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To think my neighbour is selfish tw*t for lighting a fire

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Vicksstick · 14/08/2026 22:21

Ok so how many people, after receiving a government alert about wild fires asking them not to have fires in their garden, would then in fact go against that and light a big F off fire in their garden, well that would be my next door neighbour! We all live in close proximity in terraced houses and my neighbour thinks it’s a good idea to light a fire. The fact the fire is (for now) contained in a make shift fire pit makes no difference, I mean it’s twa**ish behaviour right?

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Summersorcherisjustsummer · 15/08/2026 12:12

@MayaPyjama I agree it's only until it has a good spell of rain then people can go for their lives with BBQ why take the risk ? Why worry the neighbours ?

We are not Oz and have not had exposure to their kind of fire messaging and other messaging.

Laura95167 · 15/08/2026 09:21

101 report?

Lentilcakes · 15/08/2026 08:46

I thought mine was bad w his hosepipe use. He’s a twat anyway. I’d be reporting his use (was tempted to report mine re the hosepipe but at least it’s not a danger).

scalt · 15/08/2026 08:45

While I think that lighting a fire is a very bad idea at this time, I also think that Partygate has a lot to answer for here, with people not believing, trusting or respecting government roolz.

Muffsies · 15/08/2026 08:38

In the next town over from me a man decided to have a bonfire in his garden and ended up buring down his AND his neighbour's houses. What an absolute cunt.

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/08/2026 08:37

MayaPyjama · 15/08/2026 08:33

Sorry this started with me saying a BBQ isn’t “forbidden” under the warning. It is a sensible logical leap that normal garden barbecues are okay, and if they weren’t they should have explicitly said so - I think my tone in this follow up might be lost! (I was getting at the point they very consciously chose not to say just barbecue!)

I won’t be having a barbecue mostly because I have no BBQ food in and had one on Thursday… but I won’t be judging anyone who does! (And I’m pretty sure the fire risk from my lidded gas bbq is pretty minimal, I just won’t go out of my way to use it out of spite).

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Fair enough!

MayaPyjama · 15/08/2026 08:33

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/08/2026 08:20

Because garden bbqs don’t present the same risk. On another thread an Australian poster (well experienced in wildfires, unlike us) said that there they have fire bans (legally mandated not just sending a text message 😂) and that doesn’t include non disposable bbqs, and people continue to have them at the normal rate Aussies do

you talk about the public not being intelligent but has it occurred to you that despite your intelligence the fire service know what they’re doing and chose their wording from a place of knowledge not “intelligence” ??

Sorry this started with me saying a BBQ isn’t “forbidden” under the warning. It is a sensible logical leap that normal garden barbecues are okay, and if they weren’t they should have explicitly said so - I think my tone in this follow up might be lost! (I was getting at the point they very consciously chose not to say just barbecue!)

I won’t be having a barbecue mostly because I have no BBQ food in and had one on Thursday… but I won’t be judging anyone who does! (And I’m pretty sure the fire risk from my lidded gas bbq is pretty minimal, I just won’t go out of my way to use it out of spite).

user1471497170 · 15/08/2026 08:20

I wouldn't engage with him, just report to 101 and let them deal with it. He's an idiot .

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/08/2026 08:20

MayaPyjama · 15/08/2026 08:09

The general public, on the whole, isn’t very intelligent. So why oh why did they not just put no barbecue?

The only inference you can possibly make is that they chose not to actively discourage a normal barbecue. They took the extra effort to include the word disposable (which yes do have a higher fire risk, but would have been covered by just the word barbecue).

I won’t be having a barbecue, but I can forgive anyone for making that logical leap based on the warning alone.

Because garden bbqs don’t present the same risk. On another thread an Australian poster (well experienced in wildfires, unlike us) said that there they have fire bans (legally mandated not just sending a text message 😂) and that doesn’t include non disposable bbqs, and people continue to have them at the normal rate Aussies do

you talk about the public not being intelligent but has it occurred to you that despite your intelligence the fire service know what they’re doing and chose their wording from a place of knowledge not “intelligence” ??

MayaPyjama · 15/08/2026 08:09

rainbowunicorn · 14/08/2026 23:40

It does say to avoid any activity that could cause a fire. It would have to be someone that was as thick as shit to not be able to understand that includes normal bbqs, gas bbq, camping stoves, candles and any other flame. Unfortunately going by some of the responses I've seen on here tonight thick as shit seems to be fairly common.

The general public, on the whole, isn’t very intelligent. So why oh why did they not just put no barbecue?

The only inference you can possibly make is that they chose not to actively discourage a normal barbecue. They took the extra effort to include the word disposable (which yes do have a higher fire risk, but would have been covered by just the word barbecue).

I won’t be having a barbecue, but I can forgive anyone for making that logical leap based on the warning alone.

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/08/2026 07:21

Summersorcherisjustsummer · 14/08/2026 23:24

Is this true and if so I don't think this has been communicated clearly

It’s not true. It’s just a straw man the poster has pulled together in their head

MrsVBS · 15/08/2026 05:37

Why anyone would light a fire in these hot dry conditions is beyond me, absolute idiot.

Zanatdy · 15/08/2026 04:34

People who sit in their garden with a fire pit on a hot evening, hours after being told not to are t*ats. Even without the warning, neighbours have windows open. Some people just only think of themselves.

ScarletLisa · 15/08/2026 03:21

Why are some posters banging on about Covid & people missing it?
It's a completely different situation.
If someone is stupid enough to have a bonfire in the garden after the wildfire alert went out then they deserve all the flak they get.
Personally I'd have watered my garden with the hosepipe & accidentally on purpose watered the the neighbours and said fire,

Pinkchickenwine · 15/08/2026 02:54

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 14/08/2026 22:43

I'd be knocking on the door asking him to put the fire out. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he hadn't received the alert and simply hadn't thought.

But actually, I'd put money on him being the kind of arsehole who doesn't like to be told what to do and this is an act of rebellion. So maybe trying to be reasonable would (literally) fan the flames.

Edited

I think this is spot on!

Chickadee26 · 15/08/2026 02:34

Rachie1973 · 14/08/2026 23:11

My sons working 12 hour nights at the wildfires at the moment because there simply isn’t enough firefighters or equipment.

People like your son are absolute hero's. ❤I hope there will be relief from the fires soon.

lemmein · 15/08/2026 02:29

i didn’t get the alert, neither did DP. If it wasn’t for it trending on X I wouldn’t have even known about the wildfires.

Saying that, lighting a fire in the height of summer when everyone has their windows open is twattish behaviour anyway.

FluentOP · 15/08/2026 02:15

He’s a twat.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/08/2026 02:10

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 02:02

Ha, during Covid times, I went to a local shop and bought food for my dog.... pretty essential. I also picked up a bottle of wine, the shelf of which was on the way to the counter anyway. The security guard pulled me up on it and said it was not essential. Fucking twat.

I can imagine.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/08/2026 02:09

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 02:00

I think that will happen now too.

I agree. “Of course you can’t have a bbq in your garden, didn’t you understand?”

As I said, the government deliberately didn’t ban bbqs entirely, I think they knew that would be counterproductive because if that was widely ignored (like hosepipes etc), so would everything else be.

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 02:02

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/08/2026 01:57

No wine, that’s non essential in the first place.

Ha, during Covid times, I went to a local shop and bought food for my dog.... pretty essential. I also picked up a bottle of wine, the shelf of which was on the way to the counter anyway. The security guard pulled me up on it and said it was not essential. Fucking twat.

CallUpMyMamaSaidImInLoveWithTheStripperYo · 15/08/2026 02:01

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 02:00

I think that will happen now too.

Yes. Mercifully it is unlikely to last as long as Covid though.

Although some people may never go back to normal…

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 02:00

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/08/2026 01:56

What I really hated about Covid was the making up the rules in your head tendency and expecting people to adhere to your made up rules despite them only being in your head.

I think that will happen now too.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/08/2026 01:57

XenoBitch · 15/08/2026 01:50

Same.
Avoiding lighting a firepit is not enough... you need to close all your curtains in case the sunlight comes in and glances off of a wine glass and starts a fire... turn that air fryer off too. #saladstosavetheUK

No wine, that’s non essential in the first place.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/08/2026 01:56

What I really hated about Covid was the making up the rules in your head tendency and expecting people to adhere to your made up rules despite them only being in your head.

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