So fed up of everyone being off school and uni.

Same here. They all come here because they like the fact it’s relaxed but after a long day I need the silence.

Don't have an endless supply of food. If there is nothing to eat they will go out.

Sympathy here.

My poor DH is very unwell and it’s awful but here’s here ALL of the time and it’s been very stifling.

I don’t think it’s a parenting issue either - you want them to feel comfortable at home which is totally understandable

"Also why can’t people now just have toast, cereal or a bloody sandwich? Someone is always making a yogurt bowl or overnight oats. They make complicated salads and one basic meal turns into a whole kitchen of chaos"

I'm sympathise. With two young adults dds that was me last summer. The kitchen was never clear as there was no defined breakfast and lunch and one bowl or plate used for each. The eldest has left home now so it's got a bit better.

Of course, I am sure you are proud that they can put healthy food together and they like to chat to you, but you'll still be proud when they are doing it in a space other than yours 😄

It's awful, isn't it? I missed mine so much, I didn't like to look in their bedrooms! You know you've raised independentl adults, but it's bittersweet.

Wish my daughter was home. She came back last week after Swedish comicon but went back after a week to her house. Can’t actually see her coming home till Christmas now 🥲

Ha! I hear you. My youngest left school (bar his 3 exams) on 2 April! College FINALLY starts on 24 August. His brother has been home since he had to vacate halls at the end of May. Not even sure when Uni is back! Another month or so? Bring it on

Book the hotel. Have a bath. Enjoy the aircon. Eat some fancy bits and enjoy the quiet.

Totally hear you!! I long to have the house to myself. But I also know I'll miss DD like crazy when she's back at uni. Just like I quite look forward to weekends when DS is at his Dad's, but then start fretting and missing him by 10pm on Friday 😅

No I enjoy having my house to myself I like seeing them all for a few hours but glad to get a big of peace

There’s a lot to be positive about here, but I get it. If I were you I’d let them know how you feel and get a weekly night to yourself or make your bedroom an off- limits haven for when you need peace. No knocking at the door allowed!

Yes! Faking her own death is not a bad idea. She could just change her name and deny that they are her offspring.

Better yet, OP should fake her own death - something to think about 🤭.

I love moderate responses .

Yes, that's the obvious solution.
As soon as you can, sell the house and buy a one bedroomed flat.
Better still, move away completely and don't given them a forwarding address.

My ds25 has been here all week because his Fiancée is away. I swear to God that boy can’t leave a single thing uneaten! He’s gets in from work. “Carbs up” and goes out for a run. Comes back and eats like King Henry. He admits he doesn’t eat this way at their house, but it’s “nicer” (aka free) here. He’s joining his fiancée tomorrow on hols. I’m not sorry!

Next time tell them not to come home as they are not welcome and you want to be on your own.

You’ll miss them when they’ve gone! I do get it though..😬

Tell them you need a few days without boyfriends coming over and put in boundaries that if they use the kitchen, they make it spotless afterwards. Allocate a room that they can't come in where you can read your book, watch a film, sew etc.

And yeah, book a night in a hotel for a bit of a break.

How many kids do you have?

And the fridge! Nothing is sacred!

Snap. I feel your pain. Uni holidays are looonnnggg! I love my DCs dearly but I’m ready for some peace, a cheaper food shop and a clean kitchen! Last night DS was making a fry up for supper at 11pm!!!!

Perhaps try being the grown up and telling them that boyfriends are limited to one night a week and that if they want to see them more, to go to the boyfriends house. And to clean up after themselves. Simple

It’s just you’ve lived on your own for too long, you’ve got used to it. This happens to divorced people too. It is normal to want your own time and maybe find a way to navigate this, is your bedroom a refuge with a tv and lots of fancy cushions? I would just say just be careful it doesn’t overtake your life that you forget to look for the positives in people wanting to see you. It is easy to become a grouch.

I am living this at the moment too. We’ve told dd aged 23 that her boyfriend can only stay over one night a week (she spends another night at his). Otherwise everyone just takes over and it doesn’t feel like I can relax anymore. If she wants to see him more than this (he’s allowed to come over, just not stay over) they need to be looking at getting their own place.

Do they not go to their BF/GF homes at all? Why are they always at yours! Say nicely that they can come at WE/ say and Wednesdays .However Thursday Mon and Tuesdays they are at their BF homes .That is fair .say you are tired from work when you get in