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BBQ party tonight

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Grumpynan · 15/08/2026 08:29

We have planned a family get together this evening with a charcoal bbq in the garden. I hasten to add it’s a proper one not disposable.

should we still go ahead, or should I play save and cook the food indoors, what’s everyone else doing,

I mean, it stresses disposable bbq, says nothing about kettle ones in a garden. But I don’t want to cause any problems, and tbh we have a lot of trees around us and I’m a little worried, DH says I’m being silly but ?

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Rpop · 15/08/2026 11:35

Shmee1988 · 15/08/2026 10:41

Have the damn bbq. Everyone saying not to is nuts. Straight after the alert our service 'Dorset Fire and Rescue' up dated all their socials with a message that basically said 'please do not call us to report someone having a controlled bbq. We do not have the power to intervene as tonights security message was a reminder of sensible behaviour surrounding fire'.
Bbqs are not banned. We had a bbq on the beach last night. A proper one not disposable. Beach security were happy enough and it was tended to by a group of responsible adults. Go ahead with the bbq. People are over reacting. If you were asking if you could use a disposable in the forest, then that would be different.

I just don’t trust the BBQ brigade to all act totally sensibly. En masse, if 10,000 people have garden bbqs at the moment, something somewhere could go badly wrong. As a collective, I think we have a duty of care to one another just to not bother having a bbq. I’m cancelling the one I was going to have tonight (even though it’s a large closed bbq and my husband always stays with it 100% of the time and we would have buckets of water and it’s even near our hose, and we’re really responsible people). However, as a collective we all need to pull together. Missing a burger is hardly a sacrifice. There was a lot of selfish behaviour in Covid which was theoretically ok, but common sense suggested the perpetrator was just a tad selfish.

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 11:35

viques · 15/08/2026 11:25

Congratulations. You get a 🏅for the most subtle boast post.

It’s only a silver, would have been a gold if you had pointed out that you could use the water from the swimming pool in the unlikely event of fire.😍

JFC. They have a bbq and pizza oven. Hardly unheard off.

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 15/08/2026 11:31

It takes a tiny bit of sparking on dry grass, bone dry fencing, bone dry trees to spread. The phrase ‘spreading like wildfire’ is a simile because nothing moves like it. You’d be mad.

Heronwatcher · 15/08/2026 11:31

Honestly this once, could you not do some pulled pork in the oven or something?

Heronwatcher · 15/08/2026 11:30

Also depending on where you live you’ll
probably have neighbours knocking on the door and, at worst, calling the fire brigade which might spoil the party mood! We’ve had a few fires near me- we live very close to heathland- so we’re all on red alert at the moment.

Anyahyacinth · 15/08/2026 11:30

BlueMum16 · 15/08/2026 10:58

This reminds me of COVID when people made up their own version of the rules.
The alert and news articles are about disposable BBQ. OP isn't using a disposable one

She's using a magical one with no heat or sparks

Heronwatcher · 15/08/2026 11:28

I think the risk is probably minimal but I wouldn’t take it myself.

The level of risk will also depend on how big your garden is and what it’s got in it at the moment. Even though charcoal has no naked flame I would worry that if the BBQ was tipped up, or some charcoal fell out and landed on the floor it might be incredibly difficult to stop a fire spreading at the moment in my own garden (which is dry as a bone). In Scotland last week though I probably would have been fine with it.

Cloudysky81 · 15/08/2026 11:27

viques · 15/08/2026 11:25

Congratulations. You get a 🏅for the most subtle boast post.

It’s only a silver, would have been a gold if you had pointed out that you could use the water from the swimming pool in the unlikely event of fire.😍

Our big green egg is actually next to the pool.

In the very unlikely event it erupts into an uncontrollable fire tonight, I'll push it into the pool. I hope that will satisfy the fire wardens on here.

Daskar · 15/08/2026 11:27

KnittingOnEmpty · 15/08/2026 08:39

Didn't you get the alert? Why do you think it doesn't apply to you? Do not have a BBQ, disposable or not!

The alert only mentioned disposable bbqs.

people virtue signalling to show who can comply with and follow the rules the most are very weird! Giving Covid mask monitors

just be sensible. Obviously don’t bbq on a very dry lawn, have extinguishers to hand etc

NotMajorTom · 15/08/2026 11:26

hoptart · 15/08/2026 11:22

We’re going ahead with our planned BBQ at home today. The is nothing in the guidance prohibiting it and it’s perfectly safe. People have lost their minds over this, getting flashbacks to covid times. It’s like some enjoy the chance to overreact hysterically and virtue signal about how they’re going over and above to comply with rules that don’t even exist.

You are part of the problem

Anyahyacinth · 15/08/2026 11:26

valadon68 · 15/08/2026 09:19

Creating extra heat is a bad idea. I think we're all now more clued up about smoke affecting air quality. And third, your neighbours several doors down won't know what kind of fire it is when they smell smoke so you will be winding them right up.
Homes have just been destroyed, people are on edge, have a bit of respect for the spirit and importance of the alert, surely...

Someone was setting off fireworks yesterday morning near us. It just breeds irritation and anxiety at a time when we should be pulling together.

Love this

viques · 15/08/2026 11:25

YouSawBrigadoon · 15/08/2026 08:56

Our charcoal barbecue is in an outdoor kitchen area on concrete ground and with stainless steel work surfaces. A garden hose is right next to it. I could take a risk managed approach as there is zero risk of us starting a fire. We’re having friends over tonight. We’re not barbecuing, but we are going to cook pizzas in the outdoor pizza oven. Again, absolutely zero risk of starting a fire.

Congratulations. You get a 🏅for the most subtle boast post.

It’s only a silver, would have been a gold if you had pointed out that you could use the water from the swimming pool in the unlikely event of fire.😍

hoptart · 15/08/2026 11:22

We’re going ahead with our planned BBQ at home today. The is nothing in the guidance prohibiting it and it’s perfectly safe. People have lost their minds over this, getting flashbacks to covid times. It’s like some enjoy the chance to overreact hysterically and virtue signal about how they’re going over and above to comply with rules that don’t even exist.

PensionPTake · 15/08/2026 11:22

I'm glad someone posted a link to the actual gov guidance. I said last night the alert was unclear re normal bbqs. Don't be surprised if someone dobs you in though lol

99victoria · 15/08/2026 11:17

Whosthetabbynow · 15/08/2026 10:59

See, it’s shit like this that necessitated the government alert.

On the contrary - it's the alert that has caused all the issues because it was incorrectly sent out as an 'emergency' when it could have been sent as a public information text and it could have been more specific and given more guidance so that people didn't end up insulting each other like they are doing on this thread. They could have simply said 'do not have bbqs' but they didn't. So now everyone is getting hysterical - surely banning smoking would be the most effective way to stop wildfires!

Just heard on the radio that the Fire Service have had to put out a message asking people not to ring 999 to report their neighbours having bbqs!

Rpop · 15/08/2026 11:17

Livelovebehappy · 15/08/2026 08:59

I dont think for a minute many people will take any notice of the ban on bbqs or fireworks/fires. Where i live its Asian wedding season. And yep. Fireworks going off last night from 9 til 1 this morning. No change there. And at least two neighbours on our road had bbqs last night. We live in a self entitled society i'm afraid where people just do their own thing and dont consider the environment they live in...

Fireworks here too the other night. Totally and utterly stupid.

Ginmonkeyagain · 15/08/2026 11:15

@Sherararara good for you on doing a through and new risk assessment for a few cooked sausages, not sure of I could be arsed.

To be less sarcastic I am not sure I currently know the risk of fire in my garden as this situation is not at all normal and I have no idea how vegetation this dry will react to heat or even small sparks.

OneDreamyAquaEagle · 15/08/2026 11:15

NetZeroZealot · 15/08/2026 09:17

The alert quite clearly referred to disposable barbecues. Self contained ones in gardens are allowed. Of course you should be sensible.

  • Immediate ban on disposable barbecues introduced to help prevent further fires

People across England and Wales will receive an Emergency Alert on their phones today as the Government steps up action to protect communities from the growing threat posed by wildfires.
The alert, that will be sent on a rolling basis from approximately 19:00, will warn people not to light anything that could spark a fire, including barbecues, campfires, and fireworks.
This guidance is somewhat contradictory!

OneDreamyAquaEagle · 15/08/2026 11:14

Cloudysky81 · 15/08/2026 09:01

A non disposable BBQ is fine as long as you're using it safely. If it's a gas BBQ it's very safe. A charcoal one requires adequate safety measures.

It's specifically disposable BBQs that are banned because they are being left on the ground after use and the owners have gone home and starting fires.

An ember from a BBQ can only travel a couple of metres. Presuming you have a decent sized garden clear an area around it. Ensure you're watching it at all times and stay outside with it until it's fully out.

Even in Aus during bushfire season gas BBQs are not banned.
I would just read the Australian guidance on BBQ safety during bushfire season and do what they do.

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  • Immediate ban on disposable barbecues introduced to help prevent further fires
People across England and Wales will receive an Emergency Alert on their phones today as the Government steps up action to protect communities from the growing threat posed by wildfires. The alert, that will be sent on a rolling basis from approximately 19:00, will warn people not to light anything that could spark a fire, including barbecues, campfires, and fireworks. Recipients will also be urged to report any fire immediately by calling 999.
lanadelgrey · 15/08/2026 11:11

I just don’t get why having the food cooked over charcoal is such a deal breaker. You are having some friends over for a meal in the garden, which is lovely and surely the main point of the evening. I would be watching nervously if there was a BBQ lit atm by my BBQ loving neighbours. Cook inside and bring it out, sure it’s a change in plans but you’d change them if it suddenly tipped down - soggy DH bring food inside possibly but you’d have still have the gathering still and have a nice evening

UniquePinkSwan · 15/08/2026 11:10

NotMajorTom · 15/08/2026 11:07

Hasn’t been banned but anyone sensible would clearly think “maybe best not eh”

A gas bbq is highly unlikely to cause a fire and I wouldn’t care if my neighbours had one

NotMajorTom · 15/08/2026 11:07

number1of7 · 15/08/2026 11:06

God some of you love enforcing a rule. Huge difference between cheepo disposable bbq on bricks or a bonfire and a proper gas bbq. Which hasn’t been banned.

Hasn’t been banned but anyone sensible would clearly think “maybe best not eh”

Shoxfordian · 15/08/2026 11:07

It hasn't been banned, it's also cooling down now so it'll be fine. I don't think you need to cancel or amend your bbq

number1of7 · 15/08/2026 11:06

God some of you love enforcing a rule. Huge difference between cheepo disposable bbq on bricks or a bonfire and a proper gas bbq. Which hasn’t been banned.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 15/08/2026 11:05

Goodness - so long as you are using your BBQ on the patio and not on the floor in the middle of yellowed grass [ie like normal people], using a proper BBQ is fine. The risk of disposable BBS is that people light them and place them on the ground, usually in parks and gardens, so they can spark a fire. It;s not rocket scence.

Cannot understand the level of discourse on this. Just have your flipping BBQ as planned.

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