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AIBU to be very, very pleased with myself for being Not Overweight for the first time ever?

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Elsvieta · 12/08/2026 22:25

Well, since very early childhood, anyway. Too early to remember.

Today was the day. Last pound gone that took me to BMI 24.9. Not Overweight. Normal Weight. I keep checking it again on the NHS calculator, just to see it. (Had been about 12.5 stone, BMI 32, from mid teens to now, age 48).

Went about my business at work all day, being Not Fat. Felt like strangers should be noticing, and be impressed. Watched the eclipse, thinking "This is great, and also happening while I am Not Fat". I think for the rest of my days I will associate eclipses with being Not Fat. My first-ever Not-Fat memory.

Does it ever become just normal?

Still look a bit fat, though. Too much stomach, too much upper arm. I think another half a stone and I'll feel OK about how I look.

Life has been on hold, in many ways, since I was about 12. The things I'll do... when I'm Not Fat. I thought I would be more confident. I am, in a way. The ways that relate to looks. But not in much else, really. That's been a bit of a shock.

Your brain changes its idea of what's normal in your body, somehow. I don't feel like I'm a whole 2.5 stone thinner. You just shift to getting pickier about what you're unhappy about. Some of the time. And then you go back to feeling ecstatic.

I wish WLI had been invented about 30 years ago. I could have had a whole other life.

People treat me better. This is very awesome and also very depressing. People should not be treated with more or less respect based on body mass. But I want to be the person people see me as now.

I have actually achieved some stuff in my life. But this feels like the best thing. This is also, if you stop to think about it, depressing. Whilst also making me very happy.

I'm sad that I will never know what it's like to be thin and young at the same time. There was a lot of youth wasted.

I might be able to go to the doctor now, if I need to. For the first time in several years. I might even not refuse (for the first time since age 20 or so) if they want to weigh me. Imagine it - no patronising lecture. (Or do they just find something else?).

It'll need to be Wegovy tablets for maintenance, I think. Does anyone know what dosage to start on, if you're coming off 15mg Mounjaro?

I feel like somebody should be throwing a party. I also do NOT want my body mentioning, by anybody, ever.

It's a weird thing.

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ithinkilikethislittlelife · 15/08/2026 19:59

Elsvieta · 14/08/2026 20:26

I haven't started on the tablets yet - jabs all the way, been on Mounjaro for 20 months, on 15mg for 15 of them I think. But definitely planning to go on the tablets for maintenance.

We buy a 5mg pen but only dose 2.5mg (30 clicks instead of 60) and have been maintaining since Jan x

Elsvieta · 14/08/2026 20:26

hobbledyhoy · 14/08/2026 09:39

@StickyProblemI’ve been considering the wegovyvtablets but was unsure as so many had said they weren’t sure how effective they were but your post has made me reconsider. Had you had jabs previously and moved to them or just started?

I haven't started on the tablets yet - jabs all the way, been on Mounjaro for 20 months, on 15mg for 15 of them I think. But definitely planning to go on the tablets for maintenance.

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TorroFerney · 14/08/2026 11:29

Whorulestheroost1 · 13/08/2026 12:41

Bravo you said it far better than I could articulate.

Agree, when people do the state the obvious stuff they arent doing it to the help the person they are doing it to give themselves a good feeling inside. We are all judgmental about stuff (I know on here people will say they never judge anything which is a lie) but we need the emotional intelligence to know that we can keep our thoughts to ourselves or have a think what the thought means and how we may address the part of us that thought comes from.

hobbledyhoy · 14/08/2026 11:05

@StickyProblemfantastic, thank you and very pleased it’s working so well for you!

StickyProblem · 14/08/2026 10:54

@hobbledyhoy I started with the tablets, haven’t been on anything else. The first three weeks they were amazing, no appetite, had to force down a chicken salad! I’m 6 weeks in now, still on lowest dose, not quite as suppressed as before but still sticking to the 1600 calories that Juniper gave me. I’m in my 50s, have 2.5 stone to lose and work out four times a week anyway, so my diet is stricter than if people can make bigger increases in their exercise levels.
I took no notice of them saying the tablets are less effective - it’s all individual. I need to be careful with hydration before a workout or I get nasty burps but generally it’s been fine, few side effects. I’m careful to do my protein, fibre, eat regularly etc.

hobbledyhoy · 14/08/2026 09:39

@StickyProblemI’ve been considering the wegovyvtablets but was unsure as so many had said they weren’t sure how effective they were but your post has made me reconsider. Had you had jabs previously and moved to them or just started?

Gresley · 13/08/2026 22:29

All the advice for successful weight loss on WLIs says that you should: eat more protein, drink more water, and do some resistance training. If you try to eat a bad diet on a WLI you will feel grotty anyway. My lifestyle has changed drastically for the better since I started on Mounjaro 5 weeks ago. Before that, I did manage to lose weight the 'right' way by eating a low-fat sub-1000 calorie diet for 3 months. God knows what that did to my muscle-mass! WLIs are wonderful and I think everyone should be given the chance to have them, but unfortunately quite often it's the people who need them most can't afford them, and GP prescriptions are hard to come by. I needed to lose weight after touching obesity and being told my cholesterol was so high I stood a 23 percent chance of having a stroke or heart attack in the next ten years. So I started on statins and Mounjaro. Should I have kept on trying to lose weight by 'going on a diet' every few weeks, giving up almost immediately, and then feeling terrible about myself and eating more to cheer myself up? I can pretty well guarantee that everyone who is taking a WLI has tried every diet in the book, healthy and otherwise, and probably exercised more, too. It's a shame the general attitude to WLIs is that it's cheating, and that I and the OP feel we have to keep it a secret, but congratulations to the OP! You earned your happiness today!

Viperregency · 13/08/2026 18:45

Congrats op! Your post made me smile too, you enjoy yourself, not being fat! All day, every day, for ever more! Get out there and live your life, all not being fat!

The drugs have been life changing for me. My health conditions like high blood pressure sleep apnea all resolved now. I eat a clean and healthy diet 90 odd percent of the time, work out a lot, and am on a low maintenance dose.

im on it is its critical I don’t regain, but I now no longer have to feel hungry, deprived, stressed about the scales, wondering if I can eat something, eating, it feeling guilty, all the shit associated with it,

now I simply est healthy meals, in recommended portion sizes, no snacking, work out most days and crack on.

MyDarlingRose · 13/08/2026 18:36

Iampondering · 13/08/2026 07:38

Well no because a T1 diabetic would be dead within the week. I couldn’t care less if people use / stay on WLI for 1 month or 100 years personally - but please don’t conflate it with insulin that literally keeps diabetics alive.

Obesity is an increasing risk factor for the 3 biggest NCDs in the UK - cancer, cardiovascular disease and diabetes. It kills.

CatsMagic · 13/08/2026 18:28

Elsvieta · 13/08/2026 17:21

5 ft 3. 12 stone 9 at my heaviest, 10 stone now. No, I don't know what's baffling either.

OK let me be clearer-

This is very obviously yet another tedious post designed to make women feel anxious about their weight and encouraging the idiocy around disordered eating which is so rife on here.

Elsvieta · 13/08/2026 17:24

ithinkilikethislittlelife · 13/08/2026 14:24

So what do you say when people notice you’ve lost weight? I’m 5ft 1 and was 12 1/2 stone and I’m now 8st 2 and Mounjaro was the medication that helped me. When people notice my weight loss I tell them how I did it. I’m curious as to what you say. Well done on your weight loss. It’s bloody marvellous isn’t it. My husband went from 20 stone to 12st 5. We are huge fans of MJ. We are no longer the tubby parents. Awesome 🤩

I just make vague noises about eating less and they leave it. I think I know very polite people! Only my mum directly asked if it was jabs. Don't think she believes the denial but she knows better than to push me. (She thinks everyone who touches the things will drop dead from pancreatitis, almost certainly. And HRT will inevitably lead to breast cancer, and so on. Best not to worry her).

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Elsvieta · 13/08/2026 17:21

Moreholidaysthanjudithchalmers · 13/08/2026 14:09

No not at all. Assume she’s around 5ft ish.

5 ft 3. 12 stone 9 at my heaviest, 10 stone now. No, I don't know what's baffling either.

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Moreholidaysthanjudithchalmers · 13/08/2026 15:40

Waitingfordoggo · 13/08/2026 15:12

Oh that’s interesting. My FIL has Type 2 and I could swear he takes insulin but maybe not.

He may do. First treatment is lifestyle change and metformin tablets. If levels stay high then ultimately yes may need insulin but it’s not first step.
Someone may successfully bring levels down to a pre diabetic level but Dr may still want them to stay on low dose for health reasons.

mixedpeel · 13/08/2026 15:24

@StickyProblem My metabolism is best suited for life on a desert island with only berries and the fish you kill for yourself. I can store fat (and muscle) out of anything. Sadly it’s not very aesthetic!

Can the “eat less move more” brigade fuck off please? Go and advise alcoholics to “just stick at the one drink”, that’s how useful your advice is. Be thankful you don’t struggle with your weight and prepare yourselves to no longer feel superior to others based on your genetic luck.

Totally agree with this. We still have a lot to learn about differences in metabolism/ endocrine stuff. Genes are responsible for the shape of my toes and the shape of my nose, so why can’t people accept they affect other aspects of my physiology too?

Waitingfordoggo · 13/08/2026 15:12

Moreholidaysthanjudithchalmers · 13/08/2026 14:15

Type 2 diabetics usually take metformin not insulin. My understanding is some people will come to be prescribed this longterm as it has other health benefits. The recommendation is to follow Gp advice not just stop treatment.

Oh that’s interesting. My FIL has Type 2 and I could swear he takes insulin but maybe not.

caringcarer · 13/08/2026 14:43

Fabulous news.

Moreholidaysthanjudithchalmers · 13/08/2026 14:39

I think contrary to what some people think taking a WLI doesn’t melt weight off and people losing weight steadily and they are visibly dieting/exercising.
It’s up to Op what she shares.

itsgettingweird · 13/08/2026 14:36

Well done.

and you deserve every once of pride in yourself that exudes from your OP.

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susiedaisy1912 · 13/08/2026 14:29

Well done op. It’s a fantastic feeling isn’t it. I’ve lost nearly 7 stones using WLI alongside diet changes and exercise and my health physically and mentally has improved significantly. I feel sad that my mum and grandmother didn’t have access to these medications as they struggled their entire adult lives with obesity. Give yourself a huge pat on the back and enjoy the benefits of no longer being overweight or obese.

Acommonreader · 13/08/2026 14:26

Joopy · 12/08/2026 23:19

No advice about injections, but well done! Rather than rely on injections would you consider focusing in a healthy diet?

How patronising and passive aggressive! . Please let the Op enjoy and celebrate her achievements without having to listen to your smugness.

Gingercatlover · 13/08/2026 14:26

Well done 👏

ithinkilikethislittlelife · 13/08/2026 14:24

Elsvieta · 13/08/2026 13:33

Haha... This thread is the celebration! Wouldn't want to draw attention to it in IRL, and not a soul knows I've been on WLI....just had to say something somewhere!

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So what do you say when people notice you’ve lost weight? I’m 5ft 1 and was 12 1/2 stone and I’m now 8st 2 and Mounjaro was the medication that helped me. When people notice my weight loss I tell them how I did it. I’m curious as to what you say. Well done on your weight loss. It’s bloody marvellous isn’t it. My husband went from 20 stone to 12st 5. We are huge fans of MJ. We are no longer the tubby parents. Awesome 🤩

Moreholidaysthanjudithchalmers · 13/08/2026 14:21

Trumptontown · 13/08/2026 11:17

Quite. I didn’t imagine the men shouting insults as they drove by when I was 17.5 stone.

A lovely lady in her 30s I chat to at Slimmingworld really shocked me about the type of abuse she gets. Fwiw we live in a ‘nice’ area. She always dresses fashionably and makeup done. She thinks it’s worse since WLI - she’s had a group of lads shouting at her from a van to take the jabs you fat pig 2 weeks ago. Says every night out she get comments. She can’t take the medication as she has a medical condition that prevents WLI being prescribed, she’s discussed at length with her real life gp.

Error404FucksNotFound · 13/08/2026 14:16

Well done. That is going to have so many health benefits

HeidiLite · 13/08/2026 14:16

Waitingfordoggo · 13/08/2026 13:49

Does this analogy work? Surely people who have reversed their Type 2 diabetes don’t continue to take insulin?

compare it with thyroid replacement hormone then, or blood pressure medicatino. My thyriod levels are normal right now, but they would not stay normal for too long if I stopped taking my thyroxine. Nobody has suggested I do that and just try harder.

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