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BBQ party tonight

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Grumpynan · 15/08/2026 08:29

We have planned a family get together this evening with a charcoal bbq in the garden. I hasten to add it’s a proper one not disposable.

should we still go ahead, or should I play save and cook the food indoors, what’s everyone else doing,

I mean, it stresses disposable bbq, says nothing about kettle ones in a garden. But I don’t want to cause any problems, and tbh we have a lot of trees around us and I’m a little worried, DH says I’m being silly but ?

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Northernladdette · 15/08/2026 20:08

Drench the grass around it and go ahead 🙂

greencitrine · 15/08/2026 19:54

Definition of 'like covid all over again': someone somewhere taking a precaution I don't think is necessary or don't want to think might be necessary.

Jllllllll · 15/08/2026 19:47

How often do your bbq’s cause a fire? A proper well managed bbq is absolutely fine. A disposable one on the grass is not. This is Covid mentality again.

KP93 · 15/08/2026 19:46

This thread is an eye opener. How many fires are started because of a stand alone gas/charcoal bbq!?

Get on with the bbq on a patio and as someone else said, get a hose/bucket of water nearby if you are that worried.

Wouldn’t even cross my mind that we couldn’t have a bbq in the garden..

Aethelred · 15/08/2026 19:45

Have people over but cook food in the kitchen.

Perimenipausalmum · 15/08/2026 19:41

It only said disposable BBQ's

BBQ party tonight
CandidHedgehog · 15/08/2026 18:47

hoptart · 15/08/2026 17:50

They said charcoal BBQs are banned on total fire ban days. Gas BBQs are still permitted, precisely because they pose a negligible risk.

Tell that to my sister whose gas BBQ caught on fire.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 15/08/2026 18:25

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Um, neither. I actually was agreeing with you.
My first paragraph was sarcasm aimed at the posters and their buckets of water that'll apparently put out a fire on dry grass before it takes hold🙄.

HoraceCope · 15/08/2026 18:09

Mrcollinswave · 15/08/2026 14:37

I agree she probably shouldn't use the bbq this weekend, due to not being able to relax and potentially upsetting the neighbours, but why would she get indigestion? I've never had indigestion from a bbq and will definitely be using mine again once this heatwave and wildfire risk is over! I'll be doing it in the pouring rain! 😆

i meant from the stress Grin

Thisismyfinesthour · 15/08/2026 18:06

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Thisismyfinesthour · 15/08/2026 18:00

Ahhhwhattodo · 15/08/2026 13:37

Well on that note everyone, just to be on the safe side I’ll not be using my gas hob until further notice. I’ve unplugged the toaster too. Sandwiches all round!

Can nobody use any sensible logic anymore? Disposable BBQs in wild woodlands - bad. Normal BBQ on your patio is NOT what they are warning us about. If you’re lighting it on scorched grass then yes use your brain.

You're not funny, just making yourself sound daft.

hoptart · 15/08/2026 17:59

sittingonabeach · 15/08/2026 17:13

That’s how I feel. Doesn’t matter whether you don’t trust the Government, disagree whether the alert should have been sent as not an emergency, BBQs aren’t that risky etc, there are many firefighters out there having an horrendous time trying to save people, homes livelihoods, animals etc and if that means fewer BBQs in the next few weeks it’s the least most of us could do. It’s not a big deal for us but it could be a big deal for them

By all means if you don’t want to use your BBQ then don’t, but don’t pretend you’re helping out firefighters. The vast, vast majority of wildfires are started deliberately or by discarded cigarette butts and in some cases disposable BBQs. For house fires, the most common causes are actually indoor cooking equipment (unattended stoves) and faulty wiring. So all the self righteous people saying they will cook inside this weekend to do their bit are actually statistically more likely to start a fire unless you’re going for cold salads only 🤷🏼‍♀️

hoptart · 15/08/2026 17:50

Rpop · 15/08/2026 14:17

Actually, an Australian on another thread said they have non-fire days when they are not allowed to bbq. Also they have vegetation which thrives in this weather and doesn’t turn to straw.

They said charcoal BBQs are banned on total fire ban days. Gas BBQs are still permitted, precisely because they pose a negligible risk.

mixedpeel · 15/08/2026 17:31

KiwiFall · 15/08/2026 17:05

It wouldn’t sit right with me. It would feel like two fingers up at all the fire fighters who have been working tirelessly recently in our area. They must feel like it’s a loosing battle (theres been various arsons in our town). They risk their lives and I’m sure they have had annual leave cancelled too.

Indeed. It was the Fire and Rescue Services that asked the government to send the alert out, and with very good reason.

sittingonabeach · 15/08/2026 17:13

KiwiFall · 15/08/2026 17:05

It wouldn’t sit right with me. It would feel like two fingers up at all the fire fighters who have been working tirelessly recently in our area. They must feel like it’s a loosing battle (theres been various arsons in our town). They risk their lives and I’m sure they have had annual leave cancelled too.

That’s how I feel. Doesn’t matter whether you don’t trust the Government, disagree whether the alert should have been sent as not an emergency, BBQs aren’t that risky etc, there are many firefighters out there having an horrendous time trying to save people, homes livelihoods, animals etc and if that means fewer BBQs in the next few weeks it’s the least most of us could do. It’s not a big deal for us but it could be a big deal for them

KiwiFall · 15/08/2026 17:05

It wouldn’t sit right with me. It would feel like two fingers up at all the fire fighters who have been working tirelessly recently in our area. They must feel like it’s a loosing battle (theres been various arsons in our town). They risk their lives and I’m sure they have had annual leave cancelled too.

Headinthecloudsfeetontheground · 15/08/2026 16:45

SinisterGreenMan · 15/08/2026 15:26

Why aim for "negligible risk" when "no risk" is so easily achievable?

Do you have any understanding of how serious the situation is? Do you realise that people are frightened for a very good reason? That your barbecue - however "negligible" the risk it poses still has the potential to devastate lives?

People are losing their homes, their animals and their livelihoods. The damage to the countryside and wildlife is devastating. Over the last few weeks the air outside our home has frequently been filled with the smell of smoke from fires in our area, some of them 50 miles and more away and several in the immediate area where I live.

My brother is a fire officer and the horrendous conditions he and his colleagues have been working in and the things they have seen are unimaginable to anyone hasn't been there.

Thankfully, it looks like most people aren't selfish enough to take unnecessary risks because "my barbecue is only a little bit risky".

I hope you have absolutely no responsibility for public safety or risk assessment/mitigation, because your selfish attitude is a disgrace.

Well said!

NotMajorTom · 15/08/2026 16:43

Bigtom · 15/08/2026 16:42

This reminds me of Covid when people made up rules that didn’t exist Wink

I don’t see anyone making up rules

i I see people saying you’d be a selfish idiot to do this thing, whether it’s permitted or not.

Bigtom · 15/08/2026 16:42

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 15/08/2026 09:04

This reminds me of Covid when people were looking for reasons to get away with doing things they knew were wrong based on a technicality. Don’t have the bbq op - cook the food indoors.

This reminds me of Covid when people made up rules that didn’t exist Wink

sittingonabeach · 15/08/2026 16:37

Can’t imagine there are many firefighters sitting on their arses. If there’s nothing going on in their area I’m sure many of them are being drafted to other areas

SinisterGreenMan · 15/08/2026 16:33

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 16:04

Says the person who thinks “half the country is ablaze”. It very clearly isn’t. Calm yourself down and get some perspective.

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Some perspective? Are you serious?

Surely someone "in the risk business" can't be oblivious to the devastation being caused by these fires. If you are, you need to turn your television on, look at online news, read a fucking newspaper.

Perhaps you live somewhere that isn't affected. If so, lucky you. You won't have had the experience of watching the mountain you live on in flames, wondering if and when it will get to you. Seeing the residents in the village a mile away from you being evacuated from their homes. Choking on the thick smoke and having to stay indoors with the windows closed in 30°c temperatures. If you had, you might have a better understanding of what other people are going through. That is my "perspective" and that of my neighbours.

Don't underestimate how this is affecting many communities in the UK. Not just the ones directly affected, but the ones miles from the fires who are are affected by the smoke.

You need to hope that it's not your area next, because if enough people like you think a barbecue sausage is worth the risk "negligible" or otherwise you might not stay lucky.

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 16:04

SinisterGreenMan · 15/08/2026 14:58

You’ve made reasonable endeavours to reduce the risk to a level as low as reasonably practicable.

We are talking about (non-essential) barbecues.

No one has to have a barbecue so a "reasonable endeavour(s) to reduce the risk to a level as low as reasonably practicable" means reducing risk to "no risk at all" simply by leaving the barbecue in the shed/garage and cooking your sausages indoors.

Don't light unnecessary fires when half the country is ablaze.

Surely any fool can work that one out whether they are someone from the risk industry, or someone who isn't a complete moron.

Says the person who thinks “half the country is ablaze”. It very clearly isn’t. Calm yourself down and get some perspective.

SinisterGreenMan · 15/08/2026 15:26

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 14:39

As per my response to the previous poster, the likelihood, in your garden, with all the mitigations in place is still extremely low therefore the risk is negligible.

Why aim for "negligible risk" when "no risk" is so easily achievable?

Do you have any understanding of how serious the situation is? Do you realise that people are frightened for a very good reason? That your barbecue - however "negligible" the risk it poses still has the potential to devastate lives?

People are losing their homes, their animals and their livelihoods. The damage to the countryside and wildlife is devastating. Over the last few weeks the air outside our home has frequently been filled with the smell of smoke from fires in our area, some of them 50 miles and more away and several in the immediate area where I live.

My brother is a fire officer and the horrendous conditions he and his colleagues have been working in and the things they have seen are unimaginable to anyone hasn't been there.

Thankfully, it looks like most people aren't selfish enough to take unnecessary risks because "my barbecue is only a little bit risky".

I hope you have absolutely no responsibility for public safety or risk assessment/mitigation, because your selfish attitude is a disgrace.

Maddy70 · 15/08/2026 15:06

It's disposable BBQs I'm question as they are too close to the ground and then hot coals get dumped into bins .
A proper BBQ isn't dangerous and isn't what they are asking you to refrain from

sittingonabeach · 15/08/2026 14:59

Maybe the risk of having a BBQ hadn’t changed but the risk of emergency services being available has changed.

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