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To think my neighbour is selfish tw*t for lighting a fire

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Vicksstick · 14/08/2026 22:21

Ok so how many people, after receiving a government alert about wild fires asking them not to have fires in their garden, would then in fact go against that and light a big F off fire in their garden, well that would be my next door neighbour! We all live in close proximity in terraced houses and my neighbour thinks it’s a good idea to light a fire. The fact the fire is (for now) contained in a make shift fire pit makes no difference, I mean it’s twa**ish behaviour right?

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CallUpMyMamaSaidImInLoveWithTheStripperYo · 15/08/2026 01:52

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 01:50

Same.
Avoiding lighting a firepit is not enough... you need to close all your curtains in case the sunlight comes in and glances off of a wine glass and starts a fire... turn that air fryer off too. #saladstosavetheUK

😂😂 (I mean you can only laugh, really…)

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 01:50

CallUpMyMamaSaidImInLoveWithTheStripperYo · 15/08/2026 01:47

It’s giving “you can put cheese in your coffee”

Same.
Avoiding lighting a firepit is not enough... you need to close all your curtains in case the sunlight comes in and glances off of a wine glass and starts a fire... turn that air fryer off too. #saladstosavetheUK

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/08/2026 01:49

rainbowunicorn · 15/08/2026 01:24

It explicity says to avoid any activity that could start a fire. I guess the only mistake they made was assuming that the general public weren't all as thick as shit.
We have had replies on threads saying gas bbq fine, home bbq fine, use a camping stove instead. I genuinely cant understand replies like this. Nobody needs to be lighting any kind if fire. It should have to be spelled out for every possible scenario.

They clearly went out of their way to say disposable barbecues when they obviously could have just said barbecues. Your personal opinion about what people should be doing is your own.

CallUpMyMamaSaidImInLoveWithTheStripperYo · 15/08/2026 01:47

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 01:38

Well, there was a post on here from someone who turned the oven off in her own house after getting the alert.
How long until we get people rant on about not using any electricity at all in case it sparks and causes a flame and the emergency services to come out?

It’s giving “you can put cheese in your coffee”

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 01:38

rainbowunicorn · 15/08/2026 01:24

It explicity says to avoid any activity that could start a fire. I guess the only mistake they made was assuming that the general public weren't all as thick as shit.
We have had replies on threads saying gas bbq fine, home bbq fine, use a camping stove instead. I genuinely cant understand replies like this. Nobody needs to be lighting any kind if fire. It should have to be spelled out for every possible scenario.

Well, there was a post on here from someone who turned the oven off in her own house after getting the alert.
How long until we get people rant on about not using any electricity at all in case it sparks and causes a flame and the emergency services to come out?

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 01:36

CallUpMyMamaSaidImInLoveWithTheStripperYo · 15/08/2026 00:42

God don’t some people just love a wee opportunity to snoop and tell on others. Not saying he should have lit a fucking fire but I bet some of the Covid curtain twitchers on here will be rubbing their hands with glee

Yep, I have already seen pics of people with BBQ on local FB groups. Taken before the alerts went out, as it was broad daylight 🙄
A lot of people miss the Covid restrictions, and it shows.

rainbowunicorn · 15/08/2026 01:24

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/08/2026 01:01

It’s clear that they don’t mean people’s back garden barbecues. They would have said so, and they didn’t. I’m not sure why people think it isn’t clear? They specifically say in the alert that “disposable barbecues” and fire pits are the problem, and on the government site they say you have to make sure your household bbq is fully extinguished. So they want people to be careful but they know banning bbqs entirely won’t be adhered to.

It explicity says to avoid any activity that could start a fire. I guess the only mistake they made was assuming that the general public weren't all as thick as shit.
We have had replies on threads saying gas bbq fine, home bbq fine, use a camping stove instead. I genuinely cant understand replies like this. Nobody needs to be lighting any kind if fire. It should have to be spelled out for every possible scenario.

CallUpMyMamaSaidImInLoveWithTheStripperYo · 15/08/2026 01:07

francy99 · 15/08/2026 01:06

I would call the Fire brigade and explain your neighbour has started a fire in the garden and you are concerned this will spread to neighbouring houses. I think the Fire Service might come round and give your twat of a neighbour some advice.

Do you not think they might have enough to do?

francy99 · 15/08/2026 01:06

I would call the Fire brigade and explain your neighbour has started a fire in the garden and you are concerned this will spread to neighbouring houses. I think the Fire Service might come round and give your twat of a neighbour some advice.

LadyWiddiothethird · 15/08/2026 01:02

I have seen two fires in the past 24 hours,one a garden shed,destroyed 6 gardens and one person hospitalised with burns,second I have no idea what happened,saw the fire engine and hose,property in the country,that one hasn’t even made the local FB pages.Presumably all was well.
Before yesterday I can’t remember the last time I saw a fire.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/08/2026 01:01

It’s clear that they don’t mean people’s back garden barbecues. They would have said so, and they didn’t. I’m not sure why people think it isn’t clear? They specifically say in the alert that “disposable barbecues” and fire pits are the problem, and on the government site they say you have to make sure your household bbq is fully extinguished. So they want people to be careful but they know banning bbqs entirely won’t be adhered to.

ScarletLisa · 15/08/2026 00:59

Some twat(s) at the back of our houses were letting off fireworks,
They managed 3 & then we heard loads of angry shouting.
I presume the neighbours/parents sorted them out.

I really cannot believe how dense & full of themselves/insecure some people are.
They can't understand a warning, think it doesn't apply to them & it hurts their feelings as they think they're being told off.
Some people are just thicker than mince.

rainbowunicorn · 15/08/2026 00:56

FalconHonour33 · 15/08/2026 00:48

If it's a standard BBQ of the type you keep in the garden, you're golden. It's only the disposable ones we've been warned against. This has been a point of discussion over dinner, as we have a family BBQ planned for Sunday afternoon!

No, it explicitly says to avoid any activity that could start a fire.

CallUpMyMamaSaidImInLoveWithTheStripperYo · 15/08/2026 00:54

Keep your barbecue THE FUCK AT HOME

…or something.

Vodkamartini3olives · 15/08/2026 00:52

Is there no fire ban?. I'm in WA we are in the height of wild fire season..We generally get a fire ban when the risk goes up to medium. No campfires, no open burning etc. Massive fines

Camelpineapple · 15/08/2026 00:51
FalconHonour33 · 15/08/2026 00:48

MayaPyjama · 14/08/2026 23:26

To be fair the warning explicitly chose not to say anything about barbecues, and so it’s not an unreasonable assumption to think there is no issue with having a BBQ.

They could very easily have said “including avoiding barbecues”.

If it's a standard BBQ of the type you keep in the garden, you're golden. It's only the disposable ones we've been warned against. This has been a point of discussion over dinner, as we have a family BBQ planned for Sunday afternoon!

CallUpMyMamaSaidImInLoveWithTheStripperYo · 15/08/2026 00:42

God don’t some people just love a wee opportunity to snoop and tell on others. Not saying he should have lit a fucking fire but I bet some of the Covid curtain twitchers on here will be rubbing their hands with glee

ThisBrickPombear · 15/08/2026 00:38

Yep - absolute bell end and also goes to show how utterly pointless the government alert was. Clearly no amount of government alerts is enough for this guy.

BelleEpoque27 · 15/08/2026 00:34

Our neighbours had a fire during the World Cup and a fire engine showed up to have a little chat with them.

Not suggesting anyone call them now for anything less than an emergency - this was before it got really bad - but they would rather get the fire put out than deal with it when it's bigger.

Ozozozie · 15/08/2026 00:30

I do understand why people are annoyed by hosepipe ban …ie golf courses are exempt etc but ignoring BBQ ,fireworks ban is on another level of stupidity 🤦‍♀️

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/08/2026 00:19

My late Aunts husband is the kind of arsehole who would do this.

On receiving the alert he would very much be of the mindset that "no one is telling me what to do" and would light a fire just to prove (to whom?!) that he could.

Pathetic behaviour. But then he has always been a pathetic posturing individual who thinks more of himself than he should.

Hottieeeee · 15/08/2026 00:17

This happened to my parents. On a perfectly normal summer day. Not mad dry summer like this year. Conifer Hedge lit and was making its way up to the house. It was a big garden. Think 70m/ 80m long. By the time the fire brigade got it under control it was within 10 metres of the house.

BurntBroccoli · 15/08/2026 00:08

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 14/08/2026 22:43

I'd be knocking on the door asking him to put the fire out. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he hadn't received the alert and simply hadn't thought.

But actually, I'd put money on him being the kind of arsehole who doesn't like to be told what to do and this is an act of rebellion. So maybe trying to be reasonable would (literally) fan the flames.

Edited

Yup! Fires warnings are woke type and it’s just summer…

Pinkissmart · 15/08/2026 00:04

Vicksstick · 14/08/2026 22:43

I’ve taken pictures of the fire from my upstairs window and my neighbours turned around and spotted me. I don’t care though. I want proof incase something should happen. We’ve had dealings with this family before, they’re basically nightmare neighbours so usually I try my best not to rile things up but on this occasion I don’t care. It’s reckless behaviour.

What good will that do if it gets out of hand? Report