Made a promise I can’t deliver on

Why is she going to have a number of detentions? If she behaves and follows the rules then she’ll be fine!

I do find some schools very strict when it comes to piercings. A friends school has the same policy so she had her daughters done right at the end of the school year and they healed enough for the re start of school in September.

My daughter had her 1sts done at the end of year 5, her seconds at the end of year 7 and her 3rds at the end of year 8 and her belly button done at the end of year 10.

Her school only ever asked her to remove them when she wore anything but studs and for PE, I don’t think they even knew about her belly button piercing.

Clearly for any child that knowingly is breaking the school dress code, why would it be 'everyone' that got detention for that🙄?

Six weeks should be fine. Why don’t you get it done start of the week she leaves primary? Where I live that gives you 7 weeks. Should be enough - she can put them back in after school every day so they are in 4pm to 8am (16 hours).

Its actually what they can wear to school, the pupils can do what they want and wear what thay want outside school - and the reason they think they can dictate on it, is that they can, as this school has shown

Absolutely agree. There are very good health and safety reasons around the wearing of earrings.

Who told you to expect a number of detentions? That seems extreme. Just for your child or everyone?

If it's 3 weeks, then you could explain the school situation and say she can have it as an early Christmas gift instead.

Why can't she get them done 1/2 weeks before the end of the summer term? Are they allowed to cover them with tape for PE at primary?
Alternatively 6 weeks should be fine to take the out during the day and put them in as soon as she comes home and leave in overnight.
DD took hers out for an activity weekend about 3 months after having hers pierced and she had to have one redone because it closed over so although they heal after 6 weeks it can take longer to stay open

well you’ve certainly left it too late now. Even when I had mine done 40 years ago the recommendation wasn’t 8 weeks. Do it at the start of next year’s summer holidays and it’ll be find by the time school starts

I hate how parents choose a school then moan about the rules of the school that they chose!

If you don't like the school rules then find another school that does allow earrings.

How long is her hair?

Clear studs will not be seen unless she has really short hair or a ponytail.

Have them pierced on the first day of the holidays next summer. 6 weeks should be long enough.

This. Life is disappointing at times

Thing is if she’s not allowed to wear earrings won’t they close up? She’ll have to put them in every weekend if she can’t wear them the rest of the time surely
You could do it asap and take the school up on the isolation. Serves them right tbh.. what’s wrong with earrings? Is it risk of injury

My son has been accepted in to a selective school, too. They're allowed two small studs, dainty necklaces and even a nose stud.
Whereas I went to a school that would really punish you for any type of jewellery. I find it so odd.

You’ve wrapped up your anxieties about the school into this promise about earrings. Do not present it to your dd that way.

To her it’s just a promise about earrings and you’ve already missed the ‘after primary’ moment and are half way to secondary school now. Sorry, we’ll do it next summer, let’s buy a new school bag / nice pens or something instead.

Ridiculous of the school to not allow earrings at all as if the break is only six weeks then it means effectively, girls cannot get their ears pierced until they leave school at 18, which is overstepping into their private life. I'd do it at the very end of term as @user1492757084 says.

DD1 went to a superselective girls grammar and they allowed two small studs in each ear.

Explain to DD like you have here. She will have many school mates in the same boat.
I would see out the first year.
The weekend before school breaks, might be a good option. Your DD would have to sit in isolation room from whenever they notice her ears under her hair until the end of term.

Similar at the start of the next year.

I hate how schools dictate what kids can do to their bodies. It's only lobe piercings ffs.
I'd just get them done and try to cover them with her hair.

Yeah, unfathomable to me but it seems a big thing for some people.

DH’s reaction to being diagnosed with a fairly rare form of cancer and warned that he would be in hospital for months was ‘great, now I can finally get an ear pierced’.

He worked in a formal environment and had to remove his earring when in the office.

This.

All primary schools in my area are really strict about no earrings. My DD got hers done on the first day of the summer holidays and left them in until the first day of school in September. We put them in for bedtime every night and removed each morning - they've been fine.

It was six weeks when my DD had hers done and all the girls went at the end of Y6 (no earrings allowed in junior school but studs allowed in senior). Doubt it’s eight weeks but bit late now anyway!

Wow I thought it was donating a kidney or something...Christ. it's earrings. Tell her you've screwed up, next summer holidays you'll get it done day one and it will be ok come 6 weeks later if she takes care to keep everything clean