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BBQ party tonight

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Grumpynan · 15/08/2026 08:29

We have planned a family get together this evening with a charcoal bbq in the garden. I hasten to add it’s a proper one not disposable.

should we still go ahead, or should I play save and cook the food indoors, what’s everyone else doing,

I mean, it stresses disposable bbq, says nothing about kettle ones in a garden. But I don’t want to cause any problems, and tbh we have a lot of trees around us and I’m a little worried, DH says I’m being silly but ?

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Monty36 · 15/08/2026 09:16

Cook indoors. Not outside.
Anything else would be simply odd at the moment.

hellospring26 · 15/08/2026 09:15

Can you borrow / buy an electric one? It’s not quite the same but better than being on fire or trapped indoors. I’ve got a mobile home in a high fire risk area in France. No bbqs allowed apart from the electric ones.

AngelinaFibres · 15/08/2026 09:14

The alert said not to use anything outside that has a flame or could cause sparks or localised heat and start a fire. Cook the food insude/ order from Dominoes etc. Do not have a flame of any kind outside.

Nannyfannybanny · 15/08/2026 09:12

cook the food indoors, phone keeps altering words?

Nannyfannybanny · 15/08/2026 09:10

In our last house,we were going out, I just happened to look out of the bedroom window, something was on fire at the bottom of our garden.SIL quickly unwound the hose,DH ran down to investigate. Neighbour with a normal charcoal BBQ, had put it next to the fence,a stray ember had set light to the dry bags of leaves, waiting to compost down. He went in the shed for an extinguisher,by which time we had it out.He was actually a Fireman.. Someone near us lady week was using a garden incinerator,all the smoke came indoors,of course because the doors and windows are open. Cool the food indoors. So far,it has been property,I would like people to do a shift at the local Burns Unit.

Lexy2345 · 15/08/2026 09:09

No barbecue, pre cook the food and do a buffet. Surely you can understand why any barbecue is a fire risk at the moment.

ErlingHaalandsManBun · 15/08/2026 09:08

fivetriangulartrees · 15/08/2026 09:05

When all the alerts went off yesterday, DP's immediate reaction was "doesn't include gas barbecues". He's determined to cook burgers on it today even though it's directly under a wooden fence, we haven't had a barbecue for years and our visitors don't even like burgers. I'm not going to be able to look any of the neighbours in the face if he goes ahead.

I would be hiding the BBQ.

What a prick and if he were mine I would tell him as such also.

There are always people that think the rules don't apply to them, or just don't like being told what to do and will do it anyway.

Okay so the risk from a normal BBQ may be low but the risk is still there and your neighbours could panic or worry seeing smoke coming from your garden. Expect a few knocks at your door from disgruntled neighbours.

UrbanFan · 15/08/2026 09:07

I bet you have got a kitchen. Use that. It's not tricky is it surely to apply a bit of commonsense.

Why do you even need to ask the question?

WildFatball · 15/08/2026 09:07

Cook the food inside and tell your dh he is a fucking moron.

fivetriangulartrees · 15/08/2026 09:05

When all the alerts went off yesterday, DP's immediate reaction was "doesn't include gas barbecues". He's determined to cook burgers on it today even though it's directly under a wooden fence, we haven't had a barbecue for years and our visitors don't even like burgers. I'm not going to be able to look any of the neighbours in the face if he goes ahead.

ErlingHaalandsManBun · 15/08/2026 09:04

We were going to have one too this weekend. We are now not.

Anyone using any type of BBQ this weekend is just a bit of a bellend IMO.

Have your party but cook indoors.

cloudtreecarpet · 15/08/2026 09:04

Will you enjoy it or will you spend the whole time fretting about it and feeling anxious about what your neighbours think?

It's very low risk but not absolutely no risk so I would just err on the side of caution so that I could kick back, relax and have a few drinks without the worry.

It's just not worth the hassle is it?

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 15/08/2026 09:04

This reminds me of Covid when people were looking for reasons to get away with doing things they knew were wrong based on a technicality. Don’t have the bbq op - cook the food indoors.

LoyalAquaAnt · 15/08/2026 09:02

Use your brain.

Cloudysky81 · 15/08/2026 09:01

A non disposable BBQ is fine as long as you're using it safely. If it's a gas BBQ it's very safe. A charcoal one requires adequate safety measures.

It's specifically disposable BBQs that are banned because they are being left on the ground after use and the owners have gone home and starting fires.

An ember from a BBQ can only travel a couple of metres. Presuming you have a decent sized garden clear an area around it. Ensure you're watching it at all times and stay outside with it until it's fully out.

Even in Aus during bushfire season gas BBQs are not banned.
I would just read the Australian guidance on BBQ safety during bushfire season and do what they do.

Livelovebehappy · 15/08/2026 08:59

I dont think for a minute many people will take any notice of the ban on bbqs or fireworks/fires. Where i live its Asian wedding season. And yep. Fireworks going off last night from 9 til 1 this morning. No change there. And at least two neighbours on our road had bbqs last night. We live in a self entitled society i'm afraid where people just do their own thing and dont consider the environment they live in...

HoraceCope · 15/08/2026 08:58

you will upset the neighbours
you will get indigestion
cook indoors
you can still eat out doors

Gengha · 15/08/2026 08:57

I’d say it’s a no to bbq sorry

Smithstreet · 15/08/2026 08:57

We are having a BBQ with friends tomorrow, we are just cooking it inside and bringing out to eat with the salads etc. Just not worth it in my mind and actually makes prep bit easier can cook and leave in oven to keep warm. You will just be on edge the whole time if you do cook outside, so why bother.

YouSawBrigadoon · 15/08/2026 08:56

Our charcoal barbecue is in an outdoor kitchen area on concrete ground and with stainless steel work surfaces. A garden hose is right next to it. I could take a risk managed approach as there is zero risk of us starting a fire. We’re having friends over tonight. We’re not barbecuing, but we are going to cook pizzas in the outdoor pizza oven. Again, absolutely zero risk of starting a fire.

PeterRabbitsWhiskers · 15/08/2026 08:55

Erin1975 · 15/08/2026 08:44

There is virtually zero risk from using a charcoal BBQ on a patio in your garden. Charcoal once lit has no flames or sparks.

The problem with the disposable BBQs is not the charcoal it is that people take them to remote locations to start a fire and also leavethem behing as the are too lazy to put them out properly and take them home.

Exactly this.
People putting disposable barbecues down on dry grass, not extinguishing them properly and abandoning them is a problem.

A charcoal barbecue on a patio, under supervision, not so much.

I would go ahead. Keep a bucket of water next to it.

Mixerfixer · 15/08/2026 08:53

No don't have a BBQ.

SinisterGreenMan · 15/08/2026 08:49

After seeing news footage of people's homes on fire, I wouldn't be lighting any kind of fire outside at the moment.

Even if your husband is OK with it, other people (your guests and neighbours, for example) definitely won't be.

No one will be able to relax properly while the barbecue is lit, so ignore your husband and cook indoors. I'm sure your guests will be relieved.

Have a lovely time with your family.

Erin1975 · 15/08/2026 08:44

There is virtually zero risk from using a charcoal BBQ on a patio in your garden. Charcoal once lit has no flames or sparks.

The problem with the disposable BBQs is not the charcoal it is that people take them to remote locations to start a fire and also leavethem behing as the are too lazy to put them out properly and take them home.