Boring eater

100% agree. They assume it's a personality flaw as opposed to someone who has different interests.

You're right you don't owe anyone companionship. And vice versa.

If people eating the same food as you is important then that is completely your choice. I just wated to challenge some of your assumptions which seem to paint those with a restricted diet as being the problem as opposed to it being simply a compatibility issue.

People who love food can sometimes feel defensive or threatened by someone who is indifferent to it,

Because I don't owe anyone companionship. There are enough nice normal people out there that will eat different cuisines for me to be socially satisfied.

Yeah this is on my no no list. I can’t deal with picky eaters. I mean picky because picky not because of real issues.

its such a turn off.

BUT I can’t really do deep fried foods or very fatty foods anymore. Body likes to perform an exorcism on itself so i try to spare anyone the joy of me releasing those demons.

other than that im easy going and prefer to date men who are just as chill and willing to try new foods without much fuss.

id throw this one back. His lady is out there with an equally bland palette and you can free yourself up for adventure.

Because when you’re the one who makes dinner you either only eat what they eat or have to make extra meals and dishes. Either boring food or extra work.

Yeah, but that doesn't mean eating the same things all of the time.
Unless all you do is eat all day everyday I don't see how you can't have something in common with someone who likes different food to you?

But you know that's bullshit yeah? I have zero interest in food but I live a very exciting life and I'm always up for new experiences and opportunties. How I fuel my body is irrelevant.

What exciting new experiences have you had this year? Let's compare notes to test your theory!

Its very normal to prefer to be friends with people that enjoy doing similar things to you.

I've never brough sandwiches to a restaurant or someone's house. Again, you're going straight to worst case scenario.
But hey, if what someone eats is a friendship criteria for you then knock yourself out. I wouldn't be friends with someone who made such a big deal out of a very minor aspect of my personality.
Let's hope all of your relationships are with people who are perfect in every way so you don't ever have to adapt for anyone!

I think the wider issue is being anti-food, anti-novelty, anti-life.

I like food and I like men who like food. I spent a lifetime with a mum who only seemed to eat toast. Having a certain gusto for a wide variety of food appeals to me and I find it attractive.

Maybe it's a "me" issue but I've found plenty of people that are happy to eat a variety of foods with me. I've no need to adapt myself to someone that would need to bring sandwiches to a restaurant or a meal at a friend's house.

But that is a 'you' issue though. Why does ordering a takeaway for one person make a difference? Other than actually saving you money!

I don't understand why it would be 'really depressing'. The social element can still be there. We eat together as a family pretty much every night. Some nights we eat the same thing ( sometimes slightly adapted for me- for example a Sunday roast for me is extra veg and no meat) or DH and DS are eating the same and I've sorted myself out.
It seems like you're imagining it to be a much bigger deal than it actually is.

I think I'd find it really depressing to be in a couple but to still have to always cook or order takeaway like a single person. I also wouldn't be comfortable say going to a friend's curry night and bringing a partner that had to bring their own food. Even my DC are getting too old for me to feel comfortable doing that.

Lets order a Chinese / you know I don’t like it. Fine, you make what you want and I’ll order myself a chinese.

Lee and Sarah / well lets go and you enjoy a drink and some bread/ bring something cold that you will eat. Its not fair to expect them to do something special just for one and I don’t want to miss the couple time/ social.
Christmas Dinner / well we are going. Just eat some roast potatoes (or whatever) and don’t make a fuss. They know you don’t like most stuff so just eat what you can.

Basically, don’t live your life around the fuss.
Different if allergies of course.

Why not? Despite being the one with the restricted diet I do quite a bit of the cooking and have cooked a full roast when DH was the only one eating meat. He just uses the left overs for something else.

The only think I won't cook is fish but I have bought DH recipe books which are specifically for fish as he loves it. Now he will cook it for him and DS but it was never an issue cooking for one. Do you think single people don't cook?

DH is the same, only he'd never watch a cookery programme.

He bought me a Gordon Ramsey recipe book once and I pointed out that, given that he wouldn't eat all but one or 2 things in there it was a pointless present

He then said I could cook the meals just for me,but when am I going to do that? Not going to cook a leg of lamb for just me.!

If you eat what you want why is the experience "compromised" by someone eating something different?

Will never understand how any grown adult cares about what another one eats.

Hes been this way ALL the time you've been with him. Why did you stick around if it bugs you so much

The inherent reason for food is biological survival. Rich countries waste massive amounts of food and people eat more than they need. A basic need has been turned into excess and waste.

It can seep into other aspects of your life though. The enjoyment of holiday destinations where the food is part of the experience can be compromised for example. I wouldn’t like to date a grown man who only ate bland food because they have the palate of a two year old.

But that's your choice and it would be you that was missing out not me.
If spending time with me was more about watching me eat food than my actual company then we we're obviously not good friends.

I see. I understand that if you see it that way its going to be an issue.

To me, food is just food. You either like the taste or you dont. I dont give it any moral value or link it to personality traits etc.
If you want to put it in your mouth, put it in. If you dont, dont.

to me, food likes and dislikes are not in themselves anything important. You can go anywhere in the world and find bread to eat if thats all you want or like. It doesnt stop you from exploring the world or leaning new things and doesnt mean you are limited in other ways.

One of my children is very limited in food likes. He will order only chips, naan and poppadoms when we have an Indian takeaway. He also loves to learn about the world and wants to visit everywhere. He loves learning about languages and has taught himself many words in several.

My husband isnt a fussy eater but he doesnt give a shiney shite about food. He gets irritated by the interruption to his day caused by hunger and will just shove whatever is closest into his mouth until he'sno longer hungry and can get on with the rest of his day 🤣. That attitude doesnt translate to any other area of his life or form any part of his personality.

Sometimes it's literally just food, nothing deeper.