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To wonder what's happened to the NHS?

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Chefpig · 12/08/2026 22:36

I went for surgery this afternoon. Waited three hours in a waiting room because there were no beds available. Uncomfortable, especially with pain, but couldn't be helped.

I expressed a wish to the anaesthetist for GA after much trauma from a attempted and failed spinal anaesthetic in the past. Anaesthetist told me that a spinal would be much better for recovery and I should at least trust them and give it a go. Being brave and talked out of a GA, I gave it a go. It was horrific. I have a real issue with things being put where I can't see and it was painful, especially when the electric shocks (?) started on one of my legs. In tears, I asked for a GA. I was told it was very near to being ready and I agreed to keep going with the spinal but after the second electric shock and me in complete panic mode, I begged for a GA and the lovely, wonderful nurse who held me throughout was fierce with the anaesthetist and insisted she stop and give me a GA. That nurse was an absolute angel and held me throughout. I'm now in absolute agony with pain in my leg. Not my surgery site - that's fine!

Back on the ward in a single room, I was left for over two hours without being asked if I wanted drink and food. I eventually buzzed to ask. I had obs done on the recovery unit but not since I've been back in my room and its now five and a half hours after surgery and theres only been two brief visits to me as I buzzed to use the loo with assistance. I waited for painkillers for an hour (not nurses fault at all, she's so busy) and my own tablets haven't been taken care of despite someone earlier saying they'd let the senior nurse know about them.

My details whiteboard hasn't been filled out (dont know if that matters) and the blinds in my room have blinds missing so no doubt across the way has seen my knickers and bare boobs several times.

Staff are absolutely lovely on the ward. They're They're doing their best but I can tell they have very little to give. They need my bed more than I do for a bloody good rest! They're run ragged. AIBU to expect our NHS to invest in staff and their wellbeing so they can care for patients better?

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randomhealthquery · 13/08/2026 10:43

Ive unfortunately had to use the NHS a lot the last couple years and have seen a lot both good and bad.

I had surgery in June and genuinely the staff couldn't have been more amazing and I felt so looked after, but that surgery took a year to get to on an urgent list and the appointment to even get on the list was a year before that of waiting, again on an urgent list and eventually only sped up because my MP got involved.

I went to A&E the other day for the first time in at least 10 years and was genuinely in shock at the number of people there, especially people that I felt possibly didnt need to be but I imagine were there because they couldn't see a GP. Lots of people with infections and saying they couldn't see the GP.

The staff were working hard but you had 3 nurses for around 30 people (the nurse said exactly this to someone when he asked if he could just get his antibiotics and pain relief so he could go). When I was triaged I was told I needed an ECG because my heart rate and BP were so high and I explained that I believed this was because the level of pain I was in. I was told a canula would be placed for pain meds. At this point it took another 90 minutes before I was seen and then they put in a canula, did the ECG and took bloods. I asked about pain medication and was told I was on a list. The Doctor came to see me and she asked if I had pain meds, she popped back a while later and I still hadnt had any. After close to 4 hours and 2 prompts from the Doctor I was given a small dose of oramorph which honestly barely touched the pain. But I dont know what happened but I was left in pain so bad it was raising my heart rate and BP for hours, only to be given a liquid med that could have been done hours earlier. The canula wasnt needed at all. The whole thing was just odd and it seemed no one knew what they were meant to be doing and I spoke to 4 different people until someone I hadnt even seen eventually bought pain meds to me.

The NHS wait times are insane, in women's healthcare especially, some parts of the UK have waits of 4-6 years for surgeries that are urgently needed, ive heard some as much as 10. Just to see a gynaecologist or endometriosis specialist is 1-3 year waits and the women needing these appointments are in debilitating pain and their lives are literally on hold. I have barely left my home in 3 years because of the amount of pain, only to have a surgery to tell me I have an issue but it was too complex so now im on another waitlist to see someone else, to likely go on another surgery list.

lifeinthemidlands · 13/08/2026 10:33

Badbadbunny · 13/08/2026 09:44

@ExtraOnions

Try going to the USA, where being tens of thousands of pounds in medical debt is almost the norm.

The only alternative isn't the USA. Why don't you compare the NHS to the various different systems throughout Europe, or Canada, or Australia?? We need to look at Europe and adopt that kind of model.

I agree that we should be open to other models of funding and organisation used in Europe, but the UK spends less per capita on health than most other comparable European countries, so it certainly wouldn't reduce the cost. How much does the UK spend on health care compared to Europe? | The Health Foundation

EasternStandard · 13/08/2026 10:30

weetumshie · 13/08/2026 10:25

What happened to the NHS? That would be the Tories and Andrew Lansley’s ludicrous reorganisation in 2012. Just remember that in 2010, under a Labour govt and pre Cameron and Osborne’s austerity, satisfaction with the NHS was at an all time high. Join those dots and you’ll see the very obvious answer.

Labour have to deliver now though, not rely on the last time they were in power.

SweatySpider321 · 13/08/2026 10:26

EmeraldRoulette · 12/08/2026 22:41

I'm so sorry you've had such a horrible experience

It's been terrible for ages

I've heard of a few people who've had procedures when people have tried to talk them out of having a GA. I'm sorry to report it hasn't gone well for them.

they've got a long list of reasons why they would rather you didn't have one but it's not linked up to the general decline of the NHS I don't think. But put the two things together and it's just awful.

Wish you a speedy recovery Flowers

I’m meant to be having some procedures and they tried to make me not have general anaesthetic. There was plenty of manipulation, pressure and gas lighting of me by the hospital. I put my foot down, went to PALS and made a formal complaint. Guidelines state very clearly anaesthetic especially in my set of circumstance. I have little sympathy for the staff in this situation due to their bare faced lies and acting like l was “going on”. Their stance most likely is due to penny pinching and laziness as general is more expensive and time consuming but that’s not my problem and l don’t care

In answer to the original question the NHS hadn’t been funded properly for years. Plus we have an ageing population who are often not in great health, compounded by poor diets and not enough exercise

weetumshie · 13/08/2026 10:25

What happened to the NHS? That would be the Tories and Andrew Lansley’s ludicrous reorganisation in 2012. Just remember that in 2010, under a Labour govt and pre Cameron and Osborne’s austerity, satisfaction with the NHS was at an all time high. Join those dots and you’ll see the very obvious answer.

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 10:17

EasternStandard · 13/08/2026 10:14

I think the issue would be who would be exempt and would that be so high many wouldn’t be paying £10

Precisely, it would be the same as exemption from prescription charges - 89% are free of charge. It would save a lot of hassle - and probably money - to make them completely free like Scotland, Wales and N Ireland.

EasternStandard · 13/08/2026 10:14

IronEverything · 13/08/2026 09:59

Completely agree. I think even a charge for GP appointments of less than £10 would drastically reduce the amount of no shows.

I think the issue would be who would be exempt and would that be so high many wouldn’t be paying £10

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 10:12

Sausagenbacon · 13/08/2026 07:33

And, as a previous poster said, the NHS are saddled with ruinous PPI contracts. Put in place by Blair's government.

You think we shouldn’t have had new hospitals then? The principle was fine, the execution was appalling because the NHS didn’t employ experienced contract negotiators and had shit lawyers so the private providers ran rings round them. Presumably you’d also be wailing if that government had borrowed to pay for them?

Agrumpyknitter · 13/08/2026 10:09

The NHS has been seriously underfunded for years under the Conservatives. But also I think we should be focusing more on prevention. Giving people access to knowledge about nutrition, more awareness of their health stats and what to do to live a life free from chronic illness as long as they are able. Yes, poverty is a huge issue for many with access to nutritious food so should be tackled alongside. Complications arising from type 2 Diabetes costs the NHS millions and they are trying to educate people on the disease once they have it but would be better to prevent it as long as possible.

SomeoneIsWrongOnTheInternet · 13/08/2026 10:06

KatiePricesKnickers · 13/08/2026 09:52

Everyone trots out the USA as being the only alternative.

I think that the NHS should charge per appointment to keep the time wasters away.
£50 ought to do it.

Because this is Britain and our politicians copy the Americans at every possible turn. They love the place. It gives them the chance to turn us back into a full oligarchic state again - the empire government called itself not only a democracy but referred to ‘the mother of all parliaments’, a total lie - make more and more money for the rich, and slowly ditch all pretence of democracy and caring about people. We will not be given the choice.

Otherwise they’d be training up locals instead of hiring cheap foreigners.

Todolisttoolong · 13/08/2026 10:02

KatiePricesKnickers · 13/08/2026 09:52

Everyone trots out the USA as being the only alternative.

I think that the NHS should charge per appointment to keep the time wasters away.
£50 ought to do it.

£50 would make it unaffordable to many who would put off healthcare until they present with more progressed illness at A&E and end up costing more.

PearsOrApple · 13/08/2026 10:01

The quality of care in the mayo clinic for example in the USA vastly surpasses our mediocre NHS

IronEverything · 13/08/2026 09:59

KatiePricesKnickers · 13/08/2026 09:52

Everyone trots out the USA as being the only alternative.

I think that the NHS should charge per appointment to keep the time wasters away.
£50 ought to do it.

Completely agree. I think even a charge for GP appointments of less than £10 would drastically reduce the amount of no shows.

KatiePricesKnickers · 13/08/2026 09:52

Badbadbunny · 13/08/2026 09:44

@ExtraOnions

Try going to the USA, where being tens of thousands of pounds in medical debt is almost the norm.

The only alternative isn't the USA. Why don't you compare the NHS to the various different systems throughout Europe, or Canada, or Australia?? We need to look at Europe and adopt that kind of model.

Everyone trots out the USA as being the only alternative.

I think that the NHS should charge per appointment to keep the time wasters away.
£50 ought to do it.

IronEverything · 13/08/2026 09:50

PearsOrApple · 13/08/2026 09:13

It's always been crap..envy of the world my arse. Social insurance models are the way to go. Real funding has increased since 2010

Agree. I hope Reform get in and overhaul it completely. It's a pile of crap.

HydenSeek · 13/08/2026 09:50

Corianda · 13/08/2026 08:28

So pop has gone up by approaching a half - has there been a 50 % increase in the number of hospitals across the land, No. a 50 % increase in the number of doctors and nurses no but they’ve probably gone up a bit.
But overcrowded A/Es across the land demonstrate an acute shortage due to increased population

Edited

Agreed, although It's not just the older generations, I'm a Paeds nurse and the improvement in NICU care has massively shifted our role and what we see come through.

The concept of specialist neonatal doctors didn't come around until the 1960s, and at that point, any baby born prior to 28 weeks gestation was unlikely to survive, now the age of viability has changed so much we offer 'active interventions' to babies born as early as 22/23 weeks. That's obviously amazing for those families, but does mean there's a huge increase in babies getting NICU care. Typically they are expected to stay until somewhere near their due date, so you're potentially looking at 18 weeks of (very expensive) intensive care, potentially with multiple surgeries. Large numbers of this cohort as well will suffer neurological or other physical impairment as a result of their preterm birth, meaning they may go home on oxygen, or go on to have tracheostomies, feeding tubes, stomas, catheters, they may require enhanced ongoing care for life, meaning community nurses, additional hospital appointments through childhood, and then into adulthood as well.

Even outside of preterm births, we can do so much to help children born with genetic/other conditions at birth that they too will require lifelong care - I've looked after families who have 5+ children, all with the same/similar conditions and complex needs.

I'm not saying we shouldn't treat these children, it's not my place to play God, but not only is the population growing faster than the rate of healthcare, there is an increasing percentage of the population who will require significant healthcare support. I work in a specialist area and to be blunt, the majority of children I see and care for wouldn't have still been here 50/60 years ago as the technology/knowledge didn't exist to save them 🤷🏼‍♀️

BCBird · 13/08/2026 09:45

Mental.health crisis is expanding yet i understand there is a recruitment freeze, so newly qualified mental.health nurses, are struggling to find employment. These are people who given funding to train. It doesn't make sense

Badbadbunny · 13/08/2026 09:44

@ExtraOnions

Try going to the USA, where being tens of thousands of pounds in medical debt is almost the norm.

The only alternative isn't the USA. Why don't you compare the NHS to the various different systems throughout Europe, or Canada, or Australia?? We need to look at Europe and adopt that kind of model.

Badbadbunny · 13/08/2026 09:39

givemesteel · 13/08/2026 08:19

Since labour have been in power we've had an up tick in junior doctor strikes, pay rises with no expectation of better performance.

The BMA needs disbanding, there needs to be a huge increase in medical school places and nursing places to British students only, with a lock in policy of having to then work a certain number of years for the NHS (or repay your training fees).

Private healthcare should be tax deductible, thereby easing pressure on the NHS.

Appointments should be prebooked with a bank card, if you fail to show up you get charged.

More temporary care homes to plug the social care gap and get people out of beds when they no longer need care.

Agree on all those points!

EasternStandard · 13/08/2026 09:35

Havanananana · 13/08/2026 09:13

PPP and PPI were the brainchild of John Major's Conservative government, with the first contracts being signed in 1991. When Labour and Blair came to power in 1995 they inherited the contracts signed by Major which would have cost more in penalties to cancel than it cost to continue the projects.

These contracts are not financed through loans - that's the whole point of them. Private businesses build the facilities and charge the government for their use. The issues arise when people realise that although the use of PPI results in a short-term saving, in the long term these contracts are hugely expensive as the providers have proven to be far better at negotiating than the government and the civil servants.

Blair and Brown expanded the use of PFI.

Blair's government significantly expanded the use of the Private Finance Initiative (PFI), scaling it up from a relatively minor policy introduced by John Major’s Conservative government into a major mechanism for funding public infrastructure.

PearsOrApple · 13/08/2026 09:30

Real funding in 2024 was higher than in 2010. The NHS is just a crappy way of delivering healthcare. I like what they do in most of the other world.

JustTryingToBeMe · 13/08/2026 09:30

LakieLady · 13/08/2026 09:20

Where I live, the hospitals, both NHS and private, seem to be staffed with those from the four corners of the world. God knows what it would be like if they weren't here. During my last stay in hospital, I was looked after by people from practically every continent. My surgeon was Indian and the anaesthetist from New Zealand, my favourite nurse was from Zimbabwe and another was from SA. The theatre nurse was Austrian.

A Filippino friend is a nurse at a large general hospital in Kent. There are so many Filippino staff there that they call it "Little Manila".

I’ve seen and also heard about this too. I simply don’t understand how we can have such high unemployment levels but are so dependent on the wonderful people who come from abroad both in the NHS and in the care communities. It’s madness.

Zonder · 13/08/2026 09:21

PearsOrApple · 13/08/2026 09:13

It's always been crap..envy of the world my arse. Social insurance models are the way to go. Real funding has increased since 2010

It has not and I am sure you know that. Real time funding was higher before and after the 14 years of Tory.

Sadcafe · 13/08/2026 09:21

I worked in the NHS for 35 years, DW still does , now in her 43rd year. What’s gone wrong, well from the perspective of people who were/ are frontline staff and it’s our opinion and won’t be shared by many,too many people who now don’t do frontline work compared to years ago, team managers and band 6 nurses who rarely actually see patients, a worrying trend where people are allocated to a specific nurse, which should work well, but no one else seems to have a clue what’s happening with them, over reliance on the information stored on the iPad/ computer without knowing the person, target chasing, dare I say it, nursing degrees which seem to have conspired to remove the empathic, non judgemental, non condoning mantra we learnt in the early 80s. Could go on and on and sadly have experienced much of this first hand witnessing the care given to my late mum when she was in hospital

LakieLady · 13/08/2026 09:20

Zonder · 12/08/2026 23:17

The influx from the four corners of the world is the main reason the NHS hasn't collapsed altogether. Consistent underfunding has screwed it over.

Where I live, the hospitals, both NHS and private, seem to be staffed with those from the four corners of the world. God knows what it would be like if they weren't here. During my last stay in hospital, I was looked after by people from practically every continent. My surgeon was Indian and the anaesthetist from New Zealand, my favourite nurse was from Zimbabwe and another was from SA. The theatre nurse was Austrian.

A Filippino friend is a nurse at a large general hospital in Kent. There are so many Filippino staff there that they call it "Little Manila".