To want to uninvite this man?

How old is he OP? I don't think you've said 🙄

@Roaring111111
Agreed, Why was Debbie McGee attracted to the millionaire Paul Daniels? 😂🤣

What bar? That women have been dating much older men for centuries?

Did you think you were the first one to be hit on by an old man?

You're like a dog with a bone. Is he the only man to hit on you in a long time?

Doesn't matter what Mick Jagger's wife saw in him, the point is, it does happen to many other people, not just him.

If you're not interested, you move on. He's been in your head for much longer than someone you supposedly aren't interested in.

You can not be serious 😂

They have known each other for 5 years and the OP had text him previously to invite him to her event. Is it really that creepy to send ONE random text about a film?? (The OP did not state that it was late at night, only that it was sent after a several drinks)

I interpret the wink emoji as being about his own 'joke' - it's a yes from me 😉' - like he's acknowledging his own slightly weak joke pretending to be an xfactor judge reviewing the film? I don't particularly interpret it as flirty, but I get why him texting at all feels a bit awkward/uncomfortable. I think that's probably as far as it needs to go though - I'm sure he's got the message you're not particularly interested in being friends or anything else. He'll probably be embarrassed and may swerve the drinks anyway. But, I wouldn't uninvite him as it's a group thing, I'd just act completely normal and not particularly engage with him and I'm sure that will be the end of it.

IMO I think you're coming over as being totally full of yourself. Before you even posted here you had made your mind up as to how you interpreted the txt.
The poor guy could've easily pressed the wrong emoji but you've decided he's flirting. If this was the case then surely he would have acted inappropriately on the walks ie trying to talk to you all the time, walking beside you etc.
Perhaps the guy has a daughter your age? How much do you know about him?
Give the guy a break, yours could have been the first number in his phone, he was feeling lonely, just looking for a chat. Have you never been having a drink, felt lonely and messaged someone?
Until you know his life story i would stop saying you feel he's testing the waters and has inappropriate feelings towards you!

Was his text in reply to your text to him inviting him - or had he already replied to that and this was a random text later?

Not any text. As OP said if it had been something she understood the context of, absolutely fine. But this is random, late at night, after drinking. Maybe he got pissed and decided he wants to start a film club and got himself mixed up that OP was interested in films, maybe that is possible. But OPs instinct tells her differently and his subsequent text would seem to back this up. If I sent a text like this to someone I hardly knew, I’d be absolutely mortified. That’s not to say op needs to overreact to it but she also doesn’t need to put up with any creepy nonsense should this be the case.

There is a lot of sexual harassment by men 65 plus to younger women apparently.

When Mick Jagger met his now wife, he was 71 and she was 27, so of course people can be interested for whatever reason.

It's not unheard of as you're at pains to make out.

People have said it happens and given examples, it's not so bizarre.

What's bizarre is you obsessing over a possible interest and demonising the man for what many men and women do.

You're not 15 and him 30.

It wasn’t out of the blue?! You messaged him directly and individually to invite him to drinks? Ie not via your group WhatsApp.

it might have been a come on from him, or a misguided attempt ti reach out and make a genuinely platonic connection. I think the fact you messaged him first about drinks does add context.

hiwever he meant it, I think you’re overreacting and being quite unkind. You’ve made clear you’re not interested, he hasn’t doubled down or pushed anything. I think telling you he’d had some drinks is at most an attempt to explain any poor judgement or misunderstanding on his part. He’s probably quite embarrassed.

I had a tricky time with an older widow in his 70s whom I met on a walking holiday when I was in my 40s. It turned out to be extremely uncomfortable - he ended up very upset at me for what he decided was me encouraging him to ‘fall in love’ with me by including him in something. He didn’t deal with my kindly delivered rejection to his advances well at all, becoming quite accusatory. I wish I had followed my own instincts earlier than I did and not offered friendship at all.

The whole thing left me feeling like I’d done something wrong but I really hadn’t. I also think you should listen to your instincts.

It is creepy to some but not to everyone as posts on here show.

Mostly, it's creepy when the younger person is barely out of teenage years, 30 is fully grown and able to make informed choices.

It's possible to reject someone's advances and still be cordial.

Life can also carry on as if nothing happened when the person realises it wasn't reciprocated.

You seem unwilling to wait and see, but set on painting him as a very bad man for daring to supposedly hit on a much younger woman.