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To wonder what's happened to the NHS?

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Chefpig · 12/08/2026 22:36

I went for surgery this afternoon. Waited three hours in a waiting room because there were no beds available. Uncomfortable, especially with pain, but couldn't be helped.

I expressed a wish to the anaesthetist for GA after much trauma from a attempted and failed spinal anaesthetic in the past. Anaesthetist told me that a spinal would be much better for recovery and I should at least trust them and give it a go. Being brave and talked out of a GA, I gave it a go. It was horrific. I have a real issue with things being put where I can't see and it was painful, especially when the electric shocks (?) started on one of my legs. In tears, I asked for a GA. I was told it was very near to being ready and I agreed to keep going with the spinal but after the second electric shock and me in complete panic mode, I begged for a GA and the lovely, wonderful nurse who held me throughout was fierce with the anaesthetist and insisted she stop and give me a GA. That nurse was an absolute angel and held me throughout. I'm now in absolute agony with pain in my leg. Not my surgery site - that's fine!

Back on the ward in a single room, I was left for over two hours without being asked if I wanted drink and food. I eventually buzzed to ask. I had obs done on the recovery unit but not since I've been back in my room and its now five and a half hours after surgery and theres only been two brief visits to me as I buzzed to use the loo with assistance. I waited for painkillers for an hour (not nurses fault at all, she's so busy) and my own tablets haven't been taken care of despite someone earlier saying they'd let the senior nurse know about them.

My details whiteboard hasn't been filled out (dont know if that matters) and the blinds in my room have blinds missing so no doubt across the way has seen my knickers and bare boobs several times.

Staff are absolutely lovely on the ward. They're They're doing their best but I can tell they have very little to give. They need my bed more than I do for a bloody good rest! They're run ragged. AIBU to expect our NHS to invest in staff and their wellbeing so they can care for patients better?

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LancashireButterPie · 13/08/2026 22:20

37 years as a senior clinician, I had to quit as the stress was literally killing me and I ended up being very unwell with cardiac issues. I was being managed by a 24 year old who was allegedly qualified as a HCP but didn't even know what MND was and had no clue about triaging.
Another manager was off sick for months then would come back for a couple of months and go off again. He was completely taking the piss.
Forever piling more on more on clinicians so that they can complete their masters modules and be seen to have "changed things".

SomeoneIsWrongOnTheInternet · 13/08/2026 22:11

From the website link provided:

”Is Funding Today The Same As The Original Bursary?
No, the new funding model pays less to Students than the one that was scrapped in 2015.”
It isn’t even half of the annual tuition fee.

Ipsevenenabibas · 13/08/2026 22:00

Todolisttoolong · 12/08/2026 23:47

The NHS is not under funded - it is very badly run. Huge amounts of money is wasted. It is not just middle managers either - if they weren’t there then front line staff would be taken away from patient care. I think a lot is the fall out from the way it was set up with the inducements needed to bring private practitioners on board. The import of foreign staff rather than training Uk staff (and employing Uk trained staff) is also a huge issue. Last year nearly half of UK trained newly qualified doctors were left unemployed. Hundreds of Nigerian nurses were recently found to have fraudulent qualifications and they won’t be the only ones. Plus there is the very commonly reported issue with poorly spoken English.

As an example of the rot that is NHS senior management - just look at the way they ware determined to break the law on women’s right to safety, privacy and dignity.

I work in the NHS and second this.

TheyGrewUp · 13/08/2026 21:54

@Blossomtoes, there is an issue thought. Whilst I have no issue with nurses from abroad, I have a significant issue with indigenous British nurses launching into diatribes about how lucky Brits are to get free covid jabs and other free treatments, when the foreign staff worry about their families overseas and sending money for them to pay for treatments. It's unsolicited information and it's tone deaf. Why do nurses think people get free NHS services, we don't. There seems to be a tremendous attitude problem.

We pay for the NHS through taxation. Overseas nations have different health systems and different levels of taxation.

Nat6999 · 13/08/2026 21:42

This is why I insist on Choose & Book to my local private hospital, the care you get is five star, no waiting for meds or food, press your buzzer & it's like they were waiting outside the door for your call.

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 19:53

RosieHosie · 13/08/2026 19:46

What do the Philippines get out of it?

The nurses send money home to their families. It boosts the economy. £100 or $100 is worth far more there.

RosieHosie · 13/08/2026 19:46

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 17:58

They train nurses specifically for export in the Philippines.

What do the Philippines get out of it?

Dr13Hadley · 13/08/2026 19:39

CoffeeBotherer · 12/08/2026 22:56

Underfunded for the last 15 years. Plus too much emphasis on middle management rather than frontline staff. Brexit didn't help.

I know so many who work in NHS - they all have similar stories.

I agree though with our Trust the lower-middle management work their arses off and it’s the higher management who are never visible and just seem
to be sat in meetings, looking at figures and making extremely poor decisions on a hefty salary.

Frankiepankie · 13/08/2026 19:23

I see various comments on sustaining life in the elderly. Care is rationed for the elderly - it doesn’t matter how healthy or active they were prior to a health issue, treatment is often denied because of age. My dad, 35 years older than me can manage much more in a week than I can. People I shopped for during lockdown can manage more than me. I am now a complex patient following all the health issues stemming from a covid infection. I’ve learned that there are a ridiculous number of pointless appointments that seem to serve no purpose or that nothing is done for even when diagnosed. A recent example is it took five separate appointments to get a specific blood test - urgently specified by the doctor at the walk in centre.

Zonder · 13/08/2026 19:20

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 18:30

Pathetic because our population increased at a rate, whereby local public services and the NHS were stretched beyond belief? And also particularly applicable in certain cities whereby they got “more than their fair share” dumped into concentrated areas?

Wow!

Pathetic indeed.

You may believe that if you wish. Shame.

SourdoughSally · 13/08/2026 19:16

Many, many years of Conservative government.

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 19:15

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 19:09

It’s still a bursary. It’s exactly what it was before it was stopped, which was only for a year or so. It’s not intended to support dependents, it’s to compensate for student nurses’ inability to work.

Your mum was clearly receiving benefits as the bursary was never that high.

https://hansard.parliament.uk/commons/1998-07-07/debates/2b3ea85c-dfa4-4b13-99e4-521e840115ce/StudentBursaries

In the 1999–2000 period, the NHS bursary included dependants’ allowances, and the amount could increase according to the number and age of the dependants. This wasn’t simply a flat-rate payment for having children.
A 2000 House of Commons debate specifically records that nursing students could receive a dependants’ allowance of roughly £1,700–£3,000 per year, depending on the number and age of dependants. There was also a separate additional payment for single parents.
So, for example, a student nurse with several children could receive:

  • their basic NHS bursary
  • plus an allowance for their dependants
  • with the dependant element increasing according to the number/ages of children
  • and potentially a single-parent addition if applicable.

The above 👆 having benefited many nurses with children at the time, who did bring life experience into the role, and whom ended up contributing to years of work in the NHS,
some of them still working to this day. It enabled my own mother upward social mobility at the time and a rewarding, longstanding career. We simply don’t invest like that anymore, we just import.

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 19:13

I’ve just given you a link which proves you’re wrong. If your mum had £20k a year she was claiming benefits.

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 19:11

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 19:09

It’s still a bursary. It’s exactly what it was before it was stopped, which was only for a year or so. It’s not intended to support dependents, it’s to compensate for student nurses’ inability to work.

Your mum was clearly receiving benefits as the bursary was never that high.

https://hansard.parliament.uk/commons/1998-07-07/debates/2b3ea85c-dfa4-4b13-99e4-521e840115ce/StudentBursaries

She was never receiving benefits I can assure you. You got more on the bursary for dependents which encouraged her and many other women to retrain as it was financially viable. If you are a student nurse and you cannot work 5k is an insult. My mum also didn’t need to pay 9k a year for the privilege of training. You certainly will not convince me this country has done enough to train people in this country. 5k a year when you’re on a 40 hour placement for many weeks of the academic year, is a complete piss take and you will not convince me otherwise.

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 19:09

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 19:04

5k are you being serious? That is pathetic. My mum qualified as a nurse back in 1999, and with three dependents, received a bursary of around 18-20k each year. She also did NOT have to take a loan from student finance. I’m sorry but 5k can hardly be called a bursary. They really do earn that alone when on placement.

It’s still a bursary. It’s exactly what it was before it was stopped, which was only for a year or so. It’s not intended to support dependents, it’s to compensate for student nurses’ inability to work.

Your mum was clearly receiving benefits as the bursary was never that high.

https://hansard.parliament.uk/commons/1998-07-07/debates/2b3ea85c-dfa4-4b13-99e4-521e840115ce/StudentBursaries

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 19:05

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 18:51

The NHS nursing bursary has been restored.

5k a year? Lol. Hardly a bursary.

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 19:04

5k are you being serious? That is pathetic. My mum qualified as a nurse back in 1999, and with three dependents, received a bursary of around 18-20k each year. She also did NOT have to take a loan from student finance. I’m sorry but 5k can hardly be called a bursary. They really do earn that alone when on placement.

TheyGrewUp · 13/08/2026 18:59

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 18:51

The NHS nursing bursary has been restored.

Really?

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 18:51

The NHS nursing bursary has been restored.

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 18:46

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 18:39

The Trust I worked for 20 odd years ago absolutely did.

I’m sure. But not to the extent we now rely on foreign nurses. Removing the NHS bursary was disastrous for nurturing nurses of our own. It’s not pleasant or acceptable going to a British hospital and facing repeated language barriers when you’re vulnerable/in pain/elderly etc.

BIossomtoes · 13/08/2026 18:39

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 18:36

And then claiming “oh but the NHS wouldn’t survive without foreign workers”. I really beg to differ. They have not invested in home grown training pathways. They cannot be arsed to fund it.
What did we do before mass immigration? The NHS had its golden era. We didn’t need to import nurses from the Philippines.

The Trust I worked for 20 odd years ago absolutely did.

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 18:36

RosieHosie · 13/08/2026 17:40

And this, in itself, is wrong IMO. Letting the rest of the world pay to train medical staff then stealing them.

And then claiming “oh but the NHS wouldn’t survive without foreign workers”. I really beg to differ. They have not invested in home grown training pathways. They cannot be arsed to fund it.
What did we do before mass immigration? The NHS had its golden era. We didn’t need to import nurses from the Philippines.

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 18:34

HRTQueen · 13/08/2026 17:35

I know a number of MH nurses who qualified in the last five years who have moved to bank work as pay is often better and also gives them the freedom to move about easily

too many have be subjected to aggression and violence and have not been adequality protected due to not having enough more experienced staff around

even the pension is not such a good draw for NHS staff now as it once was

I do agree. Also, I know a few. They don’t feel like MH nurses, they feel like substance abuse nurses. Many of the individuals occupying inpatient beds are either people who have induced psychosis via ingesting large amounts of cocaine etc, or foreign men with incredibly severe trauma backgrounds.

Susan in the community is forgotten about, because she’s not a danger to the public. It’s a mess. Care in the community also has a lot to answer for.

TaleOfTwoHalves · 13/08/2026 18:30

Zonder · 13/08/2026 17:30

Yes. I guess that's why the comment got deleted, because it was pathetic.

Pathetic because our population increased at a rate, whereby local public services and the NHS were stretched beyond belief? And also particularly applicable in certain cities whereby they got “more than their fair share” dumped into concentrated areas?

Wow!

Pathetic indeed.