22:54

Such an increase in YABU posts recently. It used to be only for the real conundrums. Was it the polling option that changed things? I’m talking years ago having been on MN since early days.

GardenCovent · 15/08/2026 22:53

YABU
what colour is your dress

DeftGoldHedgehog · 15/08/2026 22:52

Haha, the thread gallery is wonderful.

Hohofortherobbers · 15/08/2026 22:51

Send them your dress as inspo

To expect everyone at my wedding to stick to the colour scheme?
CruelsummerTS · 15/08/2026 22:49

YABU brown suits look awful. Grey is neutral.

ClairDeLaLune · 15/08/2026 22:49

People will be laughing about you behind your back OP. Your wedding will be remembered as the most ridiculous one they’ve ever been to.

DarkLion · 15/08/2026 22:49

If you’re not paying for their outfits, it’s unreasonable to expect people to buy something they might not already have, to attend your wedding

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 22:48

Bridezilla!

Sally2791 · 15/08/2026 22:47

Good grief. MN gets madder every day

LaurieFairyCake · 15/08/2026 22:47

Yes, suits cost a fortune - hundreds in bright red and orange. And they’re not colours they will wear again, they’re not Laurence Llewelyn Bowen 😂

you are COMPLETELY UNREASONABLE

lordbaddingham · 15/08/2026 22:46

Surely another joke thread, good one OP. Expecting your guests to buy brown, orange or yellow suits (!) solely for your wedding (as they certainly won't be able to wear them to anything else) -good luck there.

DaysIllRememberAllMyLife · 15/08/2026 22:45

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