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Asked DP to leave over A-Levels comment to my DS

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JaneeeAmb · 13/08/2026 21:55

It has been an incredibly stressful and upsetting day. DS18 unfortunately didn’t recieve the results he needed. Lots of tears from both of us. My DP of 2 years arrived home after work (he stays here every Thursday) and knew about the results. He didn’t offer DS any consolation. At dinner he asked him if his mates would be going out tonight, he said yes but that he didn’t feel up for joining them. DP then said ‘best thing for you tonight would be a few beers and finding yourself a local tart’.

I went mental at him, completely inappropriate. He doubled down so I asked him to leave, which he did. DS says he thinks I over reacted and says he wasn’t offended at all and he thinks he was just trying to lighten the mood.

I am now sat here wondering if I over reacted?

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JaneeeAmb · 13/08/2026 21:58

hotmumshit · 13/08/2026 21:57

You overreacted sorry

I came prepared to be angry on ds behalf!

His comment was dickish ofc, and sexist, but he was supportive in the way that male figures usually are on results day

Maybe you have other issues with him?

The comment was wrong but not in the way I expected, which was being horrible to your son. As shit step dad moments go, this wasn't one. But yes, misogynistic.

Edited

No other issues. My reaction was how I felt in the moment, probably in part due to the stress of the day.

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FateAmenableToChange · 13/08/2026 21:58

He sounds kind of basic. I would have asked him leave over the misogyny. Alcohol wont help and its a dreadful thing to suggest to a young man as a coping mechanism.

hotmumshit · 13/08/2026 21:57

You overreacted sorry

I came prepared to be angry on ds behalf!

His comment was dickish ofc, and sexist, but he was supportive in the way that male figures usually are on results day

Maybe you have other issues with him?

The comment was wrong but not in the way I expected, which was being horrible to your son. As shit step dad moments go, this wasn't one. But yes, misogynistic.

AnaColombiana · 13/08/2026 21:57

Finding yourself a local tart? I'd kick out anyone who used those words to my son.

NewGoldFox · 13/08/2026 21:57

A nice local tart? Rancid.