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Husband of 12years got me crisps for my birthday present

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SamSam786R · 09/08/2026 22:50

My husband of 12 years thought it was acceptable to take our son to Asda and buy me 75p reduced price flowers and crisps and biscuits… he’s spent over £100 on trainers for himself this week so he’s not poor and he’s generous to his mum and brothers family’s, I’m just not worth more than a tenner apparently/ i actually feel sick just thinking about it. The whole gesture feels very ‘I don’t value you as a person’
im so tired of his shit, this is why I work like a dog full time, take abuse from my employer, stretch myself beyond limits to care for my kids and home because if I was a sahm I’d probably be on food rations so I must work and fend for myself, surely I’d be better off single if he can’t even fulfill basic needs of a wife???

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CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 09/08/2026 22:56

Tell him, ‘If I thought you’d be so lazy and thoughtless that you’d buy me crisps for my birthday I’d never have married you. It says everything about our relationship. Good luck finding someone else to put up with this shit.’

AbzMoz · 09/08/2026 22:56

That’s not even a gesture, it’s a farce.
Have you said ‘oh what hilarious banter you have, now where’s the proper gift?’
He can’t really think this is acceptable, surely? And teaching your son that this is what you get? Wow.

Gardenisablooming · 09/08/2026 22:55

My dh ruined my 40th birthday..
He was an exh before i was 41...

spokenorchid · 09/08/2026 22:55

At least you have crisps.

PashaMinaMio · 09/08/2026 22:54

I get the feeling this is going to be a catalyst for change.
Get your ducks in a row. Time to evaluate your relationship &’make some decisions or at the very least, plans!
Id be upset too. It’s total batshit what he’s dished out.

Joni234 · 09/08/2026 22:54

Sorry, Op. And happy birthday 💐
It's time to go.

Catza · 09/08/2026 22:53

You very much should be single.

Buffypaws · 09/08/2026 22:52

Definitely better off single. You’ll feel so free.