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So fed up of everyone being off school and uni.

82 replies

Treetreetreetree · 13/08/2026 10:41

I need all my children to go back to University or school.
The eldest has been off since May and although she has a job she is just here a lot.
All of them have boyfriends and friends and they all eat and drink so much. I’m never alone. I miss being alone in my house.
Sometimes there is no where to sit because of all the children and the boyfriends.

I’ve taken to driving the long way home from work - so I can be alone for a bit longer.
They’re all lovely, kind and considerate and I know I’m awful because obviously I decided to have them but why can’t they sometimes all go out at the same time?!

Sometimes I’ll be watching TV or reading a book and one will arrive for a chat or to catch up. Isn’t that lovely? They want to see how I am or ask me about something. But I don’t want to talk.

Also why can’t people now just have toast, cereal or a bloody sandwich? Someone is always making a yogurt bowl or overnight oats. They make complicated salads and one basic meal turns into a whole kitchen of chaos.
I might book a night in a hotel.

OP posts:
dottiedodah · 13/08/2026 15:40

Do they not go to their BF/GF homes at all? Why are they always at yours! Say nicely that they can come at WE/ say and Wednesdays .However Thursday Mon and Tuesdays they are at their BF homes .That is fair .say you are tired from work when you get in

ilovesooty · 13/08/2026 15:16

Tell them not to hog the kitchen and create chaos. If they're interrupting your peace tell them you need some space. Limit visitors. Why should you feel like an intruder in your house?

Americanstyle · 13/08/2026 15:15

Trust me… one day, you’ll look back on these times so fondly; when they’ve all flown the nest and are busy with their own lives and you’ll wonder where the time went - or maybe you’ll be getting there bunting out when they do finally leave and emigrate to Australia 😁

Teeheehee1579 · 13/08/2026 15:12

I feel you OP - mine are younger but one just finished GCSE’s so has been home since June and the rest since the school broke up. I want the house back and some peace and quiet!!!!

Crumpetring · 13/08/2026 15:11

Peonies12 · 13/08/2026 15:09

You tell them. Why are you letting them overrun your home. They clean up. Stop buying them food.
Boyfriends are limited to a certain number of days/evenings per week. Why aren't they going out and why aren't they all out working full time?
have a mandatory 1 evening per week where they must all go out so you get one quiet evening.

Edited

It’s their home too…

Although a mum needs some peace evening once a week does sound like a good idea!

Peonies12 · 13/08/2026 15:09

You tell them. Why are you letting them overrun your home. They clean up. Stop buying them food.
Boyfriends are limited to a certain number of days/evenings per week. Why aren't they going out and why aren't they all out working full time?
have a mandatory 1 evening per week where they must all go out so you get one quiet evening.

Shmodipshit · 13/08/2026 14:43

Tell them this. Tell them you need some peace so no friends or boyfriends round for X nights. Why are adults so afraid to just bloody parent these days.

And tell them to get back in the kitchen and clean up.