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To wonder what's happened to the NHS?

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Chefpig · 12/08/2026 22:36

I went for surgery this afternoon. Waited three hours in a waiting room because there were no beds available. Uncomfortable, especially with pain, but couldn't be helped.

I expressed a wish to the anaesthetist for GA after much trauma from a attempted and failed spinal anaesthetic in the past. Anaesthetist told me that a spinal would be much better for recovery and I should at least trust them and give it a go. Being brave and talked out of a GA, I gave it a go. It was horrific. I have a real issue with things being put where I can't see and it was painful, especially when the electric shocks (?) started on one of my legs. In tears, I asked for a GA. I was told it was very near to being ready and I agreed to keep going with the spinal but after the second electric shock and me in complete panic mode, I begged for a GA and the lovely, wonderful nurse who held me throughout was fierce with the anaesthetist and insisted she stop and give me a GA. That nurse was an absolute angel and held me throughout. I'm now in absolute agony with pain in my leg. Not my surgery site - that's fine!

Back on the ward in a single room, I was left for over two hours without being asked if I wanted drink and food. I eventually buzzed to ask. I had obs done on the recovery unit but not since I've been back in my room and its now five and a half hours after surgery and theres only been two brief visits to me as I buzzed to use the loo with assistance. I waited for painkillers for an hour (not nurses fault at all, she's so busy) and my own tablets haven't been taken care of despite someone earlier saying they'd let the senior nurse know about them.

My details whiteboard hasn't been filled out (dont know if that matters) and the blinds in my room have blinds missing so no doubt across the way has seen my knickers and bare boobs several times.

Staff are absolutely lovely on the ward. They're They're doing their best but I can tell they have very little to give. They need my bed more than I do for a bloody good rest! They're run ragged. AIBU to expect our NHS to invest in staff and their wellbeing so they can care for patients better?

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Fledgedup · 12/08/2026 22:54

I'm so.sorry. it sounds dreadful.
Wishing you a speedy recovery 💐

Backwardsbinn · 12/08/2026 22:51

hotmumshit · 12/08/2026 22:39

It's been routinely defended so that private companies can profit. We are now like America.

I have no doubt in my mind that Andy Burnham has sold it out further, for the good press headlines he is getting.

? What on earth are you talking about?

TaleOfTwoHalves · 12/08/2026 22:47

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EmeraldRoulette · 12/08/2026 22:41

I'm so sorry you've had such a horrible experience

It's been terrible for ages

I've heard of a few people who've had procedures when people have tried to talk them out of having a GA. I'm sorry to report it hasn't gone well for them.

they've got a long list of reasons why they would rather you didn't have one but it's not linked up to the general decline of the NHS I don't think. But put the two things together and it's just awful.

Wish you a speedy recovery Flowers

Thank you 😊

Apparently I've had a bad response to GA before now but it was the first time I was told about it. I wanted to get up and run away when she was doing that spinal.

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BigWig78 · 12/08/2026 22:44

It’s terrible and sad for the patients and staff alike. I could never return to ward work even though we weren’t as dire as that- I still knocked myself out every 12.5 hour
shift (and they were more often 13-13.5 hours) and still feeling like I’d never done “good enough” for the patients. I now work in the community/district and I reckon we can and do manage a great service that is personal centred and high quality.

EmeraldRoulette · 12/08/2026 22:41

I'm so sorry you've had such a horrible experience

It's been terrible for ages

I've heard of a few people who've had procedures when people have tried to talk them out of having a GA. I'm sorry to report it hasn't gone well for them.

they've got a long list of reasons why they would rather you didn't have one but it's not linked up to the general decline of the NHS I don't think. But put the two things together and it's just awful.

Wish you a speedy recovery Flowers

Chefpig · 12/08/2026 22:41

hotmumshit · 12/08/2026 22:39

It's been routinely defended so that private companies can profit. We are now like America.

I have no doubt in my mind that Andy Burnham has sold it out further, for the good press headlines he is getting.

Its bloody terrible isnt it? I feel massively for the staff. I'll think of them when I'm having a shit day at my relatively easy job.

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hotmumshit · 12/08/2026 22:39

It's been routinely defended so that private companies can profit. We are now like America.

I have no doubt in my mind that Andy Burnham has sold it out further, for the good press headlines he is getting.

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