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BBQ party tonight

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Grumpynan · 15/08/2026 08:29

We have planned a family get together this evening with a charcoal bbq in the garden. I hasten to add it’s a proper one not disposable.

should we still go ahead, or should I play save and cook the food indoors, what’s everyone else doing,

I mean, it stresses disposable bbq, says nothing about kettle ones in a garden. But I don’t want to cause any problems, and tbh we have a lot of trees around us and I’m a little worried, DH says I’m being silly but ?

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HelpMeGetThrough · 15/08/2026 10:49

Manonhere · 15/08/2026 10:46

What has the world come to? Its disposable BBQs that are the safety issue... a BBQ in your garden is fine, just keep a hose or bucket of water to hand just in case! 👍

A hose? If your neighbour is a mumsnetter they would have a nervous breakdown!! A BBQ and a hose, that’s a full house of anxiety right there.

concertinacornflake · 15/08/2026 10:49

Happyjoe · 15/08/2026 10:43

Isn't it the disposable ones, the ones that people take to fields, camping etc? I can't see the issue of a well-controlled BBQ at home, esp with a can of water for just in case.

You can't see the problem even though the problem is obvious.

There's always a risk with a BBQ, but a tolerable one. (There's a risk using the oven, or an iron, or hair straighteners, or anything hot ever, we all tolerate it.)

The problem currently is IF anything happened with your BBQ it would spread faster and the firefighters may not respond as quickly, so the risk of serious impact is much increased.

MiceSpiders · 15/08/2026 10:48

I wonder how many people kicking off about gas BBQs at home, smoke

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 10:48

Manonhere · 15/08/2026 10:46

What has the world come to? Its disposable BBQs that are the safety issue... a BBQ in your garden is fine, just keep a hose or bucket of water to hand just in case! 👍

Exactly.

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 10:47

Even the Fire Service specifically mention disposable bbqs and not all bbqs. You all need to get a grip.

BBQ party tonight
NetZeroZealot · 15/08/2026 10:47

valadon68 · 15/08/2026 10:29

The same guidance that says this?

'The alert, that will be sent on a rolling basis from approximately 19:00, will warn people not to light anything that could spark a fire, including barbecues, campfires, and fireworks.'

I imagine they thought it was on balance better to remind people not to leave their banned BBQs unattended...

Yes. If you read on it also says “ Never leave a household barbecue unattended and ensure it is fully extinguished after use.”

Manonhere · 15/08/2026 10:46

What has the world come to? Its disposable BBQs that are the safety issue... a BBQ in your garden is fine, just keep a hose or bucket of water to hand just in case! 👍

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 15/08/2026 10:45

i would have a bbq in our garden. It is a huge patio. There is no risk whatsoever. Only you know the risk in your own garden.

Disposable bbqs were specifically mentioned in the alert.

NotMajorTom · 15/08/2026 10:45

Happyjoe · 15/08/2026 10:43

Isn't it the disposable ones, the ones that people take to fields, camping etc? I can't see the issue of a well-controlled BBQ at home, esp with a can of water for just in case.

You can’t see the issue? Really?

Ginmonkeyagain · 15/08/2026 10:45

And rules or not, as I noted up thread, the very last thing I would want to do after days of this oppressive and close heat, is stand over a direct heat source cooking meat.

People are fucking nuts.

IJustMight · 15/08/2026 10:45

I think most people know which neighbours are most likely to ignore the 'no fires' warning ...

The country is dry as fuck. Fires are wiping out huge areas and bored feral children are deliberately starting them in a lot of areas, too. Firefighters are exhausted.

Your DH is a twat.

Happyjoe · 15/08/2026 10:43

Isn't it the disposable ones, the ones that people take to fields, camping etc? I can't see the issue of a well-controlled BBQ at home, esp with a can of water for just in case.

MinnieMountain · 15/08/2026 10:43

We've got family over tomorrow for a BBQ. We're going to cook everything inside instead. It wasn’t even a discussion.

NotMajorTom · 15/08/2026 10:43

greencitrine · 15/08/2026 10:26

Common sense would be to avoid any open naked flames outside right now, regardless of whether they've been explicitly banned or not.

Common sense is not common

if the government advice simply said “guys, be sensible” then many would not be sensible.

many on this thread seem to think they are different, special, more able to assess the risk so can do what they want.

idiots

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 10:43

Ah and as expected, what do we have now? Fire services reporting being inundated with calls yesterday following the alert from people reporting their neighbours for having a bbq.
Seems many of them are on this thread.

UniquePinkSwan · 15/08/2026 10:43

user1464187087 · 15/08/2026 10:27

I bet your neighbours will be chuffed

If someone reported me for having a gas bbq, I’d piss myself laughing.

Ginmonkeyagain · 15/08/2026 10:42

I grew up on a farm and in summer we often used to get field fires where the dry straw stubble or bales would ignite (usually because of a stray cigarette butt or glass bottle). They were terrifing but generally able to be controlled as the surrounding verges and gardens etc were not as dry.

Right now everyone's garden and every verge and park is the straw field.

Shmee1988 · 15/08/2026 10:41

Have the damn bbq. Everyone saying not to is nuts. Straight after the alert our service 'Dorset Fire and Rescue' up dated all their socials with a message that basically said 'please do not call us to report someone having a controlled bbq. We do not have the power to intervene as tonights security message was a reminder of sensible behaviour surrounding fire'.
Bbqs are not banned. We had a bbq on the beach last night. A proper one not disposable. Beach security were happy enough and it was tended to by a group of responsible adults. Go ahead with the bbq. People are over reacting. If you were asking if you could use a disposable in the forest, then that would be different.

Sherararara · 15/08/2026 10:39

Headinthecloudsfeetontheground · 15/08/2026 09:56

This is entirely inaccurate information. Sparks will fly from a charcoal BBQ and could easily set light to surrounding trees.

What if there are no surrounding trees?
What if your garden is all paved or fake grass?
What if it’s a gas bbq?

Mothrasstillmoshing · 15/08/2026 10:37

People underestimate fire.
They don't understand it.
They certainly don't appreciate that it's a thing with a will of it's own.
Fire can move on the air, it can 'jump' roads & fire breaks and unless you've seen fire out of control close up then no one can understand how fast it moves.

empee47 · 15/08/2026 10:37

hamnish · 15/08/2026 08:33

It’s been a long, hot week, full of shit news, and maybe I’m just tired, but for one weekend, can’t people just do what they’ve been asked to do, for the sake of the fire service and everyone around them?

Exactly!

Thisismyfinesthour · 15/08/2026 10:35

Only idiots -usually Billy Big Bollocks men - are going to be lighting up BBQs of any sort, having camp fires or letting off fireworks whilst this dryness continues. I have no sympathy for them if things go wrong as humans.
I'm 100% with nature everytime it always sufferds because of selfish human behaviour.

greencitrine · 15/08/2026 10:34

And even if the risk of fire is low for eg a gas bbq, the risk of neighbours rolling their eyes and seeing you forever after as "those twats who used their bbq the day after that emergency alert" will be very high.

Is not like you're going to be able to go round and explain to them all how it's technically not banned and you've got a bucket etc. The first impression you make by using your bbq at all will be the one that sticks in their minds.

valadon68 · 15/08/2026 10:29

NetZeroZealot · 15/08/2026 10:21

Yes. Another poster shared the link to it.

The same guidance that says this?

'The alert, that will be sent on a rolling basis from approximately 19:00, will warn people not to light anything that could spark a fire, including barbecues, campfires, and fireworks.'

I imagine they thought it was on balance better to remind people not to leave their banned BBQs unattended...

Sahara123 · 15/08/2026 10:29

greencitrine · 15/08/2026 10:26

Common sense would be to avoid any open naked flames outside right now, regardless of whether they've been explicitly banned or not.

Well said !