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To find this rude?

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strawberryfandango · 10/08/2026 23:33

If someone has paid for a family members partner to attend a holiday, paid for their accommodation and activities - for this person to then say “I don’t want to go” a few days before. Is this rude?

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strawberryfandango · 10/08/2026 23:44

category12 · 10/08/2026 23:36

Yes.

Is any of it refundable/transferable?

Accommodation - non refundable as its per room rather than per person. (UK holiday park)

I think the activities can be cancelled with 24 hours notice for a full refund. But the whole booking will need to be cancelled and then rebooked for the remaining guests, as there isn’t the option to just cancel one person from the activity.

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Pistachiocake · 10/08/2026 23:42

Yes, unless there's a good reason. Eg family sick/job situation, or something's come to light that wasn't discussed, eg they're expected to share a room with someone they can't stand, and that wasn't explained before.

thistimelastweek · 10/08/2026 23:40

Sounds horribly rude.
But what was the upfront arrangement?

Ohthatsabitshit · 10/08/2026 23:37

If they were asked before it was booked then not just rude but outrageous. Ask them to pay for their share.

category12 · 10/08/2026 23:36

Yes.

Is any of it refundable/transferable?

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