To think Dsis is overeacting after SS hit niece?

Well, from the sounds of it the girls mum has taken this very seriously, and will hopefully keep her daughter well away from him in the future.

I know that if this happened to either of mine, they wouldn’t be sharing breathing space with him again.

There is an enormous difference between even a man and woman of 5’5 in terms of strength. A teenage boy of that size is many times stronger than her.

By 15, boys are usually mid–late puberty, with rapidly increasing lean muscle mass and strength. Girls at 10 are generally pre‑pubertal, with much lower muscle mass and no testosterone‑driven strength gains yet.

Upper‑body strength: boys are ~50% stronger than girls by ages 14–17, but only ~17% stronger at ages 5–10.

A 15‑year‑old boy vs a 10‑year‑old girl spans both categories, so the gap is much larger — typically about 2×. Thats 200% stronger than her.

A consideration about such things crossed my mind earlier. But then I got a headache so brought it to an end, not worth it. Takes up too much space already.

I think OP is so busy caring for the troubled boy they’ve essentially adopted that she can no longer see that he is the bigger stronger person in this situation. I was hanging out with a friend’s ten year old girl the other day, she has scented felt tips and does hand stands. If a 15 year old boy hit her I’d be calling the police and I wouldn’t give two hoots about his background because many people have troubled backgrounds but they don’t all turn to violence. Yes, even if she’d called him a crybaby and spoilt his drawing fgs.

I don't think it's as comparable to domestic violence anyway. When you're an adult you've got more ability to walk and away and keep away from people that upset you.

I know you're getting a lot of people going on about your SS having anger issues etc, and I'll probably get flamed for my perspective but goddamn is your niece a pain in the butt. Yes, he shouldn't have hit her- you've said it multiple times, you've said he knows this, we've all read it. He shouldn't have hit her. But it sounds like he was really trying to do the right thing by moving himself out of the situation and she was provoking him for a reaction.

If people are saying he is old enough to know better, than so is she. She's moving up to secondary and if she doesn't learn this fast she's going to be in a lot of fights.

Clearly everyone knows he has anger issues because of trauma due to his upbringing- it sounds like your sister in law knows this only too well and so does her child, which i assume is why she was goading him.

Apart from the hitting, I'd sat he had a appropriate reaction to someone destroying his artwork- I'm an arty person too, it's probably his escape and his peace.

I wonder if all those insisting the girl was asking for it by winding him up and see no difference between a 15 yo boy hitting a 10 year old girl and the same type of people insisting you can’t argue with biology and that’s why we should exclude trans kids from everything.

He shouldn’t have hit her, but the situation also should have been managed better. It must have been obvious this was becoming a problem much earlier on and an adult should have stepped in. He needs to get more help for his issues, and although she isn’t due an apology, she needs to learn about people’s boundaries.

Happy to be provided a list of all the names he’s been called.

won’t hold my breath that it’ll be as long as hers though.

That is the most alarming thing of all, isn't it.

YOU ARE 100% LYING. There would need to be a serious glitch in the matrix for a 15 year old boy not to be considerably taller and stronger than a 10 year old girl. Even if (coincidently for you) one is just 15 and one is almost 11.

Is she training for Tough Mudder? World’s strongest child? Is he kept in a cupboard and fed only water and gruel?

Pull the other one.

You're not the only one. Doesn't fit the narrative though.

Yes, if it were true it would be most unfair. It isn't though. Maybe you should both read the thread more carefully.

It's appalling misogyny and these posters just don't see it.

I called him a little shit.

So committed to cleaning up someone else’s mess that they’re willing to put their own children at risk of violence. Truly amazing(!)

Couldn’t agree more.

Isn’t it? Haha, boils my piss tbh. Boys will be boys though eh? And he doesn’t have his Mum so…

If a woman is violent to a man then of course she should face the same criminal liability that he faces.

She is much less likely to murder him though, 1-2 women in the UK are murdered by their spouse/ ex spouse each week. This often escalates from previous violent acts.

I mean, it’s a bit of a stretch to liken the way this 10 year old supposedly wound up someone older to domestic violence and reactive abuse. She’s literally 10. There’s a significant power imbalance to start with and the goading / snatching that the 10 year old supposedly did was so bad that the OP, having witnessed the whole thing. ….. carried on feeding the baby.

Are you 15 too?

All of the name calling on this thread towards the girl too! Bitch, brat, cow and so on.

not once has the boy been called a violent little prick, or a horrible little wanker.

strange that.

She sounds like a brat, but she was not equally in the wrong. Plenty of ten year olds are annoying but I don't go round hitting them.

Yep. It's like a wife beater saying to his wife, look what you made me do.