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AIBU to feel unable to cope after my partner left?

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TheOpalFox · 10/08/2026 11:31

A week ago tomorrow my soulmate upped and left
I can’t cope :(
it’s the most worse pain in the world 💔💔💔

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PeachesSansCream · 11/08/2026 23:16

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ImaniMumsnet · 11/08/2026 20:11

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We're just bobbing on here to say that we're so sorry to hear you're going through this, OP.
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TrunkElliot · 11/08/2026 19:46

That's good. I hope they were able to help you.

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TheOpalFox · 11/08/2026 17:36

I have been to the gp today

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dontforgettofloss · 11/08/2026 15:36

I don’t think I’m allowed to quote a deleted post, but it was just unkind and unnecessary, some people on here just post things to wind other people up.

Are you aware that the OP has been posting daily? That the partner in question kept leaving her, and, when he finally left, gave as a reason that her anxiety was too much for him?

I think you should go and see your GP for help, OP. Or, if you can afford private therapy, start there.

dontforgettofloss · 11/08/2026 15:36

I don’t think I’m allowed to quote a deleted post, but it was just unkind and unnecessary, some people on here just post things to wind other people up.

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TheOpalFox · 11/08/2026 13:22

PollyBell · 11/08/2026 05:08

It's ok it will probably be said in the next one you create so you can catch up then

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No need to be like that. I have been suffering so bad

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TheOpalFox · 11/08/2026 13:13

Millytante · 11/08/2026 02:53

Don’t waste another thought on it. Nothing substantive, just something like ‘Don’t be so silly’. Honestly.
Hope you are doing ok. 💐

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No I can tell it was horrendous due to the replies :( what was said?

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Unblushingly · 11/08/2026 07:58

I will say it again — you would be far better off swapping ‘soulmate’ for ‘person with whom I used to be in a not particularly stable relationship that ended’.

AmnesiacsDream · 11/08/2026 07:55

It hurts like hell Opal, their is grief and betrayal to process.* *But you will survive. Make it hurt for as short a time as possible by giving yourself some grace, connecting with friends as much as you can, and getting out and doing things. If it feels overwhelming, put a bit of time aside to let yourself think about it and then move on to something else. If you're still struggling, see your GP to get soemthing to help you manage for a short while.

PollyBell · 11/08/2026 05:08

TheOpalFox · 10/08/2026 22:27

What was said? Maybe I do need to read what was said 😤🥹😰

It's ok it will probably be said in the next one you create so you can catch up then

Millytante · 11/08/2026 02:53

TheOpalFox · 10/08/2026 22:26

What was said ?

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Don’t waste another thought on it. Nothing substantive, just something like ‘Don’t be so silly’. Honestly.
Hope you are doing ok. 💐

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TheOpalFox · 10/08/2026 22:27

What was said? Maybe I do need to read what was said 😤🥹😰

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TheOpalFox · 10/08/2026 22:26

dontforgettofloss · 10/08/2026 16:55

There’s no need for that, she’s obviously struggling, don’t kick someone when they’re down

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What was said ?

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NoCommentingFromNowOn · 10/08/2026 21:28

Millytante · 10/08/2026 17:05

Ah come on, that’s just sadism. You know how that will loom large in her mind now.

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I missed whatever was said and deleted, but I’m not sure OP ever reads any of the answers anyway 🤷‍♀️.

Millytante · 10/08/2026 17:05

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Ah come on, that’s just sadism. You know how that will loom large in her mind now.

dontforgettofloss · 10/08/2026 16:55

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There’s no need for that, she’s obviously struggling, don’t kick someone when they’re down

HelpMeGetThrough · 10/08/2026 16:23

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Uricon2 · 10/08/2026 16:10

I'm going to make one attempt to get through. @TheOpalFox there have been people in your sort of situation who have have support threads running for months, sometimes years, with 1000s of posts. Just posting the same thing over and over again achieves nothing, they can't be followed, there were people replying on your last but one thread (that you did reply to yourself a bit) but then you start another 2, for no reason, within a few hours.

Also, AIBU is not the place to ask for relationship support. Relationships is. Also, get some real life support and help.

Cherry8809 · 10/08/2026 15:48

Can’t possibly begin to imagine why he left…

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 10/08/2026 14:58

TheOpalFox · 10/08/2026 11:31

A week ago tomorrow my soulmate upped and left
I can’t cope :(
it’s the most worse pain in the world 💔💔💔

Why are you asking for our advice? You never reply so you obviously think it’s really shit advice, but why post again and again and again x100 if we give such shit advice?

DewDropsAndCobWebs · 10/08/2026 13:54

Stop posting, start living
Focus on getting back into the swing of your life before they were a part of it.
He wasn't your soul mate
You will be ok

SandwichSuperstar · 10/08/2026 13:52

EmeraldShamrock000 · 10/08/2026 13:26

Is he with someone else? What was the fall out about? He’s either meeting up with someone else or there was a big fall out?
Was it because you need a hysterectomy and he didn’t want to support you.

It was because he could no longer cope with her mental health issues.

Which is fair enough because not everyone is cut out for that.

BMW58 · 10/08/2026 13:31

FFS not ANOTHER daily wail 😡

PatNoodle · 10/08/2026 13:30

username2185 · 10/08/2026 13:22

I’m intrigued as to what the other posts are.

anyway, it’s hard, you’ll cry, you’ll be angry, but you will survive.

Here are just a few of them from the last few days. There are at least 4 more

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