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BBQ party tonight

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Grumpynan · 15/08/2026 08:29

We have planned a family get together this evening with a charcoal bbq in the garden. I hasten to add it’s a proper one not disposable.

should we still go ahead, or should I play save and cook the food indoors, what’s everyone else doing,

I mean, it stresses disposable bbq, says nothing about kettle ones in a garden. But I don’t want to cause any problems, and tbh we have a lot of trees around us and I’m a little worried, DH says I’m being silly but ?

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Summersorcherisjustsummer · 15/08/2026 11:04

@concertinacornflake yes I'd use my hose to douse my house as well

PizzaPartyForOne · 15/08/2026 11:04

The people saying they would continue clearly arent living in an area suffering with fires. In south Wales its been smokey for weeks due to the fires, the firefighters are working 16 hour shifts and people have lost their homes.

It’s scary how quickly these fires get out of control, a bit of common decency to everyone else and the fore service would be to eliminate the risk where everyone possible, just grill your burgers inside!!

Summersorcherisjustsummer · 15/08/2026 11:03

Op I've only read the first page but unless your in a massive detached house miles from anyone please don't have the BBQ
Others will be panicking and bracing for loosing their homes just because someone wants flamed food. It's not worth it please don't.

Mrstawnyowl · 15/08/2026 11:02

I woke up last night thinking about Andy Burnham’s tinderbox comment. I’m concerned and longing all the more for a decent spell of rain. Where are all the thunderstorms that we normally get between heatwaves? It wouldn’t be so bad if we were getting those as well as warm and dry.

valadon68 · 15/08/2026 11:01

NetZeroZealot · 15/08/2026 10:47

Yes. If you read on it also says “ Never leave a household barbecue unattended and ensure it is fully extinguished after use.”

Saw that, not sure you saw my whole post. But anyway, I've made my point, probably best I get off MN and do something else!

HelpMeGetThrough · 15/08/2026 11:01

concertinacornflake · 15/08/2026 10:51

Let's have an ethical discussion - if your neighbour's BBQ starts a fire but there's a hosepipe ban, should you use your hosepipe to stop their house burning down or see it as natural justice?

I don’t have a hose, so he’d be buggered. Not sure a garden hose would be of great use with a house fire.

Rpop · 15/08/2026 11:00

Grumpynan · 15/08/2026 08:29

We have planned a family get together this evening with a charcoal bbq in the garden. I hasten to add it’s a proper one not disposable.

should we still go ahead, or should I play save and cook the food indoors, what’s everyone else doing,

I mean, it stresses disposable bbq, says nothing about kettle ones in a garden. But I don’t want to cause any problems, and tbh we have a lot of trees around us and I’m a little worried, DH says I’m being silly but ?

We were going to have a bbq this evening too (food in fridge from online shop several days ago).

However, we are not. Thankfully DH has agreed with me not to. The distain from neighbours alone would be enough, let alone needless risk (we would be super careful with buckets of water etc but it’s still fairly crap behaviour when others have lost their homes and firefighters are risking lives).

Whosthetabbynow · 15/08/2026 10:59

See, it’s shit like this that necessitated the government alert.

BlueMum16 · 15/08/2026 10:58

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 15/08/2026 09:04

This reminds me of Covid when people were looking for reasons to get away with doing things they knew were wrong based on a technicality. Don’t have the bbq op - cook the food indoors.

This reminds me of COVID when people made up their own version of the rules.
The alert and news articles are about disposable BBQ. OP isn't using a disposable one

catspyjamas1 · 15/08/2026 10:57

DyslexicPoster · 15/08/2026 10:50

Well cooking indoors and using candels can start a fire. Also having a electric vehicle. Squirels in your loft space. Power banks. Phone chargers.

Personally I'm not taking the risk. My phones is flat btw and typing thus via ESP..... there's some mild electrical brain function going on and I'm mostly water, so I don't think there is any possibility of a spark. But I'm not sure if I'm qualified to calculate thar risk after reading this thread.

I'm sure if you look at the statistics you have more chance of burning a house down from within than from a bbq. I know they are saying being carful right now because we in climate tinder box. But seriously using my gas hob is a fire risk. That is not what the alert meant.

"Any activity that start a fire"

Turning on a gas hob "starts a fire"

My phones is flat btw and typing thus via ESP

😂😂😂

concertinacornflake · 15/08/2026 10:56

IslaLewis · 15/08/2026 10:49

So how is an open flame on your patio going to cause a fire in nearby fields?

It's disposable BBQs that are the risk as they are put on the ground usually in fields and parks, and sparks can fly or they are left behind as litter when not fully extinguished.

Critical thinking is missing from this thread.

You've misunderstood why people are saying better not to use BBQs at all - the primary risk at home is that if you need firefighter response, they are already busy, at a time when fire will take hold faster.

There are BBQ fires every week. This week the firefighters are already busy.

MiceSpiders · 15/08/2026 10:55

To be fair there is a subsection of mums etters who hate BBQs at any time, won't someone think of the laundry! BBQs in the day and spider willies by night!

daffodilandtulip · 15/08/2026 10:55

And people questioned why we needed to use the national alert system to say there was a high risk of fires.

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 10:52

Ginmonkeyagain · 15/08/2026 10:49

I am not entirely sure people do know the risks in their own garden.

We are in an unprecedented situation in this country where it has not rained for over a month in some areas, add in the drying effect of repeated 30 degree plus heatwaves and pretty much everything in your garden is combustable.

I know exactly the risks in my own garden which is why I will continue to use my BBQ, and fire pit.

UniquePinkSwan · 15/08/2026 10:51

concertinacornflake · 15/08/2026 10:51

Let's have an ethical discussion - if your neighbour's BBQ starts a fire but there's a hosepipe ban, should you use your hosepipe to stop their house burning down or see it as natural justice?

No. Mumsnetters would like it.

concertinacornflake · 15/08/2026 10:51

HelpMeGetThrough · 15/08/2026 10:49

A hose? If your neighbour is a mumsnetter they would have a nervous breakdown!! A BBQ and a hose, that’s a full house of anxiety right there.

Let's have an ethical discussion - if your neighbour's BBQ starts a fire but there's a hosepipe ban, should you use your hosepipe to stop their house burning down or see it as natural justice?

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 10:51

user1464187087 · 15/08/2026 10:50

I would be highly embarrassed. I would also feel bad for worrying the neighbours and the emergency services, who are very stretched at the moment. Including 999 call handlers.

Surely it would be the neighbours who should
be embarrassed for wasting emergency services time?

UniquePinkSwan · 15/08/2026 10:51

user1464187087 · 15/08/2026 10:50

I would be highly embarrassed. I would also feel bad for worrying the neighbours and the emergency services, who are very stretched at the moment. Including 999 call handlers.

There is no way they are coming out for a gas bbq. I’d be embarrassed to be the caller.

IslaLewis · 15/08/2026 10:51

Ginmonkeyagain · 15/08/2026 10:49

I am not entirely sure people do know the risks in their own garden.

We are in an unprecedented situation in this country where it has not rained for over a month in some areas, add in the drying effect of repeated 30 degree plus heatwaves and pretty much everything in your garden is combustable.

BBQs that are using charcoal do not have sparks.

Smoke yes- lots of it.

DyslexicPoster · 15/08/2026 10:50

GoldenSandy · 15/08/2026 10:04

"any activity that could start a fire"

They probably hoped adults wouldn't need every activity listed.

Well cooking indoors and using candels can start a fire. Also having a electric vehicle. Squirels in your loft space. Power banks. Phone chargers.

Personally I'm not taking the risk. My phones is flat btw and typing thus via ESP..... there's some mild electrical brain function going on and I'm mostly water, so I don't think there is any possibility of a spark. But I'm not sure if I'm qualified to calculate thar risk after reading this thread.

I'm sure if you look at the statistics you have more chance of burning a house down from within than from a bbq. I know they are saying being carful right now because we in climate tinder box. But seriously using my gas hob is a fire risk. That is not what the alert meant.

"Any activity that start a fire"

Turning on a gas hob "starts a fire"

user1464187087 · 15/08/2026 10:50

UniquePinkSwan · 15/08/2026 10:43

If someone reported me for having a gas bbq, I’d piss myself laughing.

I would be highly embarrassed. I would also feel bad for worrying the neighbours and the emergency services, who are very stretched at the moment. Including 999 call handlers.

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 10:50

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 15/08/2026 10:45

i would have a bbq in our garden. It is a huge patio. There is no risk whatsoever. Only you know the risk in your own garden.

Disposable bbqs were specifically mentioned in the alert.

Same. Made a loverly cooked breakfast in my outdoor kitchen this morning. Gas BBQ on my area.

IslaLewis · 15/08/2026 10:49

nutmeg7 · 15/08/2026 09:41

It’s open flames that are the issue.

So how is an open flame on your patio going to cause a fire in nearby fields?

It's disposable BBQs that are the risk as they are put on the ground usually in fields and parks, and sparks can fly or they are left behind as litter when not fully extinguished.

Critical thinking is missing from this thread.

SleepyHollowed84 · 15/08/2026 10:49

Just do it but please be careful and don't expect the fire service to help you if you come into difficulty.

Ginmonkeyagain · 15/08/2026 10:49

I am not entirely sure people do know the risks in their own garden.

We are in an unprecedented situation in this country where it has not rained for over a month in some areas, add in the drying effect of repeated 30 degree plus heatwaves and pretty much everything in your garden is combustable.

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