To think Dsis is overeacting after SS hit niece?

At 15 he isn’t an adult. He wouldn’t go to an adult prison. In court he is still considered a child

If anything his mental age is probably a lot less than his 15years old.

Ultimately this 10year old knows she can do and say anything to your SS as she is just copying her mothers attitude towards someone who is possibly ND and classified as Disabled.

All those who think the niece can do no wrong. Are you saying that it is ok to bully a disabled person because they are showing the signs of their disability
I actually think that is horrific

Will your sister ever teach her dd how to recognise danger. What if she carries on this sort of behaviour as she gets older and winds up an unstable person who has a weapon.

She might feel she can do and say whatever she likes because people aren’t supposed to retaliate physically but this is akin to stepping off a pavement onto a zebra crossing and not waiting for a driver to slow down or stop. The pedestrian might be in the right but what good is that if they are under the wheels of a car
Carrying on with this type of behaviour and one day someone who isn’t 15years old and the same height as her will retaliate and it will be a lot more than a slap

This isn’t about wearing a short dress and victim blaming. This is about a bully and aggressor getting a consequence when their victim was trying to get away and they continued to pursue them.

Whilst posters might not be able to tell the difference between a child and an adult, an aggressor (the one who was pursuing and being aggressive.) and the victim.
To me the SS was just defending himself using the only means of defence he had at his disposal.

From what has been written it sounds like this wasn’t a one off incident

However it sounds like it will be the last incident he will have to endure from this pair of bullies

Think for a moment how a school would have responded to this.

An annoying year 7 girl winding up a boy in either year 10 or 11.

And he hits her.

Would the school be focusing on the annoying year 7 girl? Or pretty much immediately expelling the boy.

The latter

The boy would likely be suspended and a behaviour plan put in place. The girl would likely be given a detention and a close eye would be kept on her, she may also be put on a behaviour plan if this is normal for her? The school wpuld consider why boyh behaving like this? Do the families need support? Are the children safe? It wouldn't be ignored.

You don't get a detention because someone else has anger management problems. Nobody's fault but his.

You do for calling someone a cry baby, asking them if they are going to cry, ignoring the teacher asking them to stop and ruining their work.

A year 7 girl. Hit by an year 10/11 boy.

I promise you, she would not get a detention

Clearly our experiences of schools are vastly different. I wouldn't,t like to be a child at all school that ignores those behaviours, would you?

Your children aren’t at secondary

I've got to say I am pretty shocked by some of the attitudes on this thread, it has certainly been eye opening. Posters on this thread telling me they strictly parent their son whilst raising their daughter to never take accountability because at the end of the day, their daughter is statistically less likely to kill someone and need to put men in their place. I think this is the first time in my life I have been accused of misogyny. Anyone who knows me in real life would find that hilarious. It seems that a fair chunk of parents sadly do not have the emotional intelligence to approach conflict without viewing one person as the winner and one as the loser.

You don't get a detention because someone else has anger management problems. Nobody's fault but his.

If a woman swears at a man is he allowed to punch her? And if he does punch her do you think the police will say she caused it and make her apologise too?

No. Absolutely not. But should women be allowed to verbally abuse other people?

No. Absolutely not. But should women be allowed to verbally abuse other people?

If you don't think a woman should be punished for swearing, then you can't insist a primary school child apologise for calling a 15yo a cry baby. He was being a cry baby to be fair. Throwing tantrums over arcade games.
Yes there's reasons but that isn't the 10yos problem or responsibility to manage.
Ultimately it's OP who has failed both kids by sitting there and not doing anything.

I do wonder what he must be like at school. Surely children his own age will tease him occasionally. I can't imagine this is the first assault by him.

Adults behave in with lots of ways that children should be picked up on. I do believe it is wrong to swear at people in an aggressive manner unprovoked, you are free to disagree with me. I think if someone regularly abuses people unprovoked and damages their property, the police and possible adult social care would become involved because it is not acceptable normal adult behaviour.

Blimey you've gone from he might be ND to he's disabled. You're probably disabled after that reach.

I cant believe you're brushing this off. Your step son did something ILLEGAL, you should be thanking your lucky stars that your sister hasn't gone to the police. He is above the age of criminal responsibility, unlike your neice, and he commited a criminal act. Will you be defending him when he hits his girlfriend and telling her she was asking for it too?