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Popping to the shop - which makes more sense?

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 15/08/2026 10:43

Am I going insane??

Two adults.

One is cycling in to the local high street for a coffee with child. Coffee spot literally across the street from M&S.

One is driving in to the same town centre to drop off a child at the library, will not be getting out of the car, but because of the layout of the road will have to drive past the back of the same M&S.

one adult suggests to the other that they pop in and pick up some rolls and cold cuts for lunch, as they will be feet away from the shop, bikes already chained up.

the cycling adult says they think the other adult should do it, they are driving right past it. Driving adult explains they have no intention of getting out of the car, so it would add on a car parking space faff/fee.

they’ve reached an impasse, as both adults think it makes more sense for the other to go.

thoughts please?

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lovingthebeachlife · 15/08/2026 11:43

Shinyhappyapple · 15/08/2026 11:16

I think it’s odd you would cycle into a town centre to have a cup of coffee with someone you live with TBH.

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This is what keeps me coming back to MNs, just when you think people cannot get any odder 😆😆😆

pinkfondu · 15/08/2026 11:42

I’m not sure who should go, but whoever goes can you grab some picky bits for me please?

lovingthebeachlife · 15/08/2026 11:42

neither, get it delivered

Whaleandsnail6 · 15/08/2026 11:40

Shinyhappyapple · 15/08/2026 11:16

I think it’s odd you would cycle into a town centre to have a cup of coffee with someone you live with TBH.

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Why? Its the kind of outing my kids love ..bit of exercise and treat food or drink out.

mondaytosunday · 15/08/2026 11:39

Bikers. They don’t have to park, they don’t have to pay to park, and they are already on foot.

zingally · 15/08/2026 11:38

Cyclist should do it. If they are travelling in by bike, with a child, it can't be that far away, so zero risk of the meat spoiling during the ride back.

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 15/08/2026 11:36

Catwalking · 15/08/2026 11:34

doesnt the cyclist ever drive in town on a (maybe hot?) saturday!

Yeah. They aren’t a permanent cyclist. Just on occasion, and today was one of them

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Catwalking · 15/08/2026 11:34

doesnt the cyclist ever drive in town on a (maybe hot?) saturday!

HoppityBun · 15/08/2026 11:26

Don’t bother with rolls or cold cuts for lunch

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 15/08/2026 11:23

TheOnlyOneWho · 15/08/2026 11:16

The cyclist should pick up the bits from M&S. The other child should also go by bike into town with the cyclists. The car should stay on the drive and the driver should have a sangria the garden with their new-found freedom.

This is actually the most sensible thing I’ve read so far this summer.

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 15/08/2026 11:23

Shinyhappyapple · 15/08/2026 11:16

I think it’s odd you would cycle into a town centre to have a cup of coffee with someone you live with TBH.

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What?! 🤣🤣
people go out for refreshments with people they live with all the time. High streets are usually littered with places to eat and drink. It’s a short cycle away, and makes it more of an event for the kids to cycle and get some
fresh air, then to drive in.

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Mountainpika · 15/08/2026 11:22

All cycle in, coffee, shop, home.

Itiswhysofew · 15/08/2026 11:21

Both could easily manage. Toss a coin.

concertinacornflake · 15/08/2026 11:17

Shinyhappyapple · 15/08/2026 11:16

I think it’s odd you would cycle into a town centre to have a cup of coffee with someone you live with TBH.

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What? How else would a cyclist get into town?

TheOnlyOneWho · 15/08/2026 11:16

The cyclist should pick up the bits from M&S. The other child should also go by bike into town with the cyclists. The car should stay on the drive and the driver should have a sangria the garden with their new-found freedom.

Shinyhappyapple · 15/08/2026 11:16

I think it’s odd you would cycle into a town centre to have a cup of coffee with someone you live with TBH.

dudsville · 15/08/2026 11:12

It's an added chore for either one, there are pros and cons both ways. No one is going to "win" this one,

Floatlikeafeather2 · 15/08/2026 11:10

BillieWiper · 15/08/2026 10:57

'Cold cuts' from M&S? I've never heard anyone in the UK calling deli meat/sandwich fillings that. Are you American?

Sorry it matters not much! I think maybe the cycler should get the stuff. The driver isn't getting out of the car and parking would be extra faff/cost but the cyclist is already going to the high street to actually use it. And M&S is kind of part of that trip. Before or after the coffee.

And the child might like to go too? Or at least they might like treat from there. But I guess that goes for either child.

What would you say then @BillieWiper - picky bits? "Cold cuts" is very very English and perfectly acceptable.

SpringSparrow · 15/08/2026 11:09

I’m willing to bet the cyclist is a man 👀. I think the cyclist should get it unless it’s possible to park for free.

DeanGaffneysCumFace · 15/08/2026 11:05

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 15/08/2026 10:58

No, not American 🤣 but currently perimenopausal and ‘deli meat’ could not be found anywhere in my brain.

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Don't warm your cold cuts up on a disposable bbq

Whaleandsnail6 · 15/08/2026 11:05

Driver

Sounds like cyclist has a lovely activity planned with child and having to carry shopping back on the bike is a bit of a faff and extra weight

Car can park up, nip in and easily transport shopping back.

If car driver had no intention of leaving the house and driving to where M and S is, I'd say cyclist should do it, but driver has to just add a little inconvenience, feels like the inconvenience is more for cyclist

ColdAsAWitches · 15/08/2026 11:03

Cyclist. But it very much sounds like you're the driver.

MassiveOvaryaction · 15/08/2026 11:01

Car person if it's as hot there as it is here. Unless cycling person has a cool bag.

concertinacornflake · 15/08/2026 10:59

BillieWiper · 15/08/2026 10:57

'Cold cuts' from M&S? I've never heard anyone in the UK calling deli meat/sandwich fillings that. Are you American?

Sorry it matters not much! I think maybe the cycler should get the stuff. The driver isn't getting out of the car and parking would be extra faff/cost but the cyclist is already going to the high street to actually use it. And M&S is kind of part of that trip. Before or after the coffee.

And the child might like to go too? Or at least they might like treat from there. But I guess that goes for either child.

Cold cuts is fine!

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 15/08/2026 10:58

BillieWiper · 15/08/2026 10:57

'Cold cuts' from M&S? I've never heard anyone in the UK calling deli meat/sandwich fillings that. Are you American?

Sorry it matters not much! I think maybe the cycler should get the stuff. The driver isn't getting out of the car and parking would be extra faff/cost but the cyclist is already going to the high street to actually use it. And M&S is kind of part of that trip. Before or after the coffee.

And the child might like to go too? Or at least they might like treat from there. But I guess that goes for either child.

No, not American 🤣 but currently perimenopausal and ‘deli meat’ could not be found anywhere in my brain.

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