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Boring eater

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Curious77 · 12/08/2026 14:07

Am I unreasonable to hate that my partner is a boring and bland eater? It really pisses me off that a man in his 50s ( met 6yrs ago) avoids any foods he is not familiar with!
he watches all my food programmes with me and oohs and aahs at the food, but in reality, he would unlikely try any of it.
i find it incredibly frustrating, and to coin a phrase I hate but seems perfectly apt… it gives me the ick!
he thinks houmous is hippie food, and pate is posh!
why do I want to shake him? Is it me? Am I a snob?

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youalright · 12/08/2026 14:25

Yanbu i have an adult relative like this and its a pain in the arse if we're trying to book meals or have takeaways, Christmas dinner, bbq ect. I definitely couldn't live with her.

Scrubwren · 12/08/2026 14:19

I wouldn’t have got past the second date. Huge turn off.

It reminds me of some eighties ad for veggie burgers when this was a new concept, with a sort of desperate housewife chasing her dopey husband around the house as he looked terrified by the concept of non-meat burgers and kept bleating ‘But with me chips?’

Ditchable offence.

RampantIvy · 12/08/2026 14:19

Error404FucksNotFound · 12/08/2026 14:16

Why does it matter what he eats?
Does he demand you eat the same or make comments about what you are eating?

Im not being snarky BTW. It is something I genuinely cannot understand. Why does someone care what someone else chooses to eat if that person is not trying to make you eat the same thing or making comments about your food choices.

Its just food. Chew it, swallow it, get on with your day.

It would matter to me because I love all kinds of cuisines, especially Asian food. I would hate to be with someone who only eats at Wetherspoons.

Whichnamesfromthemag · 12/08/2026 14:18

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Naurrr · 12/08/2026 14:17

I wouldn't be attracted to someone like that. I love food, so having someone making the experience worse would be pointless.

What does he cook for you?

Error404FucksNotFound · 12/08/2026 14:16

Why does it matter what he eats?
Does he demand you eat the same or make comments about what you are eating?

Im not being snarky BTW. It is something I genuinely cannot understand. Why does someone care what someone else chooses to eat if that person is not trying to make you eat the same thing or making comments about your food choices.

Its just food. Chew it, swallow it, get on with your day.

StylesSluttyShorts · 12/08/2026 14:12

I couldn't date him.
Is there any give at all there?
If not, then enjoy interesting food with friends and don't make it a central part of your relationship if he's great in other ways.

SeriousTissues · 12/08/2026 14:10

My oh is v fussy. Eating out with his family is a nightmare cos they’ve all got food issues. I just ignore it.

Whichnamesfromthemag · 12/08/2026 14:08

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